Hope you all are having great mothers day with your kids, I feel so blessed to have amazing kido even being teenager woke me up with kiss & hug in the morning & man my day already started with wonderful note & feeling like queen mom. He was like what do you want or breakfast mom & I was floored. I am so happy & greatful to be able to be still here even after stroke & enjoy seeing him growing into such a wonderful young man. Ofcourse there are some days when he won't liste
Every time I think now I learnt my lesson, but still keep on resisting the life the way it unfolds. I am sure God must be pulling his hair and thinking to himself when will she learn. how many times he has to show me that whatever is happening in my life is for my benefit, so stop resisting & go with flow. its silly sometimes how some small inconvenience in my life will make me upset, though given time & with my nagging family members to make adjustment to my small inconvenience. & i
Prestroke I was not very organized person though I was very fast on my feet and brain so never had need to be organized. Post stroke realized being organized I spare myself lot of searching for keys or cell phone and unnecessary aggravation. My sisters family take pride in being organized and clean, which used to turn me off from organizing. Of course I love their clutter free home. Finally I bit bullet and started organizing few areas in our home like my plastic containers for food and our bat
Today Got another aha moment while watching super soul Sunday on tv. I know my love definition is conditioned by romance books and movies where lines like you complete me in Jerry McGuire movies and others make you wish oh I wish I had hubby who says those romantic things lol. Of course no one can complete me but myself so that is my new learning just like happiness everything is within me and I am enough and complete, should not depend on outside world to define or complete me
Asha
sometimes I feel my blog is my dear diary with who I talk to lol though I thrive on supporting comments I get from, well what do you know that is my love language I feel loved by words of affirmation, so no wonder I enjoy blogging so much since with positive comments I feel so loved lol. Recently read 5 love language by Gary chapman, great book learnt so much. ofcourse hubby & I both speak different love languages, but over the years learn to adjust accordingly so we never had trouble. After
sometimes stroke recovery is so slow that you don't notice minor improvements, but slowly I have started noticing minor changes in me which I am happy & thankful about so thought about writing. No one likes change in their life & learning new things given choice I was not interested. I know every time this board changed for upgrade or yahoo e-mail or microsoft office changed I would hate learning new things & will go back & use my old ancient way of using products I am so used to
I have been married to my hubby for 20+ years & we have gone through lot of ups & downs of life together,its surprise to me that even after 20+ years I am still learning something new about him every day, ofcourse makes me love him more deeply. There are some things about him I don't like but ofcourse no one is perfect even though when I would like to believe I am, but even I am not perfect lol. Anyway I know we make perfect team as parents for our child. I am bad cop who nags & micr
My Stroke anniversary is aproaching soon. it will be 9 years since day of my stroke. We have grown so much as a family in last 9 years. We celebrate my stroke anniversary as our valentine's day. since we started as our valentine's day I don't even dread it & look forward to my stroke anniversary. today after 9 years I can view stroke just as speed bump in my life's journey to slow me down, so that I don't forget to enjoy scenary along the way. I love the wisdom I acquired after going through
lately hubby is working late hours so got plenty of time to think & get my AHA moments dime a dozen. I love this wisdom. recent one I realized that sometimes its so easy to think how someone's life is so perfect based on image they project in movies or on facebook. I suddenly realised that when people project those images, you don't really know their reality It could be completely different than what they are projecting. I tend to compare my life to other people & get unhappy about some
I am following Jamie's footsteps in trying to come up with 10 things I like about myself. Since I have that negative person sitting in my head & telling me all the time how I am not good enough & all other lies. So I am going to give it a try, I am sure it will take me long time to come up with the list.
