Deenie

Stroke Caregiver - female
  • Posts

    186
  • Joined

  • Last visited

Everything posted by Deenie

  1. Happy Anniversary Deenie!

  2. Happy Anniversary Deenie!

  3. Happy Anniversary Deenie!

  4. my putor crashed a couple of weeks ago so sent it away and am using the old on.. hope that they leave most of the stuff I had on it before but said they couldn't gaurantee anything.. so as winter comes one has more time to spend at it... my new one is only 10 months old, so if you don't hear from I'm stuck..
  5. my condolences to you and your family... she was so young... glad you got away for a few days..always refreshing we are plannibg a bit of a get away later on next month tosee an aging aunt and some cousins...enjoy the food and hope you have a bit of luck...
  6. Deenie

    Ray is alone

    I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers..I stayed with my hubby for over a month when he had his stroke as he was very depressed and confused..and didn't really know very much about his surroundings or happenings going on...
  7. I can only offer hugs and prayers as we live in Canada and things are different here as far as health care goes. It is the same here they keep putting you off on to the other guy and passing the buck. Just when you think you may have found some help or advice you are told you should see so and so who is either not available or does not exist..Perhaps the VA could find him some help or couselling..
  8. Deenie

    a golden day

    great to hear you both had such a wonderful time... nice to hear Ray enjoyed himself so much...we had our 40th a couple of years ago and hubby was not that ready to be with so many people as he was still quite emotional at the time. We actually just used up one of our gift certificates last month and really enjoyed our supper,, were given a piece of cheese cake with a candle to celebrate even though it was like two years past..have many pictures ad lots of memories....
  9. Deenie

    Changes

    congrats on your fifth year anniversary... and also your quitting smoking... I always enjoy your blogs and look forward to when I have more time to take more time to blog and chat...
  10. Deenie

    I'm Home

    Bonnie nice to have you home again..Congrats on your quitting smoking and nice to hear your mother inlaw is doing so well..Hubby is still coming along and I hope he doesn't get depressed as this is very hard on both of us... Talk to you soon...
  11. Sorry to hear of Coopers passing... so nice that you were there and comforted him in his last moments... he sounds like he is in a happy place now.. our friends just lost their Bejion at Xmas. Their doggie was also around 15 years old and she had a real personality and definately a member of the family..I don't think they will get another as they like to travel.. My hubby's nephew has a cross-- shitsu and minaiture doberman,,very cute and she just loves him follows him all over and licks his pudding cup or anything that he gives her...Enjoy your new doggie, loved Coopers blog????
  12. Deenie

    Canada

    Hi I'm Deenie from Battleford Saskatchewan...caregiver to hubby going on six years...
  13. Deenie

    A SAD FAREWELL

    Tommorrow we will begin our journey to the end of an era.. We will leave from Calgary to Kelowna BC, where we will meet up with the rest of the family. With my brothers and sister and some of Mom and Dad's friends we will have a funeral Mass, lunch and mingle with the people. From there we will go on to a private internment of their ashes..It will be a sad day for us as it is a final resting place for people we all loved.. Dad passed away 20 years ago and Mom still had his ashes as she wanted to be buried with him.. Reliving 20 years ago will be very hard for me as my Dad was special to me.. He is the one who named me Deenie as I could not pronounce my real name.. He had nick names for all of us...Mom was sick for the last year so we knew she wanted to go, but dad died of cancer rather quickly and wasn't ready as they had just moved to their new condo.. He never really enjoyed it.. as they only had it a year. got to go to bed as it will be a long day tommorrow and a tiring week end... Will fill you in on the rest when we come back..
  14. Thank you for your blog. I too have helped out my mother in law and cared for her house and yard when she was on holidays, making sure all the garden and flowers were watered.. then when she went to the condo after Dad died we always made sure she was well taken care of.. We brought her meals when the homecare was not available..then when she went into the nursing home we were there for her.. Later on when she needed feeding we all helped and she died in our arms.. I think I would have done the same for my Mom if I had been closer as she just passed away just a couple of weeks ago... My sister inlaw and I, all the grandchildren and even the great grandchildren made her life happier just being there for her...I also try to help if some one can't do things and don't expect pay. If I can do it,it feels good...
  15. Deenie

