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About heathber

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  • Birthday 05/23/1965
  • Age 55

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  1. heathber

    That all sounds great Kev, yes those so small improvements are easy to miss, without things like a blog. Have fun watching the chicks
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    Yes it would be good if they can get that running Deigh. Although right now the premiers of the states are being so childish about "I'm not playing with you, you have germs". But they also have a point, while NSW and VIC still have regular new cases I can understand the other states saying keep away, although the reality is that most of the new cases in NSW and VIC are in returning travelers who are going direct to quarantine and not bringing it into the general population.
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    Hi Magma, oh yes we know! pace yourself, it does get easier and better with time. Just keep working on it. Best of luck with your continued recovery and keep us posted on your progress. Stroke fatigue is real and you will have to give in to it most of the time. All the best -Heather
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    I think this is going to end up like the yellow fever card that I have to keep with my Passport, to show that I was immunised before going into known range and so am safe to come home. We have it pretty controlled (touch wood when you say that). less than 20 new cases a day country wide and so far all traceable. So we aren't being asked or required to wear masks unless we have symptoms. It's also heading into peak cold and flu season here though so lots of people are wearing masks and anyone who sneezes gets dirty looks (mask or no mask). My sister has finally managed to convince her workmates that she isn't contagious she has chronic hayfever from dust allergy. We are starting to open up again, schools reopened this week for years 1, 2, 11 and 12 and the rest go back next week. Borders on the 2 most populated states are still closed though, travel within the state is getting much less restricted.
  5. heathber

    Looks perfect other than the steps to get in 🙂
  6. heathber

    That sounds wonderful Mark. Don't let the neighbours put you off. Cussing actually helps sometimes, as do long handled wrenches (extra leverage)
  7. heathber

    Oh so hard to do, but supposed to be freeing for the soul too. Best of luck with the move and new house, it sounds perfect.
  8. heathber

    If you aren't sure about a test your Doctor is recommending, get him to explain exactly what is involved, what the risks are and why he wants you to do this. What is the benefit? How safe something is depends on the nature of your stroke and how well you have physically recovered. There are often things they can't tell us about why we stroked in the first place, and they don't really know when or if someone will have another. So all you can do is understand your risks and manage them. Usually if a doctor is asking for a test they have a good reason to ask for it, but in the end it still comes down to how you feel about taking that test. and does to make sense to you to take it. Will it tell you something you need to know, and how sure are they that this particular test will provide an answer to the question they are trying to answer. Good luck. -Heather
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    Exactly been there done that. You do need to push out of the comfort zone, but you don't want to cripple yourself doing it. You don't know what you can't do until you try. But having the plan in place for baking off if you've taken too big a step is also necessary. It's about risk management and risk mitigation without being stuck in your cocoon. (this from the silly idiot who nearly broke her nose and her glasses trying to move a heavy box on the weekend, was pushing it with my shoulder while crawling, because I didn't want to ask for help. I need to take my own advice 🙂 )
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    Hi Ruric, there's more than one way to do just about everything. It's not about how we do it its that we do it. You got to get creative sometimes. Take care and keep on enjoying life. -Heather
  11. heathber

    Hi Sue, So much of this is outside our control, that can be very disturbing, we are used to feeling that we have control over our own lives but right now even that is not a given. To answer your question my life goes on pretty much as normal. Working from home all week rather than just a couple of days a week. So for me at least this way of working is familiar and easy. I hear that some of the other teams from my office are finding it harder and are pushing to get back to the office environment. No idea when that will happen yet. Even once the government allows it, there will have to be so many changes (things like restricting the number of people in lifts, and how many people can work in a meeting room etc.) My company sent us all "home" 2 weeks before the formal shutdown, so I'm expecting them to be very cautious about letting us come back. Thankfully the hospital rehab has remained open through all this, so I still go there twice a week. My outside hospital exercise has been moved to video wish is okay but not ideal. I hadn't realised how much I was relying on physical assistance until I could no longer have it. I have also taken advantage of the "quiet" time to get my NDIS support application in. I hadn't been bothering but these changes have shown me how much I rely on "outside" help so I want to formalise that. Fingers and toes crossed they don't say no. Outside work and exercise I'm being pretty quiet. reading, playing computer games and watching too much TV. I did spend Saturday with my sister helping her get her "box" room cleaned up a bit and some more of her books onto shelves, and in return she came here yesterday and helped me spring clean my office and get rid of the "junk" that has been getting in my way since the kitchen reno was done just before the crazy hit. take care my friend -Heather
  12. Hi Jon, don't beat yourself up about lack of progress, not all progress is visible. This stuff tends to build very slowly and gradually and it feels like nothing is happening then "all of a sudden" you reach a threshold and something works.
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    Hi Margo pushing hard is great, but pushing too hard can actually set you back. When you've done too much you make yourself vulnerable to falls and viruses as your immune system gets stressed along with everything else. Many stroke survivors learn the hard way that fighting off a simple thing like the common cold now takes much longer than before. Remember your brain now has to work much harder to achieve the same results. Be kind to yourself, and balance your efforts.
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    Kev I think there's nothing wrong with getting emotional about that. Its wrong on so many levels. Your garden looks great even if not much is growing yet. I'm going to have to investigate those water walls, my Mum and Dad could use those, they live in a very frost prone area. Good luck with all the extra incidental exercise.
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    Hi Greg worry doesn't change anything except your peace of mind. One of the big things that many stroke survivors swear by is the serenity prayer. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardship as a pathway to peace; In short form. Change the things you can change and accept the things you can't. Which means don't worry at them. Also keep in mind that stroke can do some nasty things to your brain and some anxiety and depression may be part of your deficits, not just a reasonable reaction to your changed life. Be kind to yourself and don't be afraid to ask your doctor for help.
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