Hi Sue. You had me from the "dying swan act" line. My mom will be 90 in May and has "mixed dementias" and a 30 second short term memory. My husband had a stroke three years ago. We have a son in college and daughter in high school and two standard poodles. And I can't retire for another two years. I totally relate to the bathroom episode because around here it always seems to happen at 3 a.m.