2ndChance

Ask a rehab nurse to talk to your Mom? keep stressing that you have a permanent brain injury?

Dianne - I sent you a PM for a referral for services for your parents in case they disrupt at their current placement. I hope you don't need it, but hang on to it!

Rene

Joy - you are grieving in your own way. Ignore outside standards. Listen only to your own heart/soul.

Kuebler-Ross did not base her 5 stages of grief on any research whatsoever. It was just her theory that people who moved through her 5 stages of grief in any order would achieve relief. Research has never supported her theory and she never attempted to prove her theory herself. Apparently she was trying to tie her 5 stages of grief into her belief in transcendental meditation and out-of-body experiences.

I've never regained any use of my affected arm/hand but I started doing things around the house while my husband was at work - nothing that required standing or balancing - but moving laundry to the washing machine and then the dryer/loading the dishwasher, getting the mail, stuff like that. As to your child, have you sought advice from other disabled moms? http://lookingglass.org/parents/

Is there any indication that has insight into his owmn behavior? Is he apologetic later?

At one year, it seems impossible to delude yourself anymore that you'll find a miracle cure or that you'll ever get your original life back. It's really a turning point for most survivors, I think.

DJ: If you are licensed, I recommend you practice law from home, as I do. Do pro bono work if income will mess up your case.

Get to a physiatrist or a NEUROpsychiatrist and ask them about adding on a mild anti-seizure med - they boost the effectiveness of ant-depressants and stop emotional outbursts.

I'm a survivor and after a year of outpt therapy I quit. It was my decision and I'm glad I did. The therapists and my family wanted me to continue but after a year of 5 day a week therapy I still had exactly the same neuroresponse as the day I left the hospital. There was zero improvement! I felt it was a huge waste of money and time to keep going to PT/OT. I accepted my condition and changed my focus to living independently while my husband is at work. I have never regretted the decision.

Rene

Rich442 : be careful about blaming everything on your stroke. It is a victim's point of view. It is a fantasy to believe that you'd be happier if you hadn't had the stroke.

Rene

Donna, I am a survivor and I think you should tell him how you feel. I would rather grant my husband a divorce than have him stay out of pity. It is bad enough that my life has been ruined, no need to ruin two lives.

2nd Chance