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  • Birthday 05/23/1965

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  1. that's great George, we do something similar for splitting wood with the hydrolic splitter. The controls are deliberately designed to need 2 hands as a safety measure. so that you have to take your hands away from the log to be split before activating it. My sister and I work it as a team. she holds the left control and I (or both or us for the really big ones) load/unload the logs and operate the right control. It works quite well once you get a rhythm going.
  2. Glad to be of help Will. It's one of those things where helping others helps me. Thanks to all here for the support they give.
  3. now that's a bonus! I've been a one mitten and 1 glove girl for 9 years now. given I can't use the fingers anyway it doesn't matter. the fun part is putting the glove on the good hand when the bad one can't help, this is one where I do ask for help
  4. Oh yes the shower! thanks for the memory jog. I had a few "fights" with my OT over that one in the early days. I hate showering in the chair you just don't feel clean all over (which I know is not truth). One of my first goals in rehab hospital was to shower "properly" and wash my own hair. I hated the nurses doing it. But hospitals are so risk averse they wouldn't let me do it. I had to wait until I went home. I had the stool/chair in the shower so it was there if needed but I would stand as much as possible. I got better at very quickly, I only remember one bad fall where I tripped getting out of the shower. My sister then made me go to the doctor in case I'd given myself a concussion, but I was lucky.
  5. Sometimes interns need to be confronted with reality. My niece had a similar experience with a midwife intern. My niece has just had a very difficult pregnancy with chronic hyperemmisis (I've no idea how you spell that). She was sick from conception through to and including the delivery. At one of her last midwife checkups there was an intern there who did all the measures etc. and then basically told her she was doing well and everything was fine, to which my niece replied something along the lines of "I can't take this much longer, can we just get it out" the intern nearly freaked, especially when the senior midwife said "yes this sucks, but you need to wait another 3 weeks at least" she then told the intern she better read the case notes next time.
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    Sounds good Ray! keep working on it
  7. heathber

    certainly something going on there!
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    life does tend to be full of ups and downs. Fingers crossed all the "bad" news is done with for now, and the new care system for Gary continues to be good. Hugs -Heather
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    She's gorgeous Janelle
  10. It can get you down if you let it. You need to respond in context. Some people say it because they care some because they don't know what else to say and want to be polite. It like people say "how are you" but its not really a question they want you to answer. As Deigh says find a witty response to turn the conversation, or you can reply with the truth, something like "that's odd, I feel like crap today" We don't have to all be wonderful all the time. it is OK to not be OK, so long as you are working to change things as well. Hugs -Heather
  11. you have to be able to see the funny side sometimes!
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    Yes this really sounds like it going to need some talk therapy/couples counseling. You need to get to the root of the problem and together find a way forward. The way she is behaving in front of the young children is not acceptable. but you can't exactly send her to the naughty corner. The sooner you can both sit down and have a quiet talk about what's happening the better. Good luck with it and hugs for you both. -Heather
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    Sounds good Will keep on providing it stimulus and it should get more sensation. One that I did for a while when lack of sensation in my left arm was causing problems. dunk in hot water, dunk in cold water (use ice blocks if you can), dry with a rough towel, brush your skin with a stiff brush, repeat as many times as you dare. always check with good arm that temps etc. are OK, you don't want to damage the skin, it also gives you a chance to think about what it should feel like. You want to encourage feeling but not create a pain response. That routine got quite a lot of touch sensation back in my arm, my discrimination of what touched and exactly where is often still a bit hazy, but it went from "not there at all" to " I have an arm". It didn't help with functional movement, but it was better than doing nothing. As you say "Onward!"
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    Kelli I think he's referring to babysitting the grandkids, which was one of the places where she lost it that most upset him.
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    Oh Kelli so sad to hear baby brother is gone 😞 But yes they help us as much as we help them as my Mum always said about our cats "they give good value for the rent"