1. I am good mom & wife
2. I will do anything for our son and my family.
3. I am go getter person
4. I am spiritual person
5. I am very hard working person
6. I am very str
I love reading Jean riva's blogs on different site, recently she wrote wonderful blog where quote of English author Neil Gaiman speaks volume to me, so here I quote it
“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something. So that’s my wish f
Can't believe 2012 is coming to end time just flies by when you are having fun. I am so greatful for all this new lease on life after stroke greatful for all the wisdom and awareness about joy of life which I will never dare take for granted. So thank you stroke for making me person I am proud and happy of today. I hope and pray all of you have happy,healthy and prosperous new year
Asha
I am so saddened by recent elementary school shooting, there are so many factors here at play gun control, mental illness every thing. I don't understand why would any responsible parent will keep automatic weapon at home. mental illness I understand, I went through that feeling myself, but ofcourse in my state of despair only person I want to hurt was myself so in that regard antidepressant helped me look beyond my grief, and loving support of my family specially my soulmate my husband &
I have been guilty of this, in my younger years where I would listen to my parents, siblings criticisim about the way I do certain things in my life and ofcourse would label myself wrong labels like too lazy or not too pretty or whatever. Recently read wonderful story & realized how wrong that little voice in my head telling me wrong things about myself. I realized people will say things sometimes not meaning a thing or sometimes to get what they want from you. At the end of the day you are
I am reading this great book dying to be me written by Anita Moorjani, it talks about what she learnt in her near death experience. she returned fully healed from cancer after her near death experience. It is quite interesting book, Some of the parts of it makes sense to me spiritually but thinking analytically it is hard to believe, but ofcourse I feel no harm in having that attitude nothing to loose but only gain with that mindset. one of her point which sticks out is with God nothing is impos
can you believe summer is over already & school will be starting tomorrow. This summer kido went to India for couple of weeks alone to go on hiking trip with his cousins & had great time. while kido gone to India our nephew came here from India for higher studies so we were all busy getting him settled in this new country & new environment. he moved to apartment closer to his college since traveling from here was turning out expensive time & money wise. kido's school will start f
In my long post stroke journey, I realised I tend to be too hard on myself for not able to do things perfectly or doing simple unharmful mistakes. for example right after my stroke when I was still adjusting to my new way of life, and not seeing things which is right there on left side of the counter because I didn't scan the table, I used to be so hard on myself, chatter in my brain will not hesitate to tell me oh I m such a looser for messing up simple things in life, well as I am growing in w
After my stroke I was hugely depressed & never thought I will find joy in living again. I accidently found some of the things in my life by going through lot of agonizing painful days, so just wanted to list down some of things I learnt hard way which if helps someone trying it out will be great gift for me cause I know that will bring them joy back in life.
1. have routine in life very important to make sure you feel in control of your life. waking up at set time & doing certain thi
I can't believe summer is here already & kido finished his freshman year of high school. he is doing quite well in high school thank God. he has turned into great young adult so far though even if he gets those devil horns on his head some days I have grown up enough to realise "this shall pass too lol" luckily with great dad those days are few & far in between. our school district has great system to keep parents informed & in loop which I feel has made huge difference in his acade
last weekend chandra household was filled with lot of joy & gratitude. I am all into celebrating birthdays, for my birthday I start reminding my immediate family atleast week in advance, hubby & kido don't care about it as much, but since I care & make enough noise about, I make sure we celebrate their birthdays with our family, last weekend we celebrated hubby's birthday right after our grand niece's birthday. I also found out in nearby state park there was river front pooja was g
I heard this line in the promo of the movie "best exotic merigold hotel", & ofcourse I got interested in the movie, finally it got released to close by theatre. hubby is not interested in any movie, but since he had taken few days off, I was able to drag him to movie & it turned out to be fun experience, both of us immensely enjoyed the movie, it's small budget movie & not summer blockbuster but has great cast & storyline. its story about british retirees going to India & st
Yesterday in Oprah's master's class heard something very beutiful so wanted to write it down so that I can ponder on it on my difficult days which I know do come once a month lol. Oprah was talking about which I believe in completly, be responsible for amount of space you hold on earth. basically be responsible for your actions in life. her another word of wisdom was be the flow in life you can be either in flow or out of flow, when you are in the flow in life then life is so easy. flow in your
As many of you know I love reading spiritual books & that's why I love watching oprah's super soul sunday series which is TV program to make you think & inspire. It is very uplifting TV program. Last sunday she had spritual teacher & stroke survivor Raam Daas. There was documentary on Raam Daas which lot of us can identify with it. you can watch it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xqbRGzv3KMA . Raam Daas calls his stroke as fierce Grace of his Guru & today I can identify with t
I have to write in my blog again since I want to relive joy of our india vacation. This is my 3rd trip to India after my stroke. & as they say 3rd is the charm. I shiver thinking about my first trip I was huge mess at that time & hated getting pity of every one around me at that time. I just suffered fall right before our second trip & I was hugely in fog during that trip so did not enjoy much, but this time was exceptional. I didn't look or feel the poor me part like my first trip s
We are back from our world-wind vacation. We usually go to India every two years to meet our family members and keep tie alive for our kido who is born here, and does not understand he is loved by ton of family members. As he is growing old, he has his own reservations about going to India, he did not want to miss his friends & his sleepovers this vacation, but ofcourse he listens to his dad & agreed to come this time. We all had blast. I love meeting my in-laws & their family. Since
