Deenie

Way to go there... the body makes the mind grow stronger.. Keep on a ridin and things will keep on improving..good luck

heat turned on,,, happy happy... scissor lift in place,,, hubby trying to remember how to run it... well first attempt at cutting an angle on a mitre saw actually not too bad.. started to put up blocking and all went well but awful funny smell. Finished some off blocking and found air too hard to work in so had to quite and call the plumber as carbonmonoxide was coming into the shop and made it too hard to work...plumber came and found a large birds nest blocking the chimney. Good thing we realized that something was wrong or we may have been affixiated.. went home early and did some book work and then went for supper...hubby sick with the flu... end of day,,, time for a leisurely bath .... Another day in the life of a gofer ak liberated woman???? :cheer: :big_grin: :Clap-Hands: :

well today was supposed to be the day to get heat . I woke at six in order not to sleep in so I could get a hold of the required people to get this together.. well got a hold of the adjoining neighbour and found him to be kind of grumpy,,,the energy people were clueless,the plumber was on time..well the grumpy neighbour showed up to put his guard dogs in the building,the plumber stayed and the energy lady was still clueless, put me on hold several times. 10 o'clock was the time to get all together and attempt but no energy man and the energy lady still clueless. By this time the neighbour was gone the plumber stayed and the lady still had me on hold... not knowing where in the world anyone in here dept was... put everything on hold and attempted to reinforce an unstable wall, not easy on a ten foot ladder..did get a wedge in there to stabalize it and then left.. cold and peed off. think plumber may have got the heat on, will know tommorrow....now have a scissor lift so will be much easier... wish us luck... so goes another day in the world of real renos.. : :big_grin: :Clap-Hands: :Clap-Hands:

thanks Sue always need encouraging words to help make the effort better.. help never showed up so have to go it alone next to hubby who still needs my advise and doesn't want it....communication problems

got the third wall done and ready to insulate... plumber showed up to turn on the heat, so hope he turns it on soon has to test the lines first... hope everyone gets their part done as it involves several steps... feeling a better today hope that dam flu leaves as so much to do.not very interesting but have made progress

not much to report , finished one more wall but have to level it yet,, not much energy today,still have the flu and it just wipes me...morning not bad but afternoon and evening exausted...got to get this building done before it gets cold..maybe they will turn on the heat got to get inspected first.... now off to bed and hope I feel better in the morning...

nothing to report today... day of rest and research on how to deal with communication problems that are recuring.... me thinks I have to do the thinking and things will work out it's just to get the thoughts to register. : :big_grin: I think I have made some progress once he sees how much better my idea will work I think he'll be able to put it together with my help :big_grin: :big_grin: :big_grin: that's tommorows woes..wish me luck aand thanks for the info scooterman...

Me thinks I found the page to write on ....very tiring day of building with some one who knows lots but has forgotten....ripped down two walls and attempted to do what I said in the first place, he finally realized I was right??? good thing I am so adept at gofering now I can be head gofer and advisor????think we'll take the day off tommorow and recupe hope it stays warm so we can carry on,,,,will fill you in on the next episode wall #3 on monday......

thanks for caring today was a more productive day and nothing like the one from hell..hope we can see a few more as winter is approaching and things need to be done,,, they're talking about stem cells on discovery so am going to go.. :

did you ever hit the nail on the head when you said we have to find ourselves again and live for me once in a while instead of just being a caregiver. seems the more I try do what I can to make life easier the more uncooperative he gets....I really try to look to the future but it just seems there doesn't seem to be one...maybe tommorrow will be better but today stinks...

Sorry to hear about your friend, the one who stuck by you through thick and thin.. It is very depressing to hear news like that ...You have to take time to be with your friend and when the time is right come back and blog along... We are here for you so feel free to come back for support...I have a good friend that is having some new health problems and just told me she was not too impressed with going throught the same processes again... so I will touch base again and try and give her some support... lots of hugs deenie

: Ann and Sue your blogs sure brought tears to my eyes. I can relate to doing what you can for your loved one and then putting the rest in God's hands... I have this clipping on my fridge that says ::: " I know God won't give me more than I can handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much... " I know we all try to do the best to care for our spouses but get very worn out and find it hard to carry on some days... It is very hard to explain it to others who do not live with them as they don't see the limitations of the person needing the constant care...both physical and mental,as one never seems to be able to rest without worrying about how to cope... I think we should let Jesus put his arms around us and craddle us as he will when we ask him ,and let him take up our burden and give us the rest that we so desperately need in these trying times.....I'm ready....Sue sorry to hear that Ray is not doing so good and that you are worn out...I think that you should talk to your doctor about more care for him and some more help even if it's in respite for a few days or more..when a caregiver gets sick the survivor is not being taken care of and all suffer in the end...God bless you both and I'll keep you in my prayers.... :: :cloud9: : :cloud9: ::

So true Jean.....I feel God's presence often and when I take the time to talk to him he's there////// :cloud9: : :cloud9: :

I guess there's still some kind and thought full souls in the world today.. I also experienced help from a kind person today.. was having a major plumbing and had figured it out by the time he got there... he only had to change some washers but needed two people to do the job as it involved turning the main water to the house... Almost got it finished now but have to go back and check the leaks... wekend here got to take a break.....God bless them all .... it's not how wealthy you are it's how much you helped some one along the way there :cheer: :big_grin: :Clap-Hands:

hI,,, my hubby was also a hunter and also enjoyed the male bonding in the camp...he took our two boys with him and introduced them to the sport ,...which they have not carried on with because they would rather fish...all his buddies are either too old to walk the bush or have passed on so he is going to sell his guns soon I hope, and put that era behind us... I got to be a fairly good wild game cook though...and sometimes miss a deer steak cooked in the fireplace over wood coals yummy....he has a trophy deer head for the best mully in Sask.. and it is mounted but hanging in our shop cause I won't let him put it in our living room....I suppose one of these days we'll have to do something with it too ...our insurance agent says it's worth big bucks?????? any one know.....