    Almost a year..

    enjoy you time away and have lots of fun ,let your hair down and party hardy
  16. Deenie

    Thirty Days

    Way to go Bonnie sounds like you are managing well with the smoking and also able to keep the home fires burning and the animals fed... You have not broken your toe kicking the furniture so it seems like you will make it.. will keep you in my thoughts... i_did_it!:
  17. Hi Ken Great to hear you are doing so well... As you say a stubborn streak is sometimes a great help in one's recovery..No one knows it better than I, as my husband is very determined and I think this has helped him in his recovery.. He has come so far in his stroke journey almost six years ago...He seems to be improving still, as he can see the difference it makes when he really trys... Keep up the good work and hope to hear from you soon.. :Clap-Hands:
  18. :hug: :hug: I agree with you some people just can't deal with someone who has suffered a stroke.. It seems to intimidate them.. One of the fellows who goes to our stroke group has said the same thing that you have walk the walk in order to really understand the people involved, caregiver and survivor.. he is a survivor who has had a heart attack and also a stroke...he was social worker who dealt with children and is very smart even after the ordeal he has encountered...what a wonderful person, my hubby and him just get along great and can communicate very well..I am sending you hugs{{{{}}}} and please take it easy when Ray is gone of to respite...all the dust bunnies can wait, just do what you need to...I know I am very lucky that my hubby doesn't have too many problems but it is only time and I will have to face that day to... I send my love and prayers... Deenie
  19. Deenie

    Checking In

    congrats on your quiting smoking,, it is hard but one has to be determined... also I hope MIL is not in too much pain I hope you can manage to keep the home fires burning and feed all the animals till John gets back.. lots of hugs to you and I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers... PS get lots of water... I drink a lot of it we buy it for our dispenser... and I always praise my hubby nd tell him how good it is makes him feel good like he has done some thing for me...
  20. Deenie

    mom's gone

    I haven't been blogging for a while but have enjoyed all of your blogs...still tired most of the time and when not I want to use the energy to get the things done that I have to do in order to organize my life better.. My Mom passed away this morning so that has kept us on the phone trying to make her life happier in her last moments.. we knew she was leaving us and were not able to see her as the roads were not very good in the mountains and the staff told us she did not know or respond .. Dad died 20 years ago and he will probably ask Mom "what took you so long?" "Did you have to eat that much oatmeal?" So today I was on the phone, phoning her sister and sister inlaw who are both in their late 80's and early nineties, my voice gave up so will continue tomorrow.. We will have her memorial in the spring ... I had the choir in the church sing do not be afraid .. and I had my cry so felt better after that .. will try and blog again .. but I do enjoy all a the rest of your humor and witt keep up the good work..
  21. Isn't this just the nicest happy forum with the new color.. sort of gives one a lift.. sorry to hear of your uncle's passing, but as you say he now is at peace.. my Mom is also dying and is not really able to communicate very well, as she is too weak to speak..I guess it is a matter of time before she will not be able to function either.. she was able to talk to me today for a bit on the phone and the nurse said she took a bit of soup, other than that she is only getting ice chips to suck on.. would love to go down but the roads are not very good so just have to wait till they improve.. happy valentines everyone.. hubby said he is taking care of supper tommorow.. a surprize???
  22. Not much fun having that kind of pain.. glad Trev could look after things and you had time to rest.. you need to take care of yourself and let the cleaning go, no one sees the dust bunnies but you so let them be and enjoy life a little..
  23. hi wish I could help you more but all I can do is wish you could get better fast and that might help with your problems...I can only send you lots of hugs and keep you in my prayers :hug: :hug: :hug:
  24. great blog couldn't have said it any better...don't feel guilty when you leave Ray with others as you know if you get sick there is no one else... so go down to the beach and enjoy yourself...put on your best frock and let it all hang loose..just for a day...relax and enjoy your time away you have earned it...
  25. Welcome to the frozen north... I'm sure that you will miss Florida and this time of year especially.. I guess it's not as cold as our neck of the woods but may taking some getting used to... I wish you a pleasant trip and hope all the animals are at their best behavior.. Will wait to hear from you when you get there...