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Worn out physically and emotionally drained ramble


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We made it to New Mexico and back. Driving the motor home went well and I even towed a little 4 x 4 car for us to run around in when we arrived. We stopped at farm stands and bought fresh vegetables and just picked apples for our dinner. When we arrived at the camp site it started to pour rain. So, I hurried to unhitch the tow car and get the RV hooked up to electric, water and sewer. Walked the dogs and cleaned the mud off them and then fixed Denny a quick snack. Then I finished setting up camp by putting out the awning, chairs, getting Denny's scooter unloaded and put together and lastly put out the ever important ground mat to keep the dirt out of the camper. The rain stopped and we decided to sit outside and listen to the river. After all, I paid extra for a premium spot along the river. Within moments, a man on a tractor comes chugging up the river and begins to shore of the river back at the campsite next to us. Well, I am sure it was needed or else he wouldn't be disturbing us while we enjoyed our premium spot. Denny was tired, so we went back inside and he got ready for an early night.

 

The next day, I moved the HUGE wooden picnic table so it would be easier for Denny to sit at and set up the grill and fire ring. We were sitting outside, watching the dogs enjoy the river when here comes the tractor again. Needless to say, I was peeved. :Tantrum: I went up to the office and complained that my premium spot was far from premium. Long story short, they offered me another site, very secluded and about 1/2 a mile up the river. Yep, you guessed it, I had to take down everything I put up and put away everything I took out. Rehitch the little car, load the scooter, unhook electric, water and sewer and move. THEN set it all up again. The new spot was so lovely and indeed secluded. But not secluded enough to prevent the MALE RV'rs in their one piece coveralls from huddling together to WATCH me set up our camp AGAIN. Did they offer to help - heck no! Just stared. :wacko:

 

We eventually got down to the job of camping. Denny figured out how to fish with one hand. He would cast with his good arm, then hurry and stick the pole in the tube of his sling on the other hand, then reel in with his good hand. Worked great as long as I was there to rig the line, bait the hooks and get the tangles out when things didn't work out quite right. Oh, did I mention I carried the chair to the river bank, the fishing tackle box, the pool, the snacks and managed two large dogs on leashes. Can you say SHERPA? That is just how I felt the entire trip.

 

We took one day to visit a Women's Cooperative Woolen Shop. They spin the wool and weave the most beautiful rugs. I decided I deserved one for all the work I was doing while on my "relaxing" camping trip. We visited another farm stand and filled up our freezer with roasted Hatch Green Chili. If you like spicy - I can take care of you. Also bought another bushel of apples to take home to make apple sauce and apple butter.

 

We arrived home at 3:30pm to an urgent message from one of my clients needing information for a 1pm conference call the next day. You all know the drill, unload the hubby, unload his medical gear feed him, medicate him and get him to bed. THEN, unload the perishable things from the RV. Come back to the computer and start work. Got to bed at 1am, up at 5am but was able to deliver what they client needed by noon the next day with an hour to spare. My work schedule has not slowed down. The next day, I get a call from the home where my Dad lives (it is a residential group home) telling me he was ill. Dad is also a stroke survivor and I was his caregiver for 10 years prior to my husband's stroke. Drop everything, arrange for someone to be with Denny and leave to take my Dad to the VA clinic. If you have ever had to get medical care on a walk in basis at the VA, you know how long we waited.

 

Dad had a UTI from the catheter he has to wear because of his prostate cancer progression. They prescribed antibiotics, then sent us to the lab, then back to the clinic and then to talk to the pharmacist and then to pick up the meds. 5 hours later we were on our way. Saturday the home calls again just as Denny and I were sitting down for dinner with my sister 60 miles away from Dad's. He was very ill and needed to go to the ER. Load Denny in the car again and off we go. Drop Denny at home, get him in bed, medicated etc. and then go get Dad. 2:00am he is admitted to the hospital and I head home. Oh yes, did I mention I had that bushel of apples crying out to not be wasted. Got the applesauce made and in the freezer. Gave up on apple butter.

 

So, now I am trying to figure out how to run my business so I can pay our bills, take care of Denny, take care of Dad and keep sane.

 

ARRGGGGHHH - I would love to go take a nice relaxing bath, but I want to wait until Denny is snoring so I can REALLY relax, that is unless the phone rings and Dad needs something. :snorkel:

 

Photos of the camping trip in our gallery...

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As I read this blog I suddenly knew why Ray and I don't own a camper now. We loved to camp. Remember Ray had camped for many years while he was with Fisheries and being in the bush was his greatest joy. So while our family were growing up and right up until his major strokes in 1999 we camped at least once a year. When there were two of us setting up the campsite, fetching and carrying etc it was fine.

 

Our one attempt at me doing it all on my own was disaster. So no more camping. You will get used to it if you are determined enough but it takes a lot of planning and a lot of work once you are there as you found. You really need another holiday just to get over it.

 

Count me in as a SHERPA too. Just watch my many trips in and out of stores with parcels or back and forth with food etc at picnics and BBQs to see the extra effort needed to go anywhere with a guy in a wheelchair. But some days it is worth it just to be out in the world again.

 

Sue.

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Wow, after reading your blog, I'm really glad I didn't get that camper earlier this summer. I am thinking when I'm ready to go camping it will be me with a tent and leave Gary home with a sitter.........maybe just an overnighter to start.

 

With all the trips that we have taken since Gary's stroke, I find more and more challenges with each one and ask myself over and over again "are you crazy?" But, when I think of having to sit home day after day and never go anywhere because it's too difficult, I know I have to go again no matter how challenging it becomes.

 

It seems we push ourselves to the limits, get home long enough to recuperate and then go again. We try hard to keep life as close to our "old" normal as possible, but that is a very tough job.

 

Hope you're recuperating and planning your next trip to a day spa just for you!!!!

 

 

Sarah

 

 

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I think my attitude about the trip would have been better if I didn't have to come home to deal with business and then my Dad situations. It takes a good four - five hours each time I have to run to his place for something and longer, if I have to take him somewhere. So returning home with a work load waiting and adding Dad to the mix just put me over the edge.

 

Day spa...there's a thought. In the meantime, I took my long awaited hot bath, had a glass of good wine and slept well. Thanks for the good thoughts.

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next trip...just for you...head to Northern New Mexico and either hit Ten Thousand Waves in Santa Fe or the Ojo Caliente Hot Springs north of Santa Fe near Taos. DELIGHTFUL!!!

 

I was tired reading your account to. It is hard when you are pulled in so many directions...I understand. But getting out is important.

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Don and I used to have a motor home to travel in and so I know how much work it is to do all you did all by yourself. I give you credit for wanting to do continue camping, etc., after Denny's stroke. For me, the motor home was the first thing I wanted to sell because I knew couldn't have handled all that you did. Give yourself a big pat on the back. I know I do.

 

Jean

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your blog brought back memories I had from 1992 thru 1999 when I owned a motorhome. Thoughts has crossed my mind lately about ownership but my condition won't allow and my wife would never do what you did.

 

We sold it to buy the home we have now, so I'll just live with the times we had, they were great.

 

Glad the trip went well, but I guess the big fish got off Denny's line!! :fishing1:

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