We finally moved to another home, it was lateral move just moved few houses down the street in better location and next to my brothers family, so it has added advantage of being there for each other more so. initially when hubby was keen on moving to this place kido & I both were not so much on board. I understood his reasoning so went along with it. but in the beginning was not very happy with amount of work it created in packing cleaning boxing, ofcourse he did lion share of work * I did
guess what power of social media I connected with my girlfriends after 30 + years. I am so excited. Its fun to catch up on each others lives. I know I will be able to meet them in person soon. school friend of mine sending message on facebook for past two years & I finally saw it after two years, I don't know how I never saw it before, but now that I saw & we connected. It feels as if we never lost touch before. So I am happy camper again. we can share our joys & sorrows with each o
As you all by now know I m struggling with our upcoming move & change in our life while I am so well settled in our current home. I am so blessed that my negative ying is balanced by hubby's positive yang. I also like to start my day every day with sufi spiritual message. recently read this beautiful quote which ring so true so here I quote " when we look with a positive vision, we can embrace new scenes with sense of openness and adventure". I know this for fact when I look at our upcoming
I know I am big proponent of going with flow though I still struggle & resist the change at first. we had great stroke anniversary & valentine date together. enjoyed broadway show together. decided to go in public transportation instead of driving into city which relaxes hubby from driving in city which he is unfamiliar & easy access to bathrooms for me. So it was another successful adventure for us. Now I am back to moving part. I understand I should be excited about move, but in my
My 12th year stroke anniversary is coming up in two days. My nightmare of delivering premature baby & loosing her day later & then suffering stroke day later of that will be tomorrow. I have come so far from my those initial years when I thought I would never find joy in living again, & will never be happy again. Who would have imagined after being on this post stroke journey I strongly feel there are no accidents in life. I was meant to go through so much darkness so that today I en
I am going through yet another change in our life. It's not very big deal but I m realizing and learning new thing about myself and hubby. I don't embrace change in life very easily it does rattle me and make me nervous versus hubby handles change more gracefully than me. He views change as opportunity for growth versus I view as y rock the boat when all is well. Anyway I know at one level I see and get his viewpoints, and know all will be well after initial hiccups how all of you handles chang
As you guys are aware I love watching oprah's super soul sunday series & recently on it there was harvard research scientist talking about how researchers have found that happiness does not depend on your gene or your circumstances or environment. Its inside job & we do have control over it. Ofcourse after my stroke & going through my own grief valley I know that for fact, but it feels great to be reaffirmed by research behind it. researcher talked about how as we get older its so ea
now that I have lot of time on my hand to think about life & my husband. As we go through our own valleys & peaks of our life's journey together. I have realized he is best person to have around when things don't go according to plan, he has capacity to find light in darkest situation. he can see good in all situation & can stay strong. so during my stroke valley he was best person to hang out with. I depended so much on his strength till I found my own inner strength. its funny tha
going through my own suffering & reading others blogs sometime I wonder what's the purpose of suffering in life. Though after reading lot of books on that subject. I feel going through dark phase in your life does have tendency to wake one up & appreciate light around you. I know & have seen every one is different in handling lean period. It can make you either bitter or better person. I know when you find meaning in your suffering, life becomes so much richer. I know I loved victo
We are back from our amazing Italy vacation. I always wanted to visit Italy. We had gone to Europe right after my stroke but due to time constraint did not visit Italy & I always wanted to visit Italy, So after decade once kido gone off to college we decided to go to Italy just two of us. I am glad our son encouraged us to go alone & we did it, It felt like we were honeymooners rekindling our love. This trip turned out to be best for both of us everything went according to plan & be
two days ago I met hostkelli near my home. I love spending time with her. Its surprises me to see so many similarities in our life no wonder we get along so well. Both of us have very similar thinking towards life. while chatting she mentioned how she hated my initial positive outlook & telling her how her deficits is good thing. I was telling her by not remembering her past you can live in a present without baggage.
