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  1. Tracy, ONE VERY IMPORTANT PLUS TO the she-shack: Your utilities will be very low. I bet you can cool the whole place with one window unit. Same for heat, only not window unit. Just something to add into the equation. Becky
  2. Tracy-Take a deep breath.Many of the Housing workers have as their chief duty-per their bosses-to keep the properties rented.If you don't rent a property, there are at least 20 people behind you, and chances are that one of them will. So, they just want you to move out of the way so others can move forward. YOU MAY BE SAFE WAITING A DAY OR 2 on this place, but there are no guarantees. Try the word-of-mouth approach. See if you can come up with anything you like better. There are a lot of women with kids on the Housing lists, and a 3-room dwelling does not suit their needs. This is why I think that you may be able to wait for a day or 2 on the she-shack, but it's a gamble. Try calling everyone you know asking if they know anyone in Section 8 housing? Would they be willing to call this person and ask if ,they or someone else in Housing plans to move soon?
  3. Tracy, Not sure you'll be interested in this, but if you need a"Plan B", this might be an option for you: The same gov.agency that helps fund Section 8 housing (HUD) also has rent-to-own homes. They also sell homes that are basically FHA foreclosures that are priced for reduced income people. Some of these homes would require A LOT of work just to make them livable, but others... you'd be surprised. You might even qualify for an FHA loan, which is much easier to get than a traditional bank loan. You don't have to work or be disabled to qualify for these programs. Research online if you want.I did, and know that ifyou're interested, all of your questions will be answered. Becky
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    Sounds like you may have had to make some decisions, and, for what it's worth, it also sounds like you've made some good choices. I wish you success in both new endeavors. Becky
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    Why not????? It's better than seeing a quack! Becky
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    Good luck,Ken. Maybe this new doc can help you. I'll be praying for you. Becky
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    "vomitaphobia"? I'm still there - LOL!!!
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    Oh, man, Janelle! That sounds like something you won't soon forget, even though you may want to. I was going to share that I have had a stomach virus for the last couple of days. I've only been sick 2 other times since I had my stroke. But, based on those 3 experiences, when I get sick, I get really sick. With this stomach virus, for instance, I was afraid to go to my doc, because I knew that while I was in the waiting room or the examination room, I'd have to make a mad dash for the bathroom. Have you ever tried to make a mad dash in a wheelchair? In a large open room, with no hallways or people, maybe. But, Janelle, your experience was far worse. Hope you're better now. Becky
  10. Tracy-This is a stupid question, but did you tell them you're disabled? That should help you move up the list quicker. Becky
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    Are you "bruisers " on blood thinners or aspirin therapy? They can CAUSE BRUISING MORE EASILY. BECKY
  12. Asha said it all- a stroke is a stroke, no matter how small. Feel blessed that it wasn't worse, and we are glad for you that it wasn't. As Asha said, this is a great site, with lots of info to share. You can come here and post a question if you wish; or share your rants, successes, and not-so-successful endeavors. You can go to chats and do the same., and "talk" to other survivors who have been there, done that. Just roam the site, and click on things to try. Welcome! Becky
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    I saw her picture above and thought she was you when younger. You two look amazingly alike. CONGRATS, Cara!yOUR PARENTS HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE PROUD OF YOU. bECKY
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    Hey, Pam, Look over here- There's a whole bunch of people telling you to get well soon, we miss you! We miss your insights and wit. Please know that prayers and love are being sent your way! Becky
  15. Jerry, I had almost an identical problem to Shannon: Prior to my stroke, I had significant hearing loss in my left ear, and some, but not nearly as much, in my right. Since my stroke affected my left side, and I already had a hearing problem on that side, it was assumed that whether or not my left ear was affected, it would not help me now. The question was my right ear. In a stroke of genius, my husband went to a sporting goods store and bought a sound enhancer that hunters use to make sounds in the woods louder when they hunt. It worked! It raised the sound level in my right ear enough so that I could hear. The doctors had considered me unresponsive, and now that I could hear them and do what they asked, I WAS CONSIDERED RESPONSIVE, AND BETTER YET, I COULD HEAR WHAT MY THERAPISTS SAID. They're pretty cheap, about 20 to 30 bucks, and don't work nearly as well as a hearing aid which can run 2-$5,000 or more, and no insurance co.will pay for one. If you try the cheap hunter's amplifier in Shannon's rt ear, it may help you know if he can hear at all. Becky
