Ruth, keep on posting as the weeks go by as you are still a caregiver only in a different way now. We need to see that people can survive this transition which we will all make "one day".

It will be very hard for you at first, particularly when you hit certain milestones and it clicks in suddenly that this is a "permanent" arrangement as opposed to you having some time off as you do in respite periods and Dick coming back home again.

I follow another dementia board and that has been helpful as I see a lot of people have to eventually put the person they care for at home into permanent care as the 24 hours a day burden gets too much for them. I need to constantly read their stories to assure myself that this too is part of the progress of the disease that started with a single stroke.

(((Hugs))) from Sue.

Ruth-I am so thankful that the move went well for you and Dick. As time goes on, he will become more adjusted and to rely on his caregivers. We all know how important routine is for a stroke survivor and that at least Dick will get. You were incredible in your pre-move planning and it sounds like it paid off. Good for your daughter, what a special person. My heart broke for you and I think I cried for two days thinking of the pain you were in, but you put Dick's needs first and for that you are a very special wife and lover. Join us in chat when Sue returns and let us know how you are doing. All my prayers, Debbie