ksmith

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  1. Bonnie was a true tour de force. A gentle soul who was a pillar in the community. 

    On 12/20/2021 at 3:51 AM, swilkinson said:

    ASHA Bonnie meant a lot to me because as Tracy said the people on here understand us much more than our friends do. So they become our friends who just live in another place. I'll always be grateful to the people I've met on here.

    Well said and yes she was, I'm glad she was able to be with her husband, xxoxx

  2. I'm so sorry for Dan's gastro issues and glad he is on the mend.  Comparing strokes amongst others who had better outcomes is only human and we all do it but towards the end you said, "I really shouldn't complain - we have had many great things happen in the decade since Dans stroke. Many advantages others don't have , and I am grateful" and that is it. 💓

  3. Tracy, sometimes it's hard to express how you feel. Steve once told me , a while ago when I was very upset over something, no matter what you say and no matter how you say it, you'll never please everyone. My truth was and is, I don't share a lot of things because of that , not that I don't feel trusted to do so, but I know that we all have a hard times and I have never been able to explain my problems in a way that can be understood. I remember when I first came and I was trying to explain my memory and , as you know, unless someone can relate it is near impossible to get them to understand. No negativity and no hate just then. Similarly, I can't understand what it's like to relate to someone who's mind is fine and try to understand how doing all they do is possible. I can't. I can only understand that we all have struggles and our lives have changed forever. It's challenging to explain how I feel when I can't get out of bed and feel like I have spun around for 2 hrs. and tried to walk. I can't put that into words and , trust me, I've tried all the wonderful suggestions I've been giving as well as talked to my doctors to only come to the conclusion:: " It Is What It Is"... nothing helps. I can relate to many of the issues you have even though, I can't accurately understand. All strokes are different. I always felt blessed that I can understand a lot of issues and that is in part to the different places my one stroke later spread to and because I can do what I can.  I do sometimes  vent, as well all should and do, but I just enjoy seeing when go over the arc of emotions to acceptance.  That makes me happy 

  4. I'm so happy you came back. You are truly someone who has helped so many others, along with all the caregivers and family, with understanding and advice. You are always welcome here and I can say , on a side note, was so happy to hear your name again. 

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  5. thank you Sue. It is hard . Our organization should have one on stand by especially for those who reside in a group home. There are therapists in an institutional setting. We are not , in anyway, that agency.  All we can do is ask and to be told.... "well...." for we all know its the $$ for insurance. Again, I feel it would be beneficical.

     

     Boy, I'm so glad you can read stroken'ese. I was re reading my blog and golly, it truly reads like a Pollock paining hahah 

  6. That is a great idea Heather. One thing that the Doctor told me was it matters about keeping my feet warm but also dress like I'm in the artic. That is for even though your feet are warm and if you're wearing a short sleeve shirt despite socks and all, your body will still register for being cold.  And why was this year worse than others? No answer for it happens more in middle age women and COULD be hormones or because the sky is blue. I was assured that in warmer weather it normally gets batter, which it does, but I still have to be careful.  The 'blistering' on those toes are due to the constriction of the  Capillaries so they are breaking down.. SLOWLY but still . So I am bundling up, which I hate to be hot and am still taking the medicine. If those don't slow down the occurrences, the doctor recommended a Nitroglycerin cream to rub on them but other than that, there isn't much that can be done for it due to the drug interactions with other medicines.   

  7. On 2/14/2021 at 1:45 AM, GreenQueen said:

    Wow! Kelli!

    Even in winter, I don't wear shoes or even socks in the house. Barefoot all year and shoes if I go out. I own exactly one pair of shoes.

     

    I cannot imagine what you must be going through!

     

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    I wish I had days like that. But overall it’s not that bad. I’ve been dealing with this my entire life as well as members of my family for this is hereditary although within the past year it’s been rather difficult and painful. Your feet must be happy all the time to feel  the grass and the earth beneath you. ❤️🌎🦶🏼💚🇦🇺

  8. On 1/13/2021 at 10:56 PM, GreenQueen said:

    My three columns are

     

    Need

    Want

    Desire

     

    It's amazing what we think we really need actually is a desire.

     

    We aren't rich, but we don't go without.  So I'm hearing you Kelli; it's quite difficult talking finances and it all sounding 'right'. 

     

    But in the end, doesn't matter how it sounds. As long as you are happy with whatever living situation you find yourself,  it's all good.

     

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    I Have been using this everyday. I  made plans with my mom to go to a thrift store and within 5 mins I called her back and said;' Do it need it or Do I want it'

     

    Thank you for the mantra  xxooxx

  9. You are absolutely correct and I’m so glad that you understood what I was trying to say. That’s another reason why I don’t blog that much for I can’t always correctly convey my thoughts. You also reminded me that I have to listen to what I tell people for sometimes I have similar suggestions but I guess that’s something that I (we) tend not to do. . I have been making a sincere effort to focus on my ‘wants and needs’. I mean it sounds silly but I’m 46, I think lol and never really lived on my own to gain the insights to do what needs  happen to be  successful . And now, post stroke, I’m lucky if I balance my checkbook within $20.  Lol. ( the worst thing is I worked in banking forever...ha ha ha ) My son and family are staying on top of me. You have such wonderful advice .

     

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  10. On 12/6/2020 at 11:05 AM, SueC said:

    I have to add, I had stroke symptoms 2 months prior to the actual stroke. Numbness and tingling in my left arm and hand.

    I went to the ER, and they didn`t pick up on it, or do a CT scan at that time. 

     

     

    That maybe true but , at the time, we don't always associate the 'stroke symptoms' with stroke.  I'm just so glad that, as unfortunate as stroke is, our paths crossed to meet. You have truly brightened up my heart