LgSeaunier

Stroke Caregiver - male
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About LgSeaunier

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  • Birthday 03/03/1958

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  • Stroke Anniversary (first stroke)
    04-13-2020
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  • First Name
    Lyle
  • State
    Washington
  1. LgSeaunier

    Hello my friends It's Friday night and my lover hasn't been belligerent all week. It's so nice! I'm down to two things to do. Building a 16 ft yurt is next. We need shelter until the house is built. Should be fun!! I'll keep you posted. Thank you for all your understanding and kindness (can't say that enough) I'm so grateful I found you. I'm not in that BAD place anymore!!! I'll post whenever I can. Huggies to each of you Lgs
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    Janelle was right. I tried never to let him see me fall apart, but two days ago he hit me twice, second time aiming for my nose. Well, when I knew I was about to fall apart, he wouldn't hear of me being alone. So he saw it. During my crying I looked at him and said "if you ever have doubts of my love for you, remember me now. I go through this because of my love for you. My head says RUN AND RUN FAST, but my heart says YOU CAN'T. " I told him other things too but that's the important things. Well, today he was different. Today he was kind and funny like he used to be (kind of) I see this as p
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    Hello everyone Everyone who reads this post is encouraged to please post your thoughts. More outside thoughts for me to draw upon, will help me make a more informed decision. Thank you. I'm working on moving two states away (600 miles) to our property. I see this decision as - - what helps me, will help my lover. I could focus on him rather rather than having the stress of my current situation of my family. Because we have no therapies any longer, I've worked out our own plan. Being on our property will give him therapy without him thinking of it that way, and have his inter
  4. LgSeaunier

    Why do I always have to be the strong one? I have been forever. With most everyone I've ever known which is why I've been on hold my whole life, never allowed to accomplish what I want. Problem is, I'm now falling apart inside. It's getting harder and harder to be strong for him. But I must push onward no matter what. Just had to say it, I can't anywhere else.
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    I want me family out of my life. I've been working on that for around 4 years now. My lover agreed to my decision. They say you can't choose your family. I say you can choose whether they are in your life or not. It may be an odd thing, but I can can take my lovers belligerence much better than my families. Especially my sisters (I'll not get into that on right now). My lover has the big "D" due to his cancer (according to his Dr.) and we need to stay close to a restroom so I can take care of it and change his depends when needed. Well, when we're out and about, we always seem to b
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    Janelle (GreenQueen ) Thank you for understanding. "we got you " was close enough to compel me to respond that way. Thank you for your empathy and compassion. Thank you all for that !!! It means the world to me that I am being heard. I'm glad you said "to talk and vent it's good for the soul. " My next post just might take you up on that. Lgs
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    Ksmith; Love the uncooked pasta analogy. I have an odd understanding of the world and I understood what you said. It's entirely sensible. Thank you for telling your story on my thread. LGS
  8. LgSeaunier

    becky1 I know what you were saying and I did not take it like that at all. These are helpful thoughts. No need to worry about saying something the wrong way. If I don't understand how something is said, I will ask for clarification.
  9. LgSeaunier

    Oh Deigh; I must respond to you. You reevaluated your own behavior because of the things I'm going through - - WOW - - I can only respond by saying, if I can do that to just one person, then that makes what I have to endure worthwhile. Thank you for posting that, you brought tears to my eyes. Posts like yours encourages me more than any other post could thank you - thank you - thank you L. G. S.
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    I would like to thank all who has given feedback and thoughtful ideas to help my situation. I am overwhelmed that there are others who understand and actually want to listen to me. Saying nothing about caring about my well being. I lay quietly in bed when my lover is asleep, and cry about it. Thank you all L.G.S.
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    Heather. I just reread your first post and I understand what you were saying. Though emotional to read, I realize that post stroke will never return to what once was. It's okay though, because I've learned through my life how to swing with life's changes. And believe me, they change all to often and much too quickly. That story of opening the seel on yogurt was it? Humorous, made me chuckle. Like you, I always try to find the funny side of things. Thank you for those kind and thoughtful words.
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    ** WARNING ** ALERT ** this is quite lengthy and in your face near the end. Apologies for that. Dear StrokeNetwork; I am overwhelmed with all of you, more of that later. First things first however. Heather; you were the first to post. That post I will refer to often, your idea of “draw a line in the sand” was the first I tried. I knew I could do that one and an outside person suggesting that, gave me the strength to not “cave” this time. Thank you for your encouraging words, they mean more than you know (you might understand how much later). Thank you also f
  13. LgSeaunier

    I tell him I'm doing it because I love him. He barks back NO YOU DON'T. I'll be posting something rather lengthy, but informative. Thank you ksmith for posting. I greatly appreciate each and every person who listens to me. Thank you all
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    I Must report in again. My lover pleasantly surprised me this morning. He wanted to practice his speech, so he took out the sentences given to us when we had therapies and read them very clearly. Then he started practicing calling me by my name rather than Daddy - - amazing - - I finely have hope for us again. He finely wants to try doing things for himself. And all it took was to draw a line in the sand. Thank you for helping me see beyond my own desperation and discouragement after 5 months of belligerence and anger. Perhaps now we can move forward to a new future.
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    Heather &GreenQueen; I took the first step based on your advice. I "drew a line in the sand" today. He ranted for 5 hours about it. He wanted to leave me for good and have me put in jail, among many other things. All for not wavering on him tending to himself in the bathroom. I'm proud of myself for not caving in this time. 😀 thank you Heather & GreenQueen for giving me the strength. Through this "journey" I'm really in need of encouragement and support. I'm so grateful I found and was accepted into this group. Thank you-thank you-thank you.