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  1. becky1

    Hi, Steve. Welcome to Strokenet. Sounds like you've had a remarkable recovery. And you're so positive that I'm really glad you volunteer your time to talk to talk to other survivors. In the early days after my stroke, I needed all of the positivity that I could get, and I bet other survivors get a lot from your messages. Becky
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    Alan, it sounds like a lot, but your arm is responding. I would be interested in hearing the results. Becky
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    That's one thing (support) that all survivors seem to want/need, and something that we have here in abundance. Because surviving is so darn hard sometimes. Becky
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    AWESOME! I bet the kids (and adults) got a kick out of seeing the finished products!
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    Tracy, Paul, There are some mild sleep-aids out there that you may want to try. Taken on a short-term basis, they are non-addictive, and they don't make you feel "drugged" the next day. The reason for taking them is not so much to help you sleep, as it is to teach your brain that this is what you want it to do. I took one of them, Ambien, while in the nursing home. It didn't help me stay asleep, but it did help to teach my brain to sleep. Because I'd fall asleep soon after I laid down even after I stopped taking it. Another idea is to take your meds which cause sleepiness at night, before going to bed. Sweet Dreams, Beckiy
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    Congratulations on making a decision on this, Janelle. I'm kinda, sorta having to make the decision to continue, or not, too, and I'm undecided. For me, there are pros and cons on both sides. Good luck, Becky
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    Mark, In the 10 yrs. or so that I've been coming here, I've noticed that most people are bothered by depression or anxiety. Strokees are no different than normies in that they can have both, but one of the two always seems to dominate. I have both, but my anxiety is by far the dominant one. I can pull myself out of depression, but I need help with anxiety. So I take medication for it. But, your reaction may be totally different. You may be able to handle anxiety like I handle depression. If it starts to really bother you, talk to your doc about meds, or a referral to a psychiatrist or a neuropsychiatrist. Best, Becky
  8. Janelle, Loved how you put it-'....above a G rating' Made me LOL!
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    Mark, You probably went back to work too soon. I also agree with Heather that the best way to remedy the situation might be to reduce your hrs at work. If that isn't possible, make your life revolve around rest and work, For example; Try taking a nap first thing when you come home from work. After you've rested awhile, if you want to get something to eat, take a shower, darn your socks, or watch some TV do it, but be mindful of the time, and go back to bed. Good luck, Becky
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    Janelle, Remember the old saw: "You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time."
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    Lisa, We'll always be here for you as you travel this road of stroke recovery. We're all at different places along the road, but we all have the same purpose- to get back as much as we can of what was stolen from us. We learn from each other and we support each other. Feel free to share whatever you want, and if it's answers you need, we'll either have one, or try to steer you in the right direction to find the answer. If you just want to vent, or share an accomplishment, that's OK too. WELCOME! Becky
  12. becky1

    After my stroke, I had what I came to call"stroke moments" every day. For me, stroke moments usually occurred when I tried to do something very simple and found out that I couldn't do it all, or that I could do it, but struggled a lot. Then the enormity of what the stroke had done to me would hit me. This realization, combined with my frustration, would totally overwhelm me. I would feel stunned, hurt, scared, and angry all at once, or in waves of emotion that left me speechless, or in tears. What was I going to do? I couldn't explain it to myself, so how was I going to explain it to someone else? I coped by withdrawing into myself. I never shared my experiences with anyone. I didn't know how to. You will find, as I did, that as time goes on, you will have stroke moments less frequently, and less intensely. I don't know why exactly. You become more confident in your abilities and more adept at dealing with your disabilities, I think. And, I agree with the others- you need to talk to your wife. Jot some notes about important things you want to say, and give it a whirl. I think you'll find her receptive and relieved. Becky
  13. I had a hemorrhagic stroke, but in a different part of my brain than your husband. When I "came to" after my stroke, I couldn't talk and had to re-learn how to do that. While I was "speechless" I understood what everyone said to me. My memory was intact, and my comprehension was also unaffected. Such is not the case for everyone. Your memory can be affected, or your comprehension. A lot depends on where in your brain you had the stroke. Whatever was damaged will be affected in you. For instance, I had a brainstem stroke, and the brainstem does not control any intellectual functions. So my intellectual functions were not affected. That's why I retained my memory, ability to comprehend, etc. But, like your husband, I couldn't talk. Right after my stroke, I was able to talk, walk with a walker, but soon those abilities ceased, and I wound up paralyzed on my lt. side, and speechless. That's where you are now, in a holding pattern, waiting to see what will happen. Many of your questions are unanswerable right now, and you'll just have to "wait and see." You can ask his neurologist what areas of his brain were affected, just don't take whatever he says as if it's carved in stone. My neruro told my hubby that 98% of the people who have the same kind of stroke die within the first 48 hrs., and those who survive become vegetables. Well, here I am, 11 yrs. later, not dead, and not a vegetable. I am a firm believer that docs are no more privy to God's will than we are. As to how he's feeling rt now? Probably more terrified than you are. He probably has a lot of the same questions but is afraid of the answers. That's when he's awake. Just after a stroke, the fatigue is horrendous. Sometimes it lasts a long time after you go home. Speaking of home, when he gets there, he will need therapy. As much as he can get. Please know that you'll both be in my prayers. Good luck. Becky
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    Mark, Michelle is right- physical therapy is the ###1 best thing that you can do for yourself! And the more you can get! I had numbness on my left, affected side from the stroke I had 11 yrs. ago. I WAS ABLE TO FEEL PAIN ON THAT SIDE IN THE FIRST YR., BUT, OTHER THAN THAT, MY LEFT SIDE IS STILL NUMB. EVERY STROKE IS DIFFERENT, SO YOUR NUMBNESS MAY GO AWAY, OR IT MIGHT NOT. THERE'S NO WAY TO TELL. I don't think that your numbness is moving, but, you probably have more tone in your foot, and what you're feeling in your foot is tone and numbness, and not moving numbness. Tone also feels worse when it's colder. I don't know where you live, but here in WV it's getting colder, and my foot is already reacting to the drop in temp. Tone is a stiffening, a hardening of your muscles making them hard to move. Movement helps. When my foot starts to bother me, I MOVE IT AROUND SOME, AND THAT SEEMS TO EASE THE DISCOMFORT SOME. Do try to get into Physical Therapy-it will probably be the best decision you've ever made. Becky
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    Scott, so sorry you're having to go through this. And, yes, we are with you always. Becky