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    LG, I think that Janelle may be on to some6hing here: Seeing you express honest emotion gave him a chance to see that there are consequences to one's actions, both to the recipient and himself as he felt remorseful afterwards. You could have talked about these things all day, but showing him in real time, real life probably showed him much better and quicker. And you needed to feel safe exposing yourself to him. All in all, it may have been a "good" experience for both of you. This sounds as much like a journey of discovery as it does a journey of recovery to me. My prediction is
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    DEIGH, What it is is uncontrolled muscular movements that look like random movements, which have no purpose other than to irritate their host, or the one who is having them. For instance, early in my recovery, whenever I stood up my left leg would start shaking, like I was doing a bad Elvis imitation. The shaking was not caused by anything that I knowingly did, nor did it assist me in my goal of standing . My left hand will start shaking sometimes if I extend my left arm trying to reach something. These issues started about 6 mos. after my stroke, so about 13 yrs. ago. While I still have prob
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    There is a difference between running away from , and running to, and it sounds like you're running to. And it just might be the ticket. Like Heather said, you can both start over, get things the way you want/need them to be, and be somewhat of a distraction for both of you. Might be good for both of you. Just don't expect any "miracle cures". Stroke deficits tend to be stubborn no matter where you are Becky.
  4. I love reading posts- long or short, but with nystagmus still in my left eye, it's difficult to read long posts because I keep losing my place. But I can find it eventually, so don't let that keep you from posting long posts whenever you want to! Becky
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    LG, I0'm so sorry that people invaded your lives as they did.I hope that there will come a day where you can see the humor in this.YOU'RE ON YOUR KNEES TRYING TO GET HIS PULL-UP ON, AND SOME BUSY-BODY WALKS IN, SEES YOU, AND HER LITTLE MIND THINKS YOU'RE HAVING SEX?! iF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, THAT'S KIND OF FUNNY. SAD, BUT FUNNY. Sometimes the humor is there, but you have to look for it. And you have to develop a knack for finding it. Becky
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    LG, I just want to make sure that you know I wasn't saying that you should place him now, even though there are some advantages to that , But I meant(even if I didn't say it right) that you should consider placement if his hitting behavior continues. Because that can be very dangerous behavior for both of you. Placing him would be the only option you had to protect him from himself, and to protect you from his uncontrolled rage. Whereas, if you became incapacitated, and an uncaring relative were at the helm, he could be placed in the first home which had a bed, regardless of how appropria
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    So, I have a question for you, LG: What is going to happen to him if your own health issues worsen, and you are no longer able physically or mentally to take care of him? Does he have family who would step up to the plate? More likely, he will be placed in a nursing home. Which is not necessarily a bad thing as long as the nursing home is a good one, and there are good ones out there, you just have to find them. Rely on word-of-mouth to find a good one .I would think that he would qualify for a Skilled Nursing Facility because of his cancer issues, and choose one that has therapists on staff,
  8. Jana, Your fears are shared by many of us about ourselves, and each person has to find his/her way of coping with the "what ifs". I'm no different from you in respect to the reason for your anxiety: I, too, am afraid of having another stroke even though my first and only stroke was 13 yrs. ago. I still take anxiety meds to ward off panic attacks. One of the things that helps me is to look at it this way: Researchers are looking for averages or the most frequent occurrences.They only mention in passing those who don't fall into the averages. To borrow from your example above, the researc
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    Hi, and welcome to our little corner of cyberspace!!! Becky
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    Janelle, If the cause is underuse, maybe the cure is to use it. Try using the recumbent for just 5 min. at a time, then resting .Or use any length of time that you feel comfortable with, with your goal being to increase your time. Or take a walk. Or do stretching exercises while seated if you want to. Do anything that you can to move that leg around. I have found over the years that movement of any kind helps. Best, BE4CKY
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    I was curious, so I followed the link. How cool! They kind of look like a cross between a power chair, 4-wheeler, and golf cart.But road-worthy! Wow, I want one. Can't afford it, but want one.
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    Do you have an AFO?
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    Like Sue, I can't think of any words to say except that I'M SORRY THAT YOU AND YOUR BROTHER HAVE ANOTHER ORDEAL TO GO THROUGH. i THINK THAT SUE'S SUGGESTION IS good one: Yes, see your brother as often as you can, Bring in old family photos to talk and laugh about. TAKE WALKS OUTSIDE WHEN HE CAN. Make fishing trip plans. Whatever makes you both feel good.And remember that you both have a lot of friends here at Strokenet who are praying for you both. Becky