I heard this line in the promo of the movie "best exotic merigold hotel", & ofcourse I got interested in the movie, finally it got released to close by theatre. hubby is not interested in any movie, but since he had taken few days off, I was able to drag him to movie & it turned out to be fun experience, both of us immensely enjoyed the movie, it's small budget movie & not summer blockbuster but has great cast & storyline. its story about british retirees going to India & st
I have been guilty of this, in my younger years where I would listen to my parents, siblings criticisim about the way I do certain things in my life and ofcourse would label myself wrong labels like too lazy or not too pretty or whatever. Recently read wonderful story & realized how wrong that little voice in my head telling me wrong things about myself. I realized people will say things sometimes not meaning a thing or sometimes to get what they want from you. At the end of the day you are
I can't believe summer is here already & kido finished his freshman year of high school. he is doing quite well in high school thank God. he has turned into great young adult so far though even if he gets those devil horns on his head some days I have grown up enough to realise "this shall pass too lol" luckily with great dad those days are few & far in between. our school district has great system to keep parents informed & in loop which I feel has made huge difference in his acade
After four years of service as a Blog moderator I have decided to retire from Strokenet from my volunteer position. I have gained a lot of support and friendship during my last 6 years of post stroke journey. I was so thankful when I found this support group during my early dark days of post stroke journey. During that time great volunteers and mentors at SN held my hand and helped me navigate darkest alley of my post stroke life. I am forever thankful and indebted to those individuals. I can't
I am so happy Blogs are back. So here is my first blog for year 2017, its copy of post I posted in forum when blog was not available & I needed to blog.
Usually I like to blog about my life every now & then & love the support I get in the form of comments which always encouraged me to post more positives of my life. When I first came to this site in Nov 2004. I was hugely depressed. I never thought I would find joy in living again, & could never feel I belong here. I felt I w
After my stroke I was hugely depressed & never thought I will find joy in living again. I accidently found some of the things in my life by going through lot of agonizing painful days, so just wanted to list down some of things I learnt hard way which if helps someone trying it out will be great gift for me cause I know that will bring them joy back in life.
1. have routine in life very important to make sure you feel in control of your life. waking up at set time & doing certain thi
today heard this title line. Ït takes courage to believe best is yet to come"". Specially believing this when you are going through tough time. but looking back in my life I have become believer in that line. I wasted countless months and hours crying about how my stroke ruined my life & I have nothing to live for. had it not been my hubby's strength & our son I would have given up long time back. I am so thankful for them both.I didn't have any courage to believe something good will com
I am so saddened by recent elementary school shooting, there are so many factors here at play gun control, mental illness every thing. I don't understand why would any responsible parent will keep automatic weapon at home. mental illness I understand, I went through that feeling myself, but ofcourse in my state of despair only person I want to hurt was myself so in that regard antidepressant helped me look beyond my grief, and loving support of my family specially my soulmate my husband &
lately hubby is working late hours so got plenty of time to think & get my AHA moments dime a dozen. I love this wisdom. recent one I realized that sometimes its so easy to think how someone's life is so perfect based on image they project in movies or on facebook. I suddenly realised that when people project those images, you don't really know their reality It could be completely different than what they are projecting. I tend to compare my life to other people & get unhappy about some
I heard above line of Maya Angelou from oprah & loved it. post stroke I have tendency to look back at my life & regret mistakes I made in my life, well in my 40 plus years I have made some good & bad choices which created my destiny. So I feel solely responsible for my own life. yes I have done mistakes in my life. that's why when I heard Maya Angelou's line " when you know better, you do better". I feel that line very comforting & forgiving. I feel free of guilt & feel as lo
we will celebrating my 10th stroke anniversary & valentine day on Feb 8th. It has been long road, but I so want to tell that distraught Asha at the beginning of my post stroke journey that please don't be so hard on yourself things will get better. I am so thankful for having amazing hubby & young son & my whole family who rallied around me & helped me pick up pieces of my life. I am so thankful for my own impatient nature which helped me fuel do more things for myself & our
This year has brought in some new improvements in life & has increased my confidence in myself. Here at chandra residence I have my routine set but since our chatrooms were down it opened up afternoon 1 hour for me & I started using that time to make phone calls to make doctors appointment & solvebilling issues . I used to have huge trouble doing these things with just one hand & I would procastinate & it would become hubby's responsibility along with all his other responsibi
