becky1

Stroke Survivor - female
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  • Birthday 08/27/1956

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    02-03-2007
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    Can you befriend a cat? They make great companions too.
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    Lg, We have often on here discussed that after our strokes, our "friends" all disappeared. They acted as if we had the plague or something. We needed to know that we were loved and missed, and still had value, in spite of our handicaps. But not a phone call or visit did we receive. The same thing happens at a funeral or wake. People will come out of the woodwork to attend these, but then you won't see or hear from them until you run into them accidentally a year later. My own spin on this is that people don't want to come face-to-face with their own mortality or their own fragility as
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    Lg, Read one of our caretaker's handbooks, THE FIVE STAGES OF GRIEVING, It won't answer a lot of your questions, but it will give you a good understanding of the grieving process. The handbook is based on the teachings of KUBLER-ROSS, and I think that our lending library has that book too. When I was in rehab, they gave me an Ensure a day. It supplies you with all your vitamins plus helps you not to lose weight. I loved the way it tasted, and it comes in several flavors. It's hard to take care of yourself when your heart hurts so badly, but try. 'Talk" to us whenever you wan
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    Lg, I didn't realize that this topic had moved, and thought it was something I'd already read... so I JUST FOUND OUT THAT YOUR LOVER HAD DIED. WORDS SEEM SO INADEQUATE NOW. I'M SO INCREDIBLY SORRY. May you both find peace. Becky
  5. Paul, I have posted on SN before, that I cannot handle stress. Ordinary stress doesn't bother me much, but when it's a lot of stress, or extraordinary, or unremitting, I get overwhelmed and can't function too well. I drop everything I try to hold in my hands. and I have trouble concentrating on one thing at a time. I think that COVID would qualify as a major stressor, then add to it lock-down, financial stressors, and lack of sunshine and normal ,everyday stressors, and your life becomes a haven of stress .I think that lt's possible that your brain is just reacting to the stress, and you are
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    Lg, I've been in a situation somewhat similar to yours, and even though it was over 20 yrs. ago, it feels like it happened yesterday. Throughout my experience I asked the same questions of God that you have asked, but chief among them was, 'Wny?'I never got an answer either. But that didn't stop me from asking. My one piece of advice is to try and be kind to yourself. This includes taking good care of yourself because no one is going to do it for you. Don't give u p on God He's still there .Becky
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    I'm so sorry, Lg. I know that this is not what you wanted. It sounds like you've found your peace. REMEMBER THAT. Becky
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    Thanks, Asha. i REMEMBERED THE BOXES THAT WERE BESIDE THE FORUMS THAT CONTAINED DEBTS and progress toward meeting the goals of paying the debts. When I didn't see the info, it never occurred to me to look elsewhere. Thanks a bunch! Becky
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    Kelli, I, and maybe other members, would like to make a cash donation to StrokeNet in honor of Steve. But the boards for that are gone. Can you tell me how to make a donation? By credit card, please? Becky THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO!
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    Lg, I RE-READ MY LAST POST TO YOU LAST NIGHT AND FELT THAT IT WAS UNNECESSARILY HARSH AND UNCLEAR. i APOLOGIZE FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART. i WAS ANGRY THAT YOU'RE HAVING TO GO THROUGH THIS AND THAT THERE ARE FEW RESOURCES TO HELP YOU. THEN I REMEMBERED SOMETHING; YEARS AGO, SOME PEOPLE REALIZED THAT THERE WERE AN AWFUL LOT OF KIDS RUNNING AROUND WHO ALL HAD THE SAME PROBBLEMS; THEY WERE COMBATIVE, BELLIGERENT, AND NO ONE KNEW WHAT TO DO WITH THEM.HENCE, THE TERM, 'WILLIE M" WAS BORN, AND ALOT OF CASH FLEW INTO IT. GROUP HOMES SPRANG UP ALL OVER THE COUNTRY. I THINK THE WILLIE M'S COULD
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    lg, I DON'T SEE THE NEED FOR YOU TO say anything to him along those lines. I think you said some time ago that he can remember things for, at most, 20 min. So you stress over what to say, and how to say it, and he doesn't remember what you said 20 min. later. In addition, he doesn't seem to process things. And he has this flat, unresponsive affect So, saying anything to him right now is going to hurt and affect you way more than it will him. For what? What's the point? To hurt you more? I THINK YOU CAN LET IT BE. i YOU WANT/NEED TO SAY SOMETHING TO HIM, SAY IT WHEN HIS LEAVING IS IMMINENT.
  12. Steve! OMG! HE WAS SUCH AN INSPIRATION! i feel as if i've lost an old friend, when I didn't "know" him at all ,except through his legacy. StrokeNet. HE WILL ALWAYS BE LOVED AND MISSED AND ALWAYS REMEMBERED FOR HIS BRAINCHILD. MY CONDOLENCES TO THE FAMILY. BECKY
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    No, L g.You're not doing the wrong thing, but the only thing that you can do to help him. If he would get in a car, and go willingly to see a doc once a week or so this wouldn't be necessary .But, he won't do that So what are you supposed to do? Wait, and do nothing until he does some real damage to you or to himself, or others? When is enough going to be enough? Becky .
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    Lg, I almost suggested this as an option to you to speed things up- it has its advantages, and one disadvantage that may make charging him a no - go. When he assaults you, call 911 and when the police arrive, tell them what happened, and that DHS is involved and trying to place him in a facility for this kind of behavior. SHOW THEM WHATEVER YOU MAY HAVE FROM THEM TO PROVE THIS. The police may ask you if you want to charge him, say 'yes'., and they will take him off to jail. He probably won 't stay there long because DHS will take him and put him in a temporary placement until a
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    CONGRATULATIONS on completing the first 2 steps ( asking for help (1), and (2) meeting with your assigned social worker for the 1st time.) You did very well, and I'm sure you'll breeze through the remaining steps. Good luck, Becky