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  • Birthday 07/30/1957

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  1. Oh you are expected to do way too much. No wonder you are feeling the way you do! I am sorry that you are under so much stress- that's really not good. I hope things settle down a bit for you soon. Your plate is just too full. Know that we are all here to support you and listen. Hopefully venting helps a bit. It's hard to say no and stand up for ourselves, especially when those who ask are in need themselves. Sending you hugs. SueC
  2. I was at the neurologist's office yesterday, for the first time since my stroke. The neurologist pointed out to me that my tone of voice sometimes goes flat and the tone does not match what I am saying. I had no idea. What else am I not aware of? My husband was aware of this and knew it was caused by the stroke, so he didn't tell me as he didn't take it personally. Apparently sometimes when I speak to him I sound angry. We have been together for 34 years and we have never exchanged a harsh word. It distresses me to know that I am being unpleasant, even though I wasn't aware of it. I apologized, and he and the neurologist both told me there is nothing to apologize for, it isn't my fault. Now that I am aware of it though, I will make an effort to focus on what I am saying and how I say it. The neurologist is going to set me up with a speech therapist, so hopefully that will help. Reading, which has always been one of my greatest lifelong passions, has become difficult. I find that I need to read the same page over and over and I still pick up more, as my mind skips around and I think my eyes are just going over the words out of habit. So frustrating when I get halfway through the book and wonder who a character is ( and then find out it is the main character I have been reading about all along)! Any suggestions about reading and comprehension?
  3. SueC

    Thanks everyone! We are going to our doctor on Friday, and I will discuss it with him when we are both there. I can't tell you how invaluable your advice and support is! Today is Thanksgiving here in Canada, and I am very thankful to have all of you. Sue
  4. SueC

    Great idea! Thanks Asha 🙂
  5. SueC

    Thanks so much for taking the time to write. I agree thst he needs more support and will definitely tslk to our Dr about it next week when we see him.
  6. Hi All, My stroke was on August 29,2018. My husband of 34 years and I are still trying to cope with the new normal. My only deficits are low energy and concentration and I can't speak for long periods of time without stuttering or not getting any words out. I am writing this because I really need to vent. I am and always was a big worrier. Now I am even more worried about my husband than before the stroke. He had a severe clinical depression and has not been able to work for 4 years. He was getting better, and I was starting to manage to get him out of the house, and now this. By this, I mean the stroke. I had high cholesterol and didn't realize it. My mom had a stroke and my dad had a heart attack, so the blood clot and narrowed artery in my brain could be genetic. That, and being raised on a European diet. After the stroke I decided to completely change my diet to plant based, no dairy no oil, no salt. I found this easy to do, and really enjoy the recipes I have found. My concern is that since my husband enjoys a lot of junk food, he now consumes more foods that are really bad for him, and based on the wrappers in the trash, he is eating a lot. He is also staying up all night and going to bed at 5 or 6 am, although this is not new, he has always been a night owl. I am concerned that he is using sleep and food to cope and I am having trouble not feeling upset that the stroke has caused this and also set him back in his recovery. He goes to a mood disorder group every week, and I can only hope he talks about it. I can't help him, I can't even help myself right now. Any coping suggestions to help me would be welcomed, and thanks so much for reading this.
  7. SueC

  8. Thanks for posting the photos Mark!

    1. Madade


      It was a good challenge.  Perhaps I can do another few this year again.  Love fall.

  9. Yes, Asha, you are very lucky! It's so good to hear that there are such caring people in the world, and you found one!
  10. SueC

    I am a huge nature lover, my small back garden is set up as a bird sanctuary. Reading your story warmed my heart and made my day. Thank you so much!
  11. Thanks Paul! I live in BC, and I will look and see if anyone online has a list of quiet restaurants. My family usually gathers at our house, which is a blessing, as we have always shared cooking and serving and clean up. This coming Monday is Thanksgiving, and it's a bit too soon for me to have everyone here, so we may forgo Thanksgiving this year, or perhaps celebrate it at a later date. I am hoping that by the holidays I will be able to host again, thanks to my family of elves that all help!
  12. SueC

    Oh I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
  13. SueC

    Pam, I am a newbie here and only one month in since my stroke, so I can't offer any wise words. I wish you Peace and Love, and know that we are all here for you.
  14. Thanks so much to everyone for your helpful comments! We all met in a restaurant and my family was thoughtful enough to book a room so there were just 10 of us in there. It really helped not having a lot of people traffic and noise! A couple of times I couldn't follow conversations, and I expected that. What I didn't expect was that sometimes my words wouldn't come out. When that happened, I started to panic, and my husband just put his hand on my shoulder and said "It's okay, just breathe". That really helped a lot. Once I took that breath, I was able to continue. Rather than having dessert in the restaurant, we all went to a quiet coffee shop right next door, and it was much easier for me to follow the conversations. All in all, it was a wonderful evening, and I am so glad I went. I am having a down time day today after checking out the chat for the first time.
  15. Thank you all for your replies. When I read them I burst into tears. I am no longer alone. Thank you.