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  1. Ed, Sometimes it's easier to deal with behaviors if we can understand the reasons behind it. This is often true of kids, especially, because what we may see is anger, when what they may be feeling is fear or frustration. They are too young to understand adult situations, so they put their own spin on things, just so that their world makes sense to them. For instance, they probably don't see their mother's leaving as walking out on you, but as walking out on them. In their eyes, you have them to help you, but who's gonna take care of them? And, they may be wondering if you're going to leave like Mom did? They don't understand all that's happened, and may not know how to cope with it. Ya'll might benefit from family therapy so that someone can help you figure out where to go from here. Becky
  2. Tracy, I think it's great that you were able to finish something that you really wanted to do. But, remember the "spoon theory"? Sounds like you put all of your spoons in one place, and even borrowed some from the next day. If there's a "next time" feed the cat first, and use sunscreen. If it were me, I'd want to spend my spoons in more than 1 place, and save spare change for the car wash. Becky
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    I didn't know until I read your posts that eyelid problems were so common. Janelle, sounds to me like the bottom lid is being re-connected neurologically. I have had similar, and I think that sometimes the brain tests connections to see how they work. But, this is JMO, and not based on research, or anything substantial. Banjo, I had 2 opthamology consults just after my stroke, while still in the hosp. because my eye appeared to be infected. The first doc, whom my husband said looked like "Doogie Houser", because he was so young, said that my lid wasn't closing properly, and advidsed me to have it stitched closed. The 2nd doc, when he heard that, raised so much hell, that Doogie was fired not only from my case, but from the hosp itself! Since then, 2 GPs have said it's not closing, but my opthamologist disagrees. So, who knows? Becky
  4. Ed, I just saw your posts tonight, or I would have responded earlier. I know it's hard, but you're going to have to make "a blind leap of faith" that we all know what we are talking about when we say "things will get better." One of 2 things is going to happen: Either the deficit itself is going to improve, or you are going to become better at dealing with it. Either way, your life will improve from what it is right now. Becky
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    What's funny,Tracy, is that all of my therapies were scheduled for afternoons. And what am I? A morning person.
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    McD's doesn't look the same without its yellow arches. Alan, your pictures are gorgeous!
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    Me,too, Deigh, what Tracy said. Please don't forget your camera the next time you take Archie out to see it he'll fly. I wanna see the little guy spread his wings, and take flight. Becky
  8. We are all so similar, yet different, that sometimes, it's funny. Well, I 'll be the cheese, and stand alone then. I AM A MORNING PERSON; WAS AM PERSON BEFORE STROKE,AND STILL AM. Before my stroke, I got up at 5 AM to give me time to feed all of the critters, and get ready for work. I didn't even use an alarm clock. After stroke, my body wanted to go back to the same schedule,but my husband, who now had to get up with me, balked. I was eventually able to convince myself to get up between 7 and 7:30 AM, which I still do now, at 11 yrs post. I know that I don't work, and don't have to get up so early, but I want to- I like mornings. I kno w it may sound weird, but I really do.
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    Another option for when you go out- a scooter! I've driven one, and they're quite easy to operate. But, if turning it down aisles bothers you, park it where you can see it, and walk down the aisle. When you're thru ,make like The Lone Ranger, mount your scooter, and drive to your next destination. Some can be folded to fit in a car. All you need is a doc's prescription, and insurance will cover. Becky
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    Who knows' it might work for you. And, if not for you, then someone else. But, Alan, please don't invest your lifetime savings into it until you can share your idea with professionals/researchers in PT field. This may have been tried already. Becky
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    Pam, Have you ever used one of those walkers that has a seat built in between the sides? I was thinking that you could sit down on your walker seat when standing in line got to be too much on you. Becky
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    Teaching a butterfly to fly? Is that kinda like teaching geese to swim? A few years ago , I hatched 6 goose eggs in an incubator. They all grew and developed just fine. They thought of me as "Mother Goose", because I was the only "mother" they'ed ever known. Then the time came when they had to swim. And I worried about this because, usually, water fowl learn how to do this from their mother, but I couldn't do that. I put about 6 in. of water in a kiddie pool, and put the baby geese in it. I stood beside the pool, ready to spring into action if any showed any sign of distress. Instinct. It kicked in, and all did beautifully. Becky
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    I agree, Janelle. The last time I had PT was where I'd had PT just a few months prior. When I went there the second time, my therapist had a new client, and couldn't see me. So, I was assigned to someone else, who currently was booked, but could see me when one of her clients completed her sessions. In the meantime, I had PT with whichever therapist had time to see me. I had 2 sessions per week, but didn't always have the same PT for both. Each therapist has his/her own focal points, and way of teaching things. And they come to know you, and your strengths and weaknesses. I found it trying to have different therapists all of the time. They were all good therapists as far as I could tell, but different. There was no continuity. My sessions seemed very "choppy",for lack of another word. I was relieved when I went back to having the same therapist all of the time. Becky
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    Kelli, I was more like John. Very self-absorbed, I was. Having the stroke really pulled the rug out from under my feet. I couldn't work at the job I'd had for over 20 yrs., couldn't walk, couldn't talk right because I had dysarthria. I had also been a voracious reader all of my life, and now, I had nystagmus and couldn't read at all. There's more, but I think you get my drift. Anyway, I bet it took me a good 2 yrs. just to wrap my brain around all of this. During those early years, I was very self-absorbed, and not very aware of the world around me. So, tell the Tammies out there to try and be patient- some of us are slower than others in coming around,but we'll get there. Becky
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    Sorry...I got it wrong-it is FAST. Thanks for catching it, guys, because it's so important. I passed out when the EMTS arrived, so assessing me by my speech, or anything, was difficult. BUT I did have some facial distortion, so, it was off for an MRI for me.Within 15 min. of my arrival, the hosp. had given me MRI AND FAXED RESULTS TO STROKE HOSP, and that is probably what saved my life- the rapidity of treatment. Becky