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Calm after the storm

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I am calm this morning, no ranting and raving happening here. PMS has passed and in its wake left a calm peaceful feeling. And even though I was ranting the other day, and said things I shouldn't, I don't regret it. I stand behind everything I said. I did have a period of feeling bad and almost, not quite apologized publically. But what stopped me from apologizing was the question kept pounding in my head...." Hold on, I appointed myself as the voice of the survivor around here. Why should I apologize because I took a different point of view from someone else?

Sure, I argued with myself, that at times disagreement is a good way to see things in a different way. But if I apologized wasn't I conceding that being politically correct is more important? That we have moved into the direction that things must be said in a lukewarm manner, it all must be whitewashed and correct. Well I personally disagreed with that. Yeah I know I can hear someone telling me that this is a big place here, we all have to get along and just cause I carry a big stick, doesn't mean I can use it. Damn. Well these are my thoughts this morning. I doubt they will be the cause of anyones gray hairs today.

So goes another spin in these Day's of My Life.

Pam

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Sister Pam

 

for me, it was not a question of being politically correct in your answer to helpless' thread. i am very often not quite politically correct myself. it was the degree of anger and pain that showed in one of your replies. this is not good for YOU. better to bury the body and move on.....

 

 

sandy giggle.gif

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jriva

 

Hi Pam,

 

After read Sandy's reply to your 'calm after the storm' blog I was going send my reply in a PM but decided that since you've done a public postmortem of the event, so will I. So here's my two cents. I totally agree with Sandy plus I've reread that newbie's posts over a dozen times and I still cannot find anything uncaring/cold/unconcerned in them---nothing that I felt deserved your angry reply. You know that I'm not just defending her to be politically correct because she's a caregiver. I have been known to challenge a couple of caregivers myself when I felt they were out of line. In this particular case, though, I truly think you projected your own hurt feelings into a situation that was no where like your own.

 

Anyway, the bottom line to this event is in Sandy's comment: "bury the bodies and move on...."

 

love, mom

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minime45

Isnt it all about acceptance for both caregiver and survivor. As much as we didnt ask for the stroke the caregiver didnt ask for the rug to taken from under them as well.

 

How it is dealt with is another story.

 

I sometimes think if the boot had been on the other foot would I have been a "good" caregiver.

 

Dont know

Mary

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