I usually have a good attitude...usually. But I admit that when it goes sour some doctor or nurse has just been talking. None of us want to let go of our independence or think of ever not being able to do for ourselves.

As discouraging and depressing as it is they have to ask us these things just in the event we do need the help sometime. That we have a plan that we can live with. Another thing is that they only have books and charts and statistics to go on but can't measure the human Spirit or determination. Just keep it in mind that you don't let determination become stubbornness to your detriment.

Jamie

Doctors are not trained to understand or to support

independent, resourceful, hearty people like you.

Moreover, they don't meet many stroke survivors

who acclimate and prosper.

After hearing what your doctor said,

you were in a bad mood

because

#1 Your doctor ignored your reality.

#2 Your doctor doesn't believe in you.

#3 Your doctor insulted you.

In your place, I would look for a new Doctor --

but if that is not possible,

I expect you to continue

proving him wrong.

Boogie on,

Rachel

Yep, the only way to get this out of your mind is to go on proving him wrong.

Nice to see you on blogging again. Welcome back.

Sue.

I started making arrangements for Bruce's care, beyond me, at about three months post. I am all he has and if something happens to me, he can not live by himself.

While Doctor certainly could have presented this issue differently, take a step back and think about any contingency plans that you need to set up. Honey, this is no reflection on you or your recovery at all. It is a reminder that none of us are getting any younger. Actually, he may have felt you had made such great progress and established a wonderful life for yourself, that it might be time to take on a new project. One that involves you and your future security.

I know what you mean about living alone. I personally love being alone, not possible much these days. But I set up a trust for Bruce, in case anything happens to me he does not have to "fight" for the finances that are in fact truthfully his, bought cemetary plots, made all arrangements with Funeral parlor. Our Living Wills, POAs and wills are done. Beneficiaries on everything changed. This is just living and securing your future. You have spent the last seven years making a new life for yourself, one you are happy with and certainly proud of. This is just another step to insure your financial protection for the future. Think over what may come up in the future, what you need to set up ahead of time to protect yourself. Make sure everyone in your family understands exactly what you want.

I also purchased a very expensive new mattress, with a 20 year warranty. So you see, while it is tough to do, it must get done. And not all is negative. Once you are sure that your wants and needs are addressed, you put everything in a Fire-proof box and forget about it. Done and Done! Debbie

Thank you all for your very helpful insight. My best friend in North Carolina also suggested that whatever equipment that I may need in the future or not need for that matter, get it while I can. Who knows how our insurance might change. I thought that was an excellent point also. Anyway, much love to all of you.

Yep, the only way to get this out of your mind is to go on proving him wrong.

 

Nice to see you on blogging again. Welcome back.

 

Sue.

THANKS SUE

What a wondrerful lady you are Gladice. Grrr let me at your Dr.GRR GRR

Thanks for being there for me.