fishdad I can relate to that my farther was a angry alcoholic my mother dies of a stroke then a year later he drunk had a accident and became paralyzed , so being divorced he moved in with me and I tried to take care of him but he still managed to do what he wanted I put up with a lot of stuff like if he got angy with something not going his way while drinking would call the police. even on Christmas day once so I worked a lot and went fishing after work some days till he was asleep , then one day rather then go home early I did errands to not come home early in the bad time of day to finnaly