hi I know what you are talking about as we have the same situation here and as you say it gets worse when they are tired or yourself yourself is out of sorts....we have a communication problem in that he sometimes thinks he is doing things the right way and they are backwards. I find I have to try and explain things in advance which sometimes works better than others, I wish I could pinpoint the reason he does this but also am at a loss as to what really triggers the irrational behavior... a child you can send to their room or give them a swat and they will usually get the picture... I think it has something to do with taking away their independence as they see it.. and maybe they can't see how they can gain control.. I have cried many a tear and also have thought of and alternative and then I put myself in his shoes and say no I can not do it ....I read a lot and hope to find the answer soon as it is very frustating for us both as we did everything together and never had to ask for help or hire help...lots of hugs

very important do feel independent and also able to contribute to everyday tasks that they are able to do,,, I always tell hubby that he helps me so much and that I can't do everything so is so helpful when he pitches in.. we have a communication problem at times so things can be interpreted wrong and can cause a riff in our day.. when he does good he is proud of himself but he has not gained back his confidence level, it will come with encouragement...I told him it will take time but it will come and now he realizes it most times and then others he doesn't...got to read up more on stroke to deal with this lack of communication any pointers???

hi in the last several months I also haver been able to let my hubby take the resturant bill and also leave a tip... he still doesn't understand the concepts of money and how he should budget so he has enough money to pay the bills,,, as I'm afraid he would forget and have his utilities cut off for none payment. so that's my job now and he drives me around so he can see where his pension cheques go...sometimes I think he thinks I am taking his money and being cheap by not letting him blow it...part of stroke I think

Hi .. I also wish I had your talents for writing, you explain everything so well. I must commend you on the way you view life as you have gone through so much since Ray's first stroke.. I too have weathered many a storm but only one stroke, however moods are another issue... Well we are looking toward to fall here which can very lovely most of the time.. For me it's a time to get everything ready for winter which can be quite trying and long... Love to go away to Hawaii for about three months and just relax but I don't think that's possible... I guess I can dream... My hubby started a new kind of therapy here for releasing some of the stiffness in his body and believe he is very tired and sore,and takes him a lot more time to do anything that requires much movement... hope it works at 65.00 an hour.... Keep your chin up and enjoy spring and also don't feel guilty for needing some respite.... God knows we need it.... Deenie

Hi ... We have built many a home and I have never had such frustration as with our electrician in the last one we built....He would not put anything where I wanted it, I ended up cying over the whole ordeal and in the end my husband had to move and add the outlets we wanted ... Actually I should have informed the owner of the company as my hubby and him had done lots of other jobs together and would not have been very pleased if he knew about the way I was treated.... LESSON LEARNED DON'T PUT UP WITH ANY CRAP FROM PEOPLE THAT ARE NOT IN CHARGE AND REALLY DON;T KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING....

Grandchildren are even more fun as you can spoil them and then send them home..I joked with one of the teen twins that the store must have run out of material when the made her swim suit as it was so skimpy and I would be glad to supply them with the extra required to lengthen certain areas of the pattern they had used..good laugh had by all....good luck with your bunnies my kids used to bring home stray dogs...

Well guys I think many men have decorating tastes in their mouth and this does not help when trying to pick colors and furniture...Let me tell you I have gone through it all...won some and compromised on others only to be sorry in the end..... at least he is not trying to mask baseboards and trim which is what happened to us this last time...to say the least things are not quite like they should be, a bit of touch up required....I bought a picture for my former house and paid a good dollar for it now I wish I hadn't as since changing decor it does not go as well as I wished so am going to buy in expensive ones from now on...lesson learned...Let him help pick colors or assessories for another room and then tell him they are not available at present.. works for me {sometimes}Wish you luck Deenie

I know what you mean by your hubby being a different person and only liking certain foods.. I think that when a person has a stroke certain parts of their taste buds are effected and they can only use part of their taste buds so can only taste certain foods...My hubby is the opposite of your's he wants to do everything himself and doesn't want my help... only when he runs into trouble... I find he has a hard time to express himself and gets quite angry and frustrated when things don't go his way...we are working on it.... good luck and let him see for himself that he can do a lot without your assistance ... it will give him confidence ,, he just needs praise, sort of like a child... praise him for trivial things like how good the glass of water is he brought you etc ,..good luck and keep on trucking....

I have 35 tomato plants so hope to have some to try this recipe. I freeze my tomatoes whole and add . them to the dishes that I make in the winter .... just put in boiling water and slip the skins and add to casseroles etc, just as good as fresh... I love canned ones too but you got to be careful how you process them...I make salsa from them too yummy, of course I love anything sour... or with a bit of a bite. Will try your recipe on the barbeque,,, I use the barby for a lot of cooking in the summer indirect cooking, even made a pie,, and then I use my toaster oven for the rest.. too hot to start up the oven for two people,,we are having a heat wave here too in Sask,, Canada.. keep sending the recipies

Hi Sue... sorry to hear of Ray's problem I know it's very hard on you to look afer him in such situations... they have a disposible pads that you can put in the bed so they can be thrown away .. we have very hot weather here in good old just to cool you off ... It's 33 degrees C here today and every one is complaining that it's too hot , have to go out in the early morning or we will get sun stroke cause our bodies are not used to such heat ... won't complain cause it's only temporary.. and we will wish for some of those temps in another couple months.. take care and hang in there try and get some help with Ray or it will wear you out...I hope the sun shines soon as too many a gloomy days are depressing .. ny sask.Canada