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  1. cons2g

    I always remember, if this is as good as it gets, it's still better than it was (could be worse). Thanks for sharing this reminder!
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    I'll have to look for those. They sound interesting. I do have websites I use that have Spanish sitcoms just for beginners, but I'm lost most of the time, even with the English subtitles below, because it goes by so fast and I don't have the verb conjugations to understand fast enough what they're saying. Also, there are all the little nuances of word order and slipping in extra words that don't translate literally, and those seem to elude me. If only someone would just write out the rules, I would follow them! Life is so wonderful when we all just follow the rules! (says the person who makes her living as a creative musical artist).😉 Holy update, Batman! Lots of new emoticons to choose from!!
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    Beautiful photos - thanks for sharing! I have to say, the "archless" McD's reminds me of the one here in downtown Minneapolis - or am I thinking of a Burger King? Well, it looks like one of them! Guess I haven't been downtown for a while - livin' it up in the 'burbs :-)
  4. The "experts" keep telling me there's nothing wrong with my brain from the stroke (as far as cognitive procedures go) but I know that I often have a moment when I'm right in the middle of saying something or thinking something and every single thought in my brain goes completely silent. It's like someone just turned off the radio - there's nothing there. I can't even think, "Darn, what is that word I'm trying to remember?" because those words have all ceased for that moment, even though I'm aware of what's happening. I have to push my brain to get it going again. I'm really sure I didn't have this problem before the stroke (I think I probably would have noticed), but I've gone through all kinds of testing, and they keep telling me how smart I am and how far above average I am. I keep telling them, I know I do well on tests; that's not what I'm questioning. I may be "above average" for their expectations, but I'm functioning below average compared to my pre-stroke self. It annoys me to no end when everyone keeps telling me I'm fine. Recently, I was playing piano for this big music event, and in front of a room full of choir directors and a nationally known clinician, I couldn't find measure 13 in my music. Why? Because measure 16 was labelled, so I had to count backwards to 13. I couldn't remember what number came before 16! It took me about 5 tries to figure out where measure 13 was, while the entire room waited for me. How embarrassing was that?!? But no, I'm fine, there's nothing wrong with my brain! Yeah, right....
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    Back when I was in my late 20's, I worked for two different temp agencies (kept me so busy that I could actually turn down some of the jobs they offered). One of my jobs was two weeks full time data entry at a collection agency that was switching all their accounts into a new computer system. This meant that every day I sat in a huge room, typing away, while all around me were bill collectors calling people about their delinquent accounts. I couldn't believe how rude they were! And when they were between phone calls, they'd laugh with their coworkers and make fun of the people they were calling (like what reasons people gave for not being able to pay their bills). I couldn't wait to get out of there. Near the end of the two weeks, the boss offered me a full-time permanent data entry position. I managed to be polite when I told him no, thank you. Augh! I understand they need to be firm when they call people, but that's not the same as being cruel or rude - not even close!
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    I just have to jump in and say: I have a warm fuzzy relatable neuro! She's awesome. She actually saw me in the hospital when I first had my stroke, so she was very excited to see me in her office as one of her patients a couple months later (I didn't remember her until she told me she knew me, so I wasn't scheduling with her on purpose). At one of my appointments, something we talked about at the very end of our time made me start crying, and she sat with me for about 15 minutes, just comforting me and talking with me. Of course, she had other patients, but she didn't leave until she felt I was at a place where she could hand me off to her nurse. She is friendly, personable, has a great sense of humor - she went on maternity leave last year for a few months, and wow! Did I miss her! Her sub was serious, went down her little checklist, then sent me on my way. So glad my neuro is back :-) If you're ever in Minneapolis, I'll share her with you!
  7. Morning...hmm...that's about 3 p.m., right? Never was a morning person pre-stroke, and I'm way less one post-stroke. I wanted to join the very active local stroke support group here, but the only activity they have that starts later than 11:15 a.m. is an evening support group that meets twice a month for 90 minutes. All their classes, coffee & chat groups, field trips (photography class and others), special speakers, etc., meet between 8 a.m. and noon. Do they not understand who they're supposed to be reaching out to? How many people are not able to participate because everything is in the morning? I know I can't - and I've talked to one of the leaders about it, but she didn't seem to see it as a problem. Oh well...so glad I have you all!
  8. cons2g

    Welcome, Superiorgirl! Hope you find what you need here! After my stroke, I decided to be positive but honest with people when they asked how I was doing, but soon realized that for most folks, it didn't matter what I said, they just responded how great it was that I was doing better. I finally decided that they weren't rude and trying to blow me off, but that they cared and just didn't know how to show it, so they wanted to celebrate the good with me and kind of bleeped over the problematic stuff because they didn't know what to say to make it better. I decided that each time someone responded to me with an inappropriate "I'm so glad you're doing better!" I would take that as them wanting me to be better because they love me. I started feeling a lot more supported when I gave people credit for feeling helpless in the face of my crisis. (Now, the people who give me the "What's your problem?" when I struggle with something? That's a different story!). Glad you could feel free to vent here. Believe me, we all take a turn or two (or 100) at that! Lisa
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    Benni - I have to correct my previous observation about Duolingo. Must have been a glitch that day I went on there, because tonight it's working perfectly. Pshew! Heathber - Yes, Babbel and Rosetta Stone are both very popular. Unfortunately, they're also expensive (about all I can afford right now is free!). Wish I had the money - I'd love to try either one of them!