We just returned from our marvelous Hawaiian cruise. we visited 4 islands out of 8 islands & had fun spending time together. This cruise it was just three of us & it was our early 25th wedding anniversary vacation. Weather was perfect whole week & we loved visiting lovely beaches. Kido took surfing lessons & then off surfing whenever he got chance. I love cruises. It is always stress free vacation. you do excursions if you want to or just stay in ship & enjoy lot of activiti
I love reading Jean riva's blogs on different site, recently she wrote wonderful blog where quote of English author Neil Gaiman speaks volume to me, so here I quote it
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something. So that’s my wish f
We are back from our beautiful vacation. Vacation was quite fun, saw beautiful national park & beauty of nature this country has to offer. Though our vacation started on bad note first day of our vacation learnt sad news of my 59 year old uncle passing in India, though we could give comfort to each other by praying & knowing he is better place. Though on last day of our vacation learnt very bad news, recently married cousin of ours fell to his death from 18th floor of his apartment build
In my long post stroke journey, I realised I tend to be too hard on myself for not able to do things perfectly or doing simple unharmful mistakes. for example right after my stroke when I was still adjusting to my new way of life, and not seeing things which is right there on left side of the counter because I didn't scan the table, I used to be so hard on myself, chatter in my brain will not hesitate to tell me oh I m such a looser for messing up simple things in life, well as I am growing in w
at our household Febuary is month of extreme emotions. once we started celebrating my stroke anniversary as our valentine date, I look forward to my stroke anniversary & don't feel sad any more., hubby takes a day off & we enjoy our day together. I love going to NYC so this year we are going to NYC again & this year we are planning to visit 911 memorial & museum & reflection pool. For me 911 museum shows the strength and resilience of human spirit. it shows we are stronge
I love my husband dearly, due to strok his great assets came into my attention. he is fabulous caregiver & provider. kido & I are lucky to have him in our life, due to stoke I learnt his valuable strengths which were hidden under nonromantism. hubby is never into showing his love through flowery words. he shows his love through his actions, by being there for us any time we may need him, & ofcourse he is the one who enabled me post stroke to reach it to my highest potential. he was
sometimes stroke recovery is so slow that you don't notice minor improvements, but slowly I have started noticing minor changes in me which I am happy & thankful about so thought about writing. No one likes change in their life & learning new things given choice I was not interested. I know every time this board changed for upgrade or yahoo e-mail or microsoft office changed I would hate learning new things & will go back & use my old ancient way of using products I am so used to
I know I complain abut our son, there are times when he makes me very angry, but also there are times when he makes us very happy. Just few days ago we get letter from school saying please attend award ceremony since our son has been awarded some awards during his middle school graduation. I try to find from him but ofcourse he has no idea why & what awards he is getting. So finally yesterday when we attented award ceremony with other parents. all the kids were on stage & parents in audi
past weekend we celebrated our kido's 15th birthday. My baby is growing up so fast. he is turning into great young mature adult who makes his parents very proud. We were asking him what he wants for his birthday & he says I have everything I want, made me so happy & proud of him. I feel so blessed to have survived the stroke to be able to enjoy raising him well with my soulmate. can't believe in few years he will be off to college & only two of us will be left. I know how difficult l
can you believe summer is over already & school will be starting tomorrow. This summer kido went to India for couple of weeks alone to go on hiking trip with his cousins & had great time. while kido gone to India our nephew came here from India for higher studies so we were all busy getting him settled in this new country & new environment. he moved to apartment closer to his college since traveling from here was turning out expensive time & money wise. kido's school will start f
Whenever I talk with my old college friend here in US it always ends up with discussion on destiny & choice topic. Both of us are firm believer in our views. She is firm believer in destiny & me in choices, I strongly feel choices we make in our life creates your destiny & she like lot of Indian people and believes who believes in destiny & astrology. She thinks if it is bad phase in your life you will make wrong choices in life. I am firm believer in doing right things & g
as most of you know I am blessed with amazing family, who has great dad who provides his unconditional love to all of us & we also have very bright son who on most days is nicest, wise young man who does right things, but I find it sometime we have to push him hard or ask ton of questions before he will do things which is utmost important at this point in his life, so it just escapes me what is he really scared of, why is he not doing what is required of him to do, to be successful in life.
I am reading this great book dying to be me written by Anita Moorjani, it talks about what she learnt in her near death experience. she returned fully healed from cancer after her near death experience. It is quite interesting book, Some of the parts of it makes sense to me spiritually but thinking analytically it is hard to believe, but ofcourse I feel no harm in having that attitude nothing to loose but only gain with that mindset. one of her point which sticks out is with God nothing is impos