  16. Jerry, I am sorry to be chiming in so late, but I've been away on a family emergency and saw your post for the first time only tonight. It will be very hard on Shannon in the weeks and months to come, and I'm so glad that he has a friend that he can count on. He is likely to experience a lot of different emotions- anger, fear, frustration, sadness, shock, anxiety to name just a few. And he's going to have lots of questions. Perhaps the kindest thing that you can do is to bring him to Strokenet, where you can type his posts for him, and read comments back to him. Or, just read different posts to him, especially if they concern a problem he's having or a question that he has. By exposing him to Strokenet, at least he'll know that there are others like him, going through the same things. Good luck, you two, and keep us posted, Becky
  17. My stroke occurred while we were traveling home. I was fully conscious during my stroke, losing consciousness only after the EMT'S arrived. I don't remember being in the ER after my stroke, or being airlifted to a stroke hospital. I don't remember being a patient there, or being transferred to a rehab facility. I don't remember being re-admitted to hosp for treatment of several raging infections. I DON'T REMEMBER BEING TRANSFERRED TO A NURSING HOME. What I do remember is becoming fully conscious at the nursing home, and being furious when I found out where I was. All I wanted was to go home. It has now been 12 yrs. since my stroke, and I still can't remember being in the hosp., but I can remember other things like the day before and the day of my stroke. I can also make new memories with no problem. As someone said above, no 2 strokes are alike, so Shannon is unlikely to share my recovery path. But I wanted you to know that a lot of things can change over time for better and for worse. It's a "waiting game" in that you have to wait and see what happens. What Shannon needs most once he is medically stable is therapy, and as much as he can get.Best, Becky.Massive brainstem stroke, Feb. 3, 2007
  18. What everyone has already said is all so very true. I, too, have some suggestions: You don't say what Shannon's limitations are, or if they're from a stroke. If Shanon is in a rehab facility, or a nursing home, and receives therapy, try to attend a few sessions with him/her so that you can be a little prepared for his needs. if you can, talk to his therapists, and get information and "how-to's" from them. Try to be patient. Stroke recovery is slow and hard. Good luck. You're a good friend! Becky
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    That is awesome! Was your hand clenched before you started, or just non-functional? It looked to me like your hand got red on top after wearing it awhile. Is it comfortable to wear? Was it hard to learn how to use it? Sorry for all of the questions,but I have been trying to decide if a Saebo is right for me or a Bioness. Becky
  20. Paul, I don't have that problem either, and I also don't know you or Linda personally, so I don't know if my ideas are a good "fit" for you, so, I'll just toss them out there and let you decide if you can use them. One idea is to come up with a standard response to make whenever Linda is upset. Something like, "So what are your thoughts on the matter?" or,"So, what do you want to do about it?" or " Is there anything that I can do? " Or anything put in your own words. Remember when trying to come up with a standard response that there are things that Linda wants from you: She wants validation, or to know that her concerns were heard by you, that you understand without being judgemental, and that her concerns sound legitimate and valid. Sometimes, human touch can convey as much, if not more, than words. Next time she gets upset, and when she finishes telling you why she's upset, give her a big ol' bear hug (non-sexual), and/or massage her neck and shoulders, because that's where a lot of people carry stress in their body. Hope something here helps. Becky
  21. Double D, If you feel that you went back to work too soon, chances are that you did. Congratulations on listening to your body, btw. Let your life revolve around work and rest right now. Go to work, come home, do what you absolutely have to do, then go to bed. Some survivors find that going back to work is easier if it's done gradually, like working 1/2 days or only 3 days per week. This way you have downtime built into your schedule, and you can get plenty of rest between work days. Don't worry, this won't last forever! The plan is to gradually work yourself up to full time. Good luck, Becky
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    I, too, had a hemorrhagic stroke, and asked my primary the exact same question. My concern was that aspirin is a blood thinner, and I wondered if I had another would aspirin make me more likely to have a bleed? He hadn't gotten my records yet and said he didn't know. What I've learned over the years is that aspirin, taken in low doses, is good for your heart. Your heart can throw clots, and those clots can cause a stroke if they make it to your brain. Since aspirin is a blood thinner, it reduces the chances that this will happen. Low-dose aspirin can also help your arterial walls widen, which increases blood flow, making it more difficult for a blood clot to form. Regular aspirin cannot do this. But I'm not a doc, so my best advice is to ask him/her. Becky
  23. I don't know the stats either. What I do know is that those meds you're on will go a long way towards preventing a stroke. And I agree that you need not to worry about it. Becky
  24. Hi,DD, You're definitely lucky- it could've been so much worse. I don't have aphasia, but some who do have posted here that there are places on-line that you can go to that will help you with that. I've never been to one, so I don't have any addresses for you. Sorry. Good luck,Becky
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    You made Scrabble sound like it's a spectator sport! LOL I just watched a little of the Superbowl, and your Scrabble game sounds like it was more exciting. Seriously. Becky