Asha, I think God made that conflict, otherwise kids would never want to go on their own, and we'd never want them to.   So maybe you are just right on track with son

It's hard for me just to make it to anything with Bob, I can't imagine traveling with him in today's world where you have to be at airports 2 hours before flight and get your body parts checked for bombs.    I know how hard it is to miss things like this, we've been in the situation too.    I wonder if there is anyone who could do one of those phone video calls.... I don't know how expensive that might be though.   

Asha,

You can be very thankful he has made it to this point in school while a few other kids especially boys are in alternative school or not thinking about college if they finished high school at all so maybe it wasn't meant for you to attend the wedding?? "Family comes first" You are so proud of your boys!

I applaud you young lady with all you have had to deal with and still raise your kids!

I remember when Garion, Laney and Logan went through that phase. It's one of the last parts of learning to let go as a parent and, I think, one of the hardest. Yes, you'll be relieved and happy when it is all said and done, but at the same time, you'll be saddened because if he goes away to college, he won't be in the house. And after college (those 4 years go so fast), he'll be out in the world and on his own. Just take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and take your cues from him. He'll ask for help when he needs it and he will love and respect you for letting him try to tackle this process on his own. All we, as parents, can do at this stage is keep the communication lines open, and learn to let them tell us what they need/want from us....kind of when they were babies and we had to guess what was making them upset/sick/hurt, etc. At least, at this stage of the game, they can verbalize what they need/want.

LOL I remember thinking if only I could get them all graduated and in college and then I can finally go to the salon and be at peace. Well then there was empty nest stuff that I didn't expect on those days that I wanted to quit being a parent,  there was plenty of college drama, there were grad school applications, there was a long list of other things to worry over and in fact I am still being driven crazy and worrying only now they say they are adults and so I should give it a rest. I wish I could. We hold their hands and then we are forever chasing after them it seems. Ok so it sounds like I am some over involved smother mother and I am not in reality just in my head. Right now I say if I they just get married and settle down but I know that will also bring on a list of stuffs but at least there could be some grandchildren involved which would be nice. And also more little people to worry over.