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  1. jriva

    Just saying 'Hi' and I like heathber's idea (above) about planning recovery days at the same time you plan a vacation.
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    Happy Anniversary jriva!

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    Happy Anniversary jriva!

  4. Just saw you have left a message on Lin's blog, nice to see you back on again.

  5. jriva

    Best of luck to you, Asha. I agree with Gary: there a lots of things in the community to get involved in and arriving at that point in your recovery where you can start making time for those things is a healthy and good sign. So don't forget, there's all kinds of blog communities out there in the world beyond Strokenet if you start missing writing too much.
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    Wayward Husband

    I can't believe it's been almost 10 years since Don's stroke. It happened in May of 2000 and we're already gearing up to have another 'Thank God I'm Alive' party like we did on his 5th anniversary out. Wall washing is in progress. The guest list is on Don's mind and yesterday we made a trip to a party store specializing in bulk food to scope out prices. We'll invite about 60 people. After the store, we went to a local bookstore where my wheelchair bound, aphasic husband was so being so silly I was afraid he'd get us kicked out. If you want to read about the bookstore trip check out my blog ent
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    . Doesn't love naturally breed 'duty'? According to my dictionary duty is: "An action required by one's occupation or position, a moral or legal obligation." As a daughter to my dad I shared his care with my brother for five years both out of a profound sense of love AND a strong set of values that says that family helps one another in their time of need. i.e. you care for children when they are young; they care for you when you are old. Call it duty if you want but if you love someone there really is no choice, you do what needs to be done and accept your luck of the draw. Maybe the concept
  8. . I'm just returning from a two week pity party. You know the kind where you don't think you can handle one more metaphorical---or real, for that matter---hangnail. Giving myself a sharp "get over yourself, everyone has problems" usually keeps pity parties off my property---I'm generally an upbeat kind of person---but not this time. This time, four out-of-place vertebrae were playing sadistic games with the nerves running down my leg and they threw open the front door inviting the pity party pack to camp out in the living room. Woo is me! The cry fest started and the tears were only inter
  9. jriva

    Hi Butch, I am somewhat surprised to read your blog. Of all the male caregiver/spouses to come through this site, you were one of the few I thought would make it. But statistically and sadly you're right on track for marriages that fail after a stroke. I don't think the guilt of 'cutting and running' will ever leave you---it human nature when you've loved someone in another lifetime. So with that in mind, you might want to explore the idea of still doing something to remain in Lisa's life in a limited way---maybe be someone who can be counted on a couple times a month to give relief to w
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    Are you Reliant?

    If you want to feel old really fast get a new digital camera. At least the one I just got is making me feel that way. It came with not one but TWO user guides and some of the pages have such small print that I have to use a magnifying glass just to read them. Worse than that, the camera has a mode dial with tiny icons on it and without my handy-dandy magnifying glass I'd never know those little suckers are suppose to represent things like: portraits, night shots, indoors, landscapes, movies and a bunch of letters I've yet to decipher. It even has an icon for aquariums. Aquariums! Who needs tha
  11. jriva

    Wow, that's great news, Gary. He's come a long way. Jean
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    Back but Probably Forgotten

    It must be old home week around here. It looks like I'm not the only long-lost member catching up their blog. We've had a busy fall since I last updated my blog over at Bloggers. My newest entry is about our woos in spending eleven months dealing with Medicare over Don's wheelchair replacement and about us potentially becoming one of the latest victims of the Wall Street crisis. Read "Old and Obsolete" here. For pet lovers, our dogs have been prolific in sharing their unique views in their blog of living in a post-stroke world with Don and me. Levi has been a joy with his spirit, energy
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    Janine, Have you discussed with Larry's primary doctor having a visiting nurse come to the house to change his catheter at regular intervals? Does the college where Larry taught have a speech pathology department that works with people/clients in the community? Maybe he'd be more open to doing speech therapy in an academic setting? The colleges with speech programs often have senior students who will make house visits to help with speech therapy for low-cost private pay in the summer months. You'd have to get recommendations from the head of the department. You'd also need to get La
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    Mid-Summer Update

    We went out for pizza with old friends last night which was both a happy and sad time. Happy because it's always great to see old friends but sad because it accentuated yet another growing post stroke problem..... Click here to read the rest of this blog entry. I haven't been blogging much for myself but the dogs have been really active, even won several bloggers' awards in the process. You can read up on their adventures here. I recently got a job offer writing articles that evolved out of that article I wrote last month for the contest with a $5,000 prize. I didn't win but someo
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    Sue, It sounds like Tori is a bright star in your life now. I'm glad you're getting to spend some quality time with her. Jean