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  • Birthday 10/17/1940
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  1. ebjb After stroke and heart surgery, I also ended up with Afib. I had many side effects. from the Flecainide, Amiodorone etc. but; headaches were not part of it. I would suspect your medication; but, that's just because of my personal experience. Hopefully the medic wil be able to pin it down. Good Luck. James
  2. Thea, You are right and I did misunderstand the reason for your anger and resentment. It must be very hard to handle the idea that your husband's stroke could have been avoided. Unfortunately doctors are not infallible. "Oh buckets" indeed.!!! I'm afraid I'm not qualified to deal with the anger and resentment you are feeling toward that PCP. Speech therapy is something I had to deal with. I got my best results by singing (by myself and where I couldn't be heard by others). Pick a song he is already familiar with and let the repetition begin. So sorry you and your husband are having to fight this battle and I wish you both the best. James
  3. Thea, Just know that everything you are feeling is real and must be dealt with. You are a victim (or survivor) of your husbands stroke just as he is. He didn't ask for it and neither did you. Your whole world has been turned upside down. Having said that, I must add one caution, and that is to deal with the anger and resentment the best you can. You can't have much effect on the stroke happening but you can have an effect on the anger and resentment. And you will have to do that while carrying a very heavy load as a caregiver. You do still exist as a person - a very valuable and important person. You can do what is necessary. It is evident by the way you have analyzed the situation. The foregoing is not medical advice, it is the result of many many discussions between my caregiver wife and me. I suspect the majority of the people on this site have felt or believed some if not all of the things you are experiencing. Don't be afraid to vent to us - we've been there. Take care of yourself so you can take care of the other one. James
  4. I have always had bouts of vertigo. Post stroke the bouts are worse and are much harder to get over. Also my ability to handle stress is much weakened. Just have to keep reminding myself that I can still walk, still talk and still love; but, not as well as before. Our "new normal" world with Covid 19 exacerbates everything else. Cut yourself some slack and try to concentrate on celebrating the good stuff and minimizing the bad. You are important -- just the way you are!!! James
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    I can't be of much help since my stroke was quickly followed by major heart problems. So I never know what symptoms are caused by which problem. But let me welcome you and I'm sure some of the good folks here will be able to help you. I do know , however, that the shakiness many times attends the tiredness. Good luck with your future!
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    Green Queen, You have hit the nail on the head. It is not the staying but the requirement for staying. But I see some others who are sneaking out and by doing so they are endangering all the rest of us. So we will stay sequestered and make the best of it. You spoke of pets, we have a chocolate lab and take her walking several times a day - that helps. But we make sure to keep our distance from anyone else we meet. To all of you, keep yourselves and yours safe during this trying time for our world. James
  7. We live in a senior retirement complex. Even though we are "independent", we are voluntarily staying in our apartment. They bring us our meals from the facility kitchen. The food is good and we love our apartment - so what is the problem? Boredom and lonesomeness. I had arranged for a "stroke survivor discussion group" and our first meeting was scheduled for the first night of our being sequestered. I am sure all of you wherever you live are suffering from pandemic restrictions or the disease itself. Take care of your selves. This is just another thing to survive and overcome. James
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    Sorry you have to be here but Welcome, we're glad you came. Temperature sensations in the affected parts of our bodies are something many of us deal with. I don't know why it occurs and I don't know how to fix it (so I'm not much help) other than to say - Don't apologize for venting. We all need to do that. It is good to vent to those who are not our caregivers. If we can help, we will; If not, we will listen and understand. We do care. Keep talking and maybe someone will stop by the site who has a suggestion related to the cold areas. James
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    So! Sometimes I am too chicken to monkey around. and Sometimes my chicken goes cold turkey when my monkey turns Ape. And just the thought of zip ties can cool the ardor. My wife and I are trying different things and some of them are working, so mostly good news. At least I have the pseudo Bulbar affect to blame if there is crying. Love ya all!!!
  10. Actually the "lumbering along" is descriptive of the fact I am not following a controlled diet, the way I used to do. I was at one time very strict with myself over food choices and amounts. Presently, I am careful but not nearly as strict as before.
  11. leolady, Hopefully some of our people who are dealing with diabetes and stroke recovery will weigh in on your questions. My diabetes and stroke recovery are lumbering along and I have not needed any of the new medications. All I can say is - stay in touch with your Doctor. It must have been a fearful experience to end up on the floor in your kitchen. I think it is very important to determine the cause of your fainting. Good luck in your battle. James
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    I can't believe that I am discussing this subject on this site and I am comfortable doing so. Just goes to show the trust and caring shown by the people on the site. Several who have responded to this subject have acknowledged to having problems with their intimacy and that makes me less bothered about my situation. Thanks to all.
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    Kelli, No, you are not off base. Your advice is good and warrants another try by me and mine. Maybe that pink bunny, banging the drum is a new normal? James
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    Renzo, Welcome to the group. Hope you find all these folks as helpful as I have. James
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    👩‍❤️‍👨This may be a race that I'm going to lose. The other runner just does not show up at race time. I hate not having the sexual companionship but also hate what it does to my self image and confidence. I'm not sure how to "move on". Most other areas such as how I walk, how I talk, how I look - I can just accept the status quo and move on; but this sexual area seems to keep coming back and challenging me. But I guess there is another way to look at it -- If you are the only one running and you still can run alone, you will win every race.😜
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