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Dressing up & heels


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OK, Vix started me on these thoughts of yearning. She shared about new shoes and not having to wear sneakers any longer. I could relate big time.

 

I want to get dressed up in dressy clothes again, pants that have a zipper and some sort of button or hook. I want to wear heels. I want to hear myself walking tap tap tap on a wood floor. I want the few inches heels temporarily give me.

Yes, I guess I am missing the part of my life that dressing up makes me feel good about myself. The feeling of power or the feeling that I am dressed for sucess. I used to like wearing certion outfits cause they made feel good, not to mention gave me false views of myself.

 

I too once had heels that were red with tall thin heels, had em in black too. I miss that part of my pre stroke life. This is one of the few things I actually yearn for, I actually truely miss. It took me a very long time to give away all my dress clothes I used for work, gave the shoes away too. I think pulling a fingernail off one at a time would have been less painful and easier to cope with. But it has taken me more then five minutes to write this, enough looking back. One day, I'll go to Macy's and buy real shoes and a real outfit.

Pam

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Sister Pam

 

i stopped wearing stiletto heels long before i stroked. i don't miss them, or my disco boots (4-inch stiletto heels in black faux patent leather ankle boots.) in fact, if i ever find those disco boots in my parents' basement, i am making them into planters. however, i do miss fitting into clothes that i no longer fit into....not wearing them, just fitting into tehm.

 

i have several Brooks Brothers professional suits that i am saving until i fit into them. then, i'll give them away, probably to the organization Dress for Success or Goodwill.

 

sandy giggle.gif

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Hi Girls,

 

Don misses wearing cowboy boots something awful. I sold two pair at a garage sale and his nephew bought one pair. Three years later when Don found out who bought them, he made such a fuss over me selling them, the newphew gave them back to Don last Christmas. I planted ivy in them and set them next to a roll top desk with his branding iron collection. He's as happy as can be to see the boots all the time and he even wants me to polish them from time to time. Jeez! Shoe people. biggrin.gif

 

Jean

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I still have two pairs of sexy high heels which I paid good money for many years ago I know they are in the trailer somewhere and if I c ould find them I would give them to my grandaughter cause they are in style now. Parting with some things is very hard , I still have the dress from my second son's wedding can't part with it either,no problem, will use it for my funeral. I hope by that time it will be moth eaten //// just a thought...These classic items never really go out of style if you keep them long enough...

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Pam, I read your comment to my blog and can tell you when I got home after rehab, I also sat in front of my shoes and sobbed my heart out. Then I tortured myself further by putting on the shoe on my good foot and looked in the mirror. That was a sad day. But I have to walk in nice shoes, I have 2 months till my wedding day and there is no way I am wearing trainers with my dress. NO WAY, so, I have 2 months to practise. Good luck for when you are confident enough to change shoes.

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I'm with Sandy about high heels. I gave them up in the mid 80s, over 10 years before my stroke. In the early nineties I developed arthiritis in my right knee and gave up short heels. Found I could buy flat, rubber soled shoes that actually looked dressy. Since my stroke, I need a shoe with laces. Without laces the shoes do not stay one. I did find a pair of Easy Spirits which are a cut above athletic shoes. But most of the time I wear New Balance. They give me the support I need.

 

I also gave up wearing skirts after my stroke. They are too much of a pain. I also have dress pants, which I wear if I need to dress up. But, that is actually rarely. People tend to be casual these days.

 

I do not miss getting dressed up at all. It's just another thing I don't do anymore. Really don't mind having a list of things I don't do anymore. Would probably have started a list as I got older anyway. The favorite thing which I have had to give up is mowing the lawn. Don't miss it a bit!

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me too, I wear flat, rubbery shoes (LOVE MY MERRILLS) but still keep my high heels in backof closet blush.gif , maybe I'll start with my cowboy boots that have some heel and practice and then move up to the higher, but do this in the house, where I can fall on my face in privacy biggrin2.gifuhm.gif

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