Words of wisdom, Asha, thank you.
I guess we are still fixated on the half empty glass versus the half full glass. We do our utmost, however, not to show our fear and desperation around Warren. We are always cheerful and full of funny stories for him. We encourage him and praise each little improvement. The last thing he needs is to see us moping and whining!
I have a cute story for you. After Warren's stroke, he started losing his hair in a dramatic fashion. But, about eight months later, when my sister and I had him over for a weekend, I noticed that it started growing back. I told him about it and said that maybe it was a result of all the trauma he had been through (an infection in his mechanical heart valve caused a "mild stroke," then he needed emergency valve replacement surgery during which he had the massive stroke). A little later we went to his house to check on things and as we were leaving, he signaled with his cane to wait a moment. He tottered into the bathroom, rummaged in the cabinet, and came out smiling with a bottle of Rogaine. I guess with all this other crap he had been going through, he had no intention of losing all of his hair, too!