I realized after talking with her that I was becoming psycologist who
Its so unbelievable things I am learning so many new & great things about myself as I am getting older & wiser. few years ago kido was going through rough patch with his best friend & he was feeling very sad & lonely. Ofcourse he found another great set of friends though I was telling him about how I experienced same things when I was in college, I was so upset during that time period that my mom came to our college & requested class change for me, yes it was embarrassing but
I can't believe we are now empty Nester for few weeks & I am handling it pretty well. I guess stroke taught me valuable tools in life, and I m proud to be good learner. Routine is must to deal with change in your life. who would have thought I look forward to my laundry day & my exercise days lol. I knew this before too but just to feel I make a difference in our son's life I was micromanaging his education. So now that he is away in college & I can't micromanage he is thriving &
We dropped kido to his dorm room, everything went smoothly. ofcourse day earlier I was so mad at him being irresponsible about receipts and general things. & day later so proud of him being so responsible for doing all things right for his dorm room. Ofcourse made me feel so bad about blowing up on him day earlier. I guess thats how life is made up all moments some are great & some are not as much. hubby & kido both has this great idea of not coming home as much so that he grows up
as I have said it before, due to my own immigrant experiences I firmly believe that when you work harder you get lucky & prosper financially. I know we did, & as I have seen lot of immigrants here in our state prosper. So my view on people who are still struggling is they are not working hard or smart way. hubby completely disagrees with me, he was like lot of people work hard & still don't reach where some of us have reached. So there is luck involved there too. he is such a kind &
In life you go through so many ups & downs, but this trick of asking myself above question does bring down my stress level & allows me to look at whatever is bothering me square into its face & make right decision for peace of my mind. I guess life is never fun when you go through some pains here & there but asking those questions does bring peace of mind. I think second question to ask yourself will this matter in 5 years down the road. Though for the first question strategy I n
In my last blog George made this observation & comment which made me go wow so true. like nature we all have seasons in our life without that fall & winter, spring of rebirth & growth won't be possible to enjoy summer days with your loved ones. I so love that comparison & so grateful to be able to get this second chance at life & enjoy life with people I love the most.
Asha
I started this blog to just write about ordinary things about my life which makes life extraordinary. Though as I get thoughtful comments on my blogs, it has made my blog into my self discovery & growing up in wisdom. My stroke suddenly awakened me from my sleepwalking through life & made me question lot of things like who am I. I realized I was attaching lot of my self worth to what I did prestroke & money I made. looking deeply into it & thinking through it I want to blame my p
can't believe we celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary together. We have been through so many ups & downs of life together. I feel my stroke allowed me to see his spiritual side which made me realize how lucky I have been married to my soulmate. We do make perfect team together. I compensate for things he is weak in & vice versa. It took both of us 24 years and stroke to start enjoying each others interests. I hope & pray we both don't start looking like each other cause I know
recently in chatroom we were discussing things in general & I mentioned something about my husband/caregiver like how he refused to go for walk together since I was too slow in the beginning. some one said oh that is so supportive of your family. funny thing is I never viewed like that. his caregiving style always gave me enough space & do more for myself & family that today I feel confident enough in my abilities to be able to take care of whole family in case he choose to retire fi
who knew life will be so much joyful even after stroke, ofcourse I do have some accidents in between, but good days outweighs not so good days. recently we got birdfeeder for our deck. & every day while having my breakfast I see all kinds of birds coming to our feeder including beautful red northen cardinal. recently got swing for our deck too which has made me even more happy. I still remember how I thought I would never find joy in living again. but slowly learning valuable lessons about m
As I am getting older & going through my own life experiences learning valuable lessons of life which elders tell you but you never pay attention thinking oh what do they know. Well today understand better. While growing up in India in middle class family youngest of four children. We were not very rich people but our parents gave us enough. Every one played their role in life dad played role of breadwinner for family & mom raised us with very strict upbringing. l I always had hand me do
isn't boys suppose to be mom ma's boy, but mine has been since his birth his daddy's boy. i am jealous & happy at the same time. Any time I ask him to do something for his dad, he will do it without any argument, like celebrating dad's birthday I asked him to get cake & flowers done without any arguments on why it is not a good idea or anything lol. This fathers day asked him to send dad's special message on fathers day, and guess what check & done. now asking him to send equally bea
I love parties though I am not very good host but I can be amazing fun guest to be around. luckily for me my sister & sister in law are good hostess. & I enjoy those parties. in our family recently two relatives of our are diagnosed with lung cancer & both of them are dealing with great strength & wisdom. meeting them always inspires me. one of them was telling how she consoled her adult kids that atleast she got warning & time to tie all loose ends & say proper goodbyes.
my favorite thing to do on Sunday is to watch oprah's super soul Sunday. author gilbert of eat, pray & love said something very profound & I usually like to write down in my blog & share with my friends life we all go through pain & suffering. If we find meaning in it & learn from it then its not a waste its hero's journey. I think when pain comes in our life, instead of asking why me better question would be what is this pain is here to teach me. I think when we overcome
