Deenie

great blog Sue ......as you say we should be grateful for the things we can do and not what we can't do.... I know things are not perfect and never will be ... I find it very hard to do everything and not get the understanding that I need to go on .. I wish I could just adjust my thinking to realize that I am living with a different person it would be so much easier to accept life as it is now... try as one does it just seems I may have to take a different approach to situations as they arise... had a very good day went out to the family cabin and spent the afternoon with our kids and grandchildren and the nieces and nephews and families three generations were there .... just like old times ... we sold the cabin to our nephew and family so got to see what they did to it .. re renos,, paint etc .... surprising how some paint and a lot of labor can change appearances... I was pleased and they are happy with it ... looks like a a log cabin on the outside so is very apppealing .. she painted it the new chilly peppeer and gold colors and rearranged the furniture looks like a different place... now got to go back to rethinking my way of dealing with life and hubby's moods and maybe I'll be ok....if I go back to caregiver role as that's the only way to deal with the changes life has dealt us.

hi.... I too was told after my hubby came home that he should go into a nursing home for therapy which I knew would only make him more depressed, as he didn't understand that it would be temporary. He was very depressed for the first two years and I was again told to put him in a home ....it would have been the worst thing I could have done cause now he has improved so much I can't even think of how it would have affected us... We are now able to do things together again and hopefully can carry on as if nothing happened... I pray ever day that he will continue to improve with time and be able to be more independent as now he still can't make the right decisions when it comes to daily living... His stroke was three and a half years ago on the right side of the brain.. He has his impossible moments and gets very agitated at times .... so hang in there time will help heal all deenie

hi Pam, as Jean said look into housing for seniors here they have housing that goes by a percentage of your income... very nice places and quite affordable....some with swimming pools and lots of activities for seniors... most are handicapped accessible .....

we must keep on truckin and I think carrying half the load is ok and setting part of the load down is great ,,,

best of luck mary.. and I'll keep yo u in my thoughts and prayers,,,,

so happy to hear your grandson is getting better our prayers are with you in this time of need keep us posted all the best ..... deenie

I still have two pairs of sexy high heels which I paid good money for many years ago I know they are in the trailer somewhere and if I c ould find them I would give them to my grandaughter cause they are in style now. Parting with some things is very hard , I still have the dress from my second son's wedding can't part with it either,no problem, will use it for my funeral. I hope by that time it will be moth eaten //// just a thought...These classic items never really go out of style if you keep them long enough...

you stay cat goes or behaves.. you have others to think about as well as yourself...sorry for being so blunt...

I also enjoyed the party. Wouldn't it be great to meet in person and rent a hall and really have a party seeing that we now have a bigger budget. I'm sure everyone would love to meet all the people we have met on line. I know I for one would hope to meet some of you in person.... I guess that 's just dreaming....Great talking to all the people from all over the globe,, and especially jealous of Sue in Aussie land as they are getting into spring and the warm days...

I too wish I had my former hubby back the way he was. I guess we just have to learn to live with what we have and be thankful it was not worse... I miss the things we were able to do together and hope that maybe it will return so we can enjoy a bit of our retirement together.

keep your chin up,, depression is a terrible thing to deal with I had food allergies that caused me a lot of problems one being depression...I could not help myself and cried a lot at the drop of a hat ... can't really explain the feeling but was so emotional that I had to write my problems down on paper as I could not keep from breaking down when speaking to my Dr. he was quite concerned and told me to call him anytime he has now passed and I am much better though with my hubby stroke it takes a lot out of me. I once cried in the bank cause the teller who was new at the time didn't know me and couldn't find my account number... very embarrassing....I think you are quite the lucky guy to have so many friends that care keep up the good work....

just lost the reply I just was about to post so will try again first of all love reading your blocs.... I too have to do a lot of the everyday duties that are required to carry on with a normal life .... so instead of being one person you end up being three in one as I usually have to check on the things he has done or not done... like closing lites, turning off the water,turning off the truck motor,and not leaving the lites on in the vehicles,closing the garage door,, just to name a few so as you say it takes -----patience..... ome days better than the other...deenie

my husband has a lot of depression and gets very angry and unable to cope at times..... of which he takes his frustrations out on me and screams and yells for no reason at all.. I believe it is because of lack of communication skills... I need some input on where to get info on how to deal with this .. I tried Dr. Phil but he doesn't seem to have any info on this subject... not much help here in the line of counselling but am going to try and get more help from his phyciatrist wish me luck I am getting very stressed over this treatment and need support which there is no group here...HELP

great news nice to hear that hans is doing well thinking of you and in our prayers,,,deenie

swiss steak is nice..... flour and brown the meat add it to the crackpot and pour fresh tomatoes onion and celery over them and a bit of seasoning add carrots cover and cook for the rest of the day this is supper ... serve over rice and you have a very nice meal

my prayers are withyou for a speedy recovery.....deenie

nice to hear you have such a good outlook in life and congrats on your day,,, as you say things do get better as the brain heals and I do believe that a lot of rest heals the brain and may even help to rebuild it I know my hubby is still improving and it is three and a half years post stroke,,, so all the luck and as everyone says this site is a god send.. deenie

hugs from me too hope everything goes well be thinking of you and praying for you and Joe Deenie

Sorry to hear of your husband's illness. I will keep you in my prayers,,, I know that we would never have made it this far without prayer and trust in the good Lord...... Hope the rest of the tests are better.....

we have to wear so many hats that we don't know which one to wear when .. I wish we could just figure out the temperament of the day or minute it would make things so much easier.. sometimes I don't know why he is being so difficult and later I realize he just doesn't understand some procedures and then I get the verbal abuse that really hurts as I try my very best to make things as normal as possible and retain some sort of harmony with daily living. I also know about the food limitations as hubby is also a diabetic and is not as cooperative as he should be at times telling me he will eat what he wants to ...so I'm not going to fight over it when his blood sugar goes over 6.4 or higher he says he has to watch,,,but he's lucky he is able to control his diabetes with pills/// metformin.....

I'm trying to root some virginia creeper and can't for the world of me get it to grow roots have tried everything..water, rooting powder and just plain dirt even scaped off the bark and planted it no luck help

hey that's what we're here for ... I know what you mean... if they would just give you some encouragement it would help... I think they give you the doom and gloom just to po you off enough that you will say just watch me I while prove you bast...ds wrong that's what you have to do keep on trying.. it takes time to rewire the brain but with determination and belief in yourself it can work ,, my husband is three years post stroke and he is still improving... he gets very depressed and it is extremely trying for both of us....do what you have to do to get the help that you need .. good luck

way to go ... knew everything would turn out for you. I hate those tests always make me worry,,, hey for you

still trying to get this right kind of slow....