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    Hi all! As if having a stroke wasn't bad enough in and of itself! That must have been horrible, being so far from home, and trying to work with a foreign medical system. My heart goes out to you (even though it's been many years ago). I love Duolingo! That's the main online piece I use, but I quickly discovered it isn't actually teaching, it's quizzing. I am constantly going to other websites to look up conjugations for verbs or trying to find rules about how to use certain words, and then I'm stuck with memorizing reference charts in order to gain vocabulary. It's a lot of work! I would love to find some way to make it all easier. Right now, I stepped away from Duolingo for a few months, and since I've recently come back, it's working differently than it used to. I used to be able to choose which level I wanted to work on (reviewing, strengthening, or learning something new), but now it just gives me the option of clicking "Strengthen" and it chooses which level I'll work on. Also, it doesn't tell me what we're working on until I finish the quiz. I don't like it this way! I wonder if I'm doing something wrong or missing something when I go there. Hehehe...that's why I had to quit ballet lessons when I was young. My mom wanted me to practice at home during the week, but I couldn't remember any of the dance steps without a teacher or something written down. I'm still bummed about it! Oh well, at least this way, I didn't lose years of dance skills to the stroke (always a bright side to everything)!
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    I started teaching myself Spanish before I had my stroke, but fell away from it after a couple years (very part-time, I wasn't all that advanced, could only talk in present tense). Then, after my stroke, I decided I had all this time on my hands, so I picked it up again. But because of financial hardships, I didn't have any money to spend on more learning materials, so I've just been making do with free programs online and the materials I had already mastered earlier. I love the idea of being able to rattle off a conversation in Spanish, but I'm just not getting there. I hit the point where I had to start doing more advanced conjugations of verbs, and I'm completely overwhelmed by all the memorization! Plus, the best free website I've found is really only a series of quizzes - it doesn't really do the teaching. I can look at answers and look up things on other websites to teach myself (I'm pretty good at grasping language structure, grammar, spelling, etc.), but I'm only getting vocabulary that way and not much in the way of proper syntax or the subtleties of words and phrases that native speakers would know. The fun has gone out of it, and I've dropped it again, but I really would like to learn another language (besides English), and Spanish seems easy and useful (plus I pretty much rock the accent ). So to sum up: (1) Memorizing all the verb conjugations is driving me nuts! and (2) I need more guidance than just a vocab list. Anyone know of some fun (and cheap/free) ways to get past this?
  12. I have my passwords on the computer, but I've encoded them (and the names of the sites) so if someone else finds them, they won't be able to use them. The code is pretty random, and most of it only makes sense to me, like, I have a 10-digit go-to password for all those little sites where I'm not too concerned about security. I recorded the first digit and the last digit with "..." in between, so I'm the only one who knows what "..." means. And no, the document is not saved as "Passwords" - I'm no dummy! The title is encoded too so it won't make sense to anyone else thumbing through my computer. I even encoded my debit and credit card numbers so I don't have to keep getting up and going to the other end of the house when I'm shopping online (which I do a LOT since the stroke). Plus, I always seem to forget to put them back in my billfold before I leave the house, which is SO embarrassing when I reach for them at the check-out counter....
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    I second what Becky said - that's hysterical! I know it's been 6 months since you posted it, but it's still funny
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    I have to track a million different things for health and other reasons (blood sugar, meals, sleep times, etc.) and had post-it notes all over the house. It was so disorganized! Then I learned about bullet journaling - hallelujah!!! I also use a 2-page spread for each day, and it's been a lifesaver. What a great way for you to use the concept - I'm so thrilled your husband is responding to it. Give yourself a pat on the back for a genius idea! :-)
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    Since my stroke, I've become a fan of "low-stress" TV and movies. I can't always deal with the action, shoot-'em-up flicks; it's too much too fast and too loud. I turn the volume way down if I'm watching one of them. Otherwise, I like watching things like "The Andy Griffith Show" and old black and white movies, because they're much slower moving. I have trouble falling asleep at night unless I have something to focus my mind on (versus letting my mind race in circles, keeping me awake), and I've rigged up a Bluetooth speaker in the bedroom from my computer (in the living room) so I can listen to the movie "White Christmas" every night as I fall asleep. It's relatively slow moving (after the initial battle scene), and I've seen it so many times that I don't have to watch it on the screen while I listen. So I can understand why your husband may appreciate the sound off and repetition - both take WAY less brain energy to process, and that's relaxing (less stressful). Of course, I might be way off base, and he may have some other reason for what he's doing, but that's been my experience as a stroke patient.