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Strokes do not have to take away our generosity of spirit!!  My wish for you is buckets of purple chips and cards to match so even those in need of them, you are able to accommodate.  You deserve the kindness of gifts others give you.  it helps them to be kind.  You are a good example of generosity.  I wish you countless hours of laughter among friends.  That must have felt great.

Those memories are hard at times but they are so much part of your past life joy and worth the attention for your healing at the same time.  That joy keeps you being this great writer of your feelings.    Your inspire me to keep trying.

Missing my family more than I can say but i helps to hear your forward movements.   I need to live vicariously through others when all loved ones are gone.  Hope remains eternal!

Yeah, an excuse not to go shopping so you can stay home to watch football games!!  How clever you are.  So glad you can enjoy you football games and sorry you cannot have a poker game to recoup your past losses.

Wish your wife good news with her condition and speedy recovery.  Prayers are always with all the kind and wonderful folks on this forum.  Enjoy your games and relaxation before the packages pile in from the shoppers.  It is your job to praise their shopping scores while you share your football scores.

Enjoy your holidays!!

Hallelujah!!

Hope you had a great trip and many marvels.  Keep us informed of your escapades and that you are still of good health and no more fainting spells.

So sorry, Tracey,  Hope all goes well and they finally get you back on track to health.

Prayers are with you and the family.  It is so hard to see a little one in surgery and they are so vulnerable.  My heart goes out to the little guy.  One thing they are so resilient and able to handle in some ways, better than an adult.  My son went through these types of challenges from age 1 on and and met each one like a trooper.  Children keep me grounded watching their bravery.  Best to your entire family and especially that little guy.

My heart goes out to you.  It is hard to find a new obstacle in your healing.  Hope for a fast reprieve that you get back some of that perception with tender loving care from therapy.  Sounds like you have a beautiful spirit and will overcome this setback.  

Wow!  How exciting.  I just cannot even imagine how this must have felt for all those years.  Finally  be able to just wash your hands is wonderful!! I can feel your happiness in your comment and then in your face.    Happy clapping!    Marcia

So sorry for your loss.    My heart goes out to you and your entire family.  Marcia

It was good to read your blog as I was just pondering whether it was worth going out today and facing the sun.  Perhaps I need to set a chair outside to begin to live again outside.  It does always rejuvenate me.  You are definitely a poet.  keep the coming,  good for all of us.

I just discovered blogs and noted this topic and hoping there might be some answers to help motivate.  I find I am getting lazier and lazier each day and know I need to get up and walk but failing miserably.  Just getting shoes on seems to strike fear in my heart and forcing myself to get out the three days I have off.    There are so many places to go but I just cannot get over the fear of walking.

How do you remain positive, Lenny.    I wish I could walk around my home but it is too hilly and I need to drive somewhere and this holds me back.

Kelli,

Divorce is never easy for anyone, especially given your stroke.  I do not envy the challenges.

My parents were divorced when I was 10 and it was devastating but we survived, poorly, though.  I never saw my dad for 10 years and soon after he died. 

I got divorced after 20 years, before I ever had a stroke, so I can imagine how horrid it is to have both issues.

What I do know is there will always be a lifeline between you and the ex.  That is actually a therapeutic term for the situation, because many think divorce is a solution and do not realize it does not end the relationships.   I envy that in some ways for you as my ex totally walked away and left me and children behind.  Now of course he regrets it but there was never a lifeline and there needs to be one.

It sounds like you both have a good lifeline, but he is taking advantage of it and you do need to speak out, as you stated to ask for what you want and get a working arrangement with the hope that you both can benefit from the relationship.  Mostly your son seeing two grownups getting along and able to corporate with each other is so healing for his later life and intimate relationships.  You are his role models and your good heart has been doing a good job to maintain a working relationship with ex.  

I imagine it might be sad for your heart to see him moving on, if you still have feelings in that way for your ex.  I hope for a uplifting future for you soon.  For you all.  Keep the faith! 

ps,  maybe he could bring you some great food in for meals as payment and to help with your grocery bill.  Just a thought for your life improvement.

Sorry for you set back.  It is so easy to do when recovering and have the optimistic spirit you have.

BTW.  Do you have one of those bouncy balls you sit on to exercise?  If you do, found that I use that when ankle swells drastically. Just put it on the bed with foot on top or in a lounging chair.  I used to use pillows per their suggestion, especially when recovering from the broken tibia a  fibula.  They were such a nuisance and did not discover the ball trick until recently.

Found this site after I got the email.  Sorry. Still not used to the maneuvering the forum. So glad all is well.  That swelling takes of long to go down.  Just the anesthetics affect our system.  Can you put it above your heart when sleeping.  I did that per their suggestion but it still did not go down.  When I did not it did not improve at all.  Hope the side effects decrease rapidly for you.  What a trooper you are!!

Fred,  I found this blog today, and want you to know that your comments have often been so helpful to me as I tried to get used to the forums.

It grieves me that you are in this position.   So hope things change for you and your positive attitude will manifest in your own healing as it has for those who have followed you over the years.  God bless and I pray for your healing.

I truly need you to get it back.  I rely on your comments as one left sided paralyzed victim to another.  Wish for you to get the train back on track.    Would miss that earnest friendly face in those forums.  May God give you strength to turn it around.

Jessica, I can appreciate your drawing. I hope your self portrait is enhanced by the members of this blog and you start to see yourself as a warrier with tremendous courage. I am new to the site and plan to help others and get the needed help I seek. Advocacy is paramount in recovery and once you leave the hospital and sometimes not in the hospital, the advocacy seems to dissipate. That is why sites such as these are helpful.

Hostsue, I liked what you said about the "sewed lips showed ...lack of self advocacy." It hit home for me when I felt that the professionals were not listening. Thank God for physical therapists who basically saved my life.

Jessica, welcome to the blog community, a safe place to say what you need to say and get some feed-back from others. We have both survivors and caregivers blogging here, we are all in it together, this long journey to the "new normal".I can see why you would feel the way you do and I guess the sewed up lips showed me the lack of self-advocacy, the darkened eyes the incapacity to see what the future holds. But some of that insight will come to you as you progress through your recovery.Welcome, I will look forward to getting to know you better.Sue.