Hi linda, i recently became a stroke patient myself, and like you also had one i didnt know of, i am very fortunate to have very minimal damage resulting from my strokes. when i was first diagnosed last month, i spent my days and nights in fear of having another one, which the drs tell me is probable, i am on a lot of medication to prevent further strokes, and have taken steps to change my lifestyle, as for the fear, ive decided to NOT let it consume me, i will instead live every day to the fullest, and count my blessings! to me every day is a gift from god, time to spend with my daughters, and grandchildren, and not to let fear control my every move- so far this has worked for me, and also reduced my stress level, i hope you can give it a try as well, good luck to you!