I had a major brain stem stroke and literally rely on my wife to care for me. I’m very lucky that I didn’t lose the use of my left hand and still mentally stable. I do have anger problems since the stroke. This has been confirmed by a Dr. It’s been almost 4 years since the stroke.
My wife(caregiver) takes great care of me, but treats me awful and everyone in my family thinks I’m just losing my mind.
please, I assure you I’m not.
i know my wife loves me, but it’s a different love. We have children together. I think it’s become a love like of someone you knew in the past.
She sighs and spits when I need anything. I know I’m not the easiest person to deal with. When I get fed up and confront her. She is always like noooo I love you. So to me that means it’s involuntary and she dont even realize what’s going on. I have no one to talk to. My world has gotten so small since the stroke.
i have zero support. I’m trying to get a hold on my anger, but when I tell my wife I’m getting frustrated she herself blows a gasket and starts to argue with me. This only makes me angrier.
My brother is a smart and successful man. He is buying us a home as I can no longer work and to keep us out of government housing.
I hope I’m nuts, but I think this has become a motivation for her to just tolerate my needs. She has everyone thinking I’m nuts and they blindly agree without speaking to or with me. I’m trapped in this crazy cycle.
what should I do?
i can except that she is no longer in love with me, I understand. Is there anyone reading that is in a care facility? How are you treated?
i, by no means, want to be there. I get great care here, but treated very poorly and everyone thinks I’m losing it. I’m not, but that’s what everyone thinks that won’t talk to me.
I just don’t want my brother to keep doing this huge thing for us if I would be better off elsewhere.