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Sue I loved this post as it brings back so many memories, you are right a song or memory surfaces & usually i go to the bathroom where I can repair the damage so Baz doesn't see I have had "a few moments:. You are in the unique position of having to look after a Mother & Husband & you do a wonderful job . i worked in Nursing Homes for all my working life& some people never get the care & dedication you give to your Mum & Ray & I am sure that deep down they know & appreciate your Love. I think there is many" Beer Gardens" in Heaven where we will meet up again. xx Anne.

I know what you mean Sue, I never thought that I would get sick of the rain after years of drought but I would love to see sunshine & be able to mow the lawn ! Ray is is in good care at the Nursing Home by the sound of it & you are doing all you can for him so it is good that you are doing some stuff for you now, he is being well looked after & you are doing all that you can ! Take care, Anne x

Hi Sue Haven't been on here for so long & was wondering today how you were getting on, came onto the message board & looked for your posts, Baz has been in & out of Hospital this year since we came back from NZ (We had to go over for 3 months as my Dad had cancer he died 2 weeks after we arrived ) we sdyayed & made sure Mum was ok for 3 months after, Baz got sick & has been in & out of Hospital, much better now but has left him very confused... Glad that you are ok but seems Ray has gone down a bit ? I identify with the children as long as I am looking after Baz they don't want to know, his kids & mine I always tell him it is just us now ! You do a great job with Ray & your Mum. x Anne

I have just been reading through your blogs & identify with everything that you say, my husband also has aphasia & I also miss the sound of his voice, we still have a message he left on one of our phones which I have not changed & have been guilty of ringing the number to hear it once more , we also have a radio show he did the year he had his stroke (2004) on video & I still get that out & watch it as well. It is very hard to accept that person has gone & we have had to grieve & then get on with it but it is the hardest thing I have had to do in my life...as you would know as well!!I also have been shocked when my sweet husband has turned on me but I think it is fustration more than anything else & thank goodness it isn't very often ! I also am shocked when I laugh & stop & realise how long it has been. Laughter really is 'The Best Medicine'. All the best ,Anne.

Sue, You might have already gone on your holiday but wanted to wish you well & hope you come back rested . Ray will be fine as I know you already know. I identified with you reading all you can on Strokes Dementia etc as we all do, I guess I keep hoping for some major break through that will give me Baz back the way he was, of course I know that will not happen, but I still read all I can !! Will miss your Blogs but look forward to catching up when you come back, Anne.

:happy new year: Hope you are all looking forward to the new Year & I for one hope that 2008 brings some positive changes. We have had a bad 6 months as we have had problems with our Daughter & subsequently our Grand children have suffered & Baz & I can't do anything about it which is fustrating however another year is about to come in so a new start should bring positive changes I have not blogged for a long time but have been in here catching up on everyone. Baz is doing great,but a lot more has come back so fustration is always on hand,plus it is so hot here at the moment we can't really do anything except keep cool, he really enjoyed a quiet christmas & we have been doing literally nothing much since except the usual mowing of the lawns,keeping watering up so the plants stay alive!! We have given up theCommunity Radio as the travelling a hundred kilometeres weekly was getting too expensive, we have taken up with a Radio station based in town which only broadcasts in the immediate vicinity of the town, I have been voted Sponsorship coordinator so it was busy before Christmas organising Christmas sponsorship, we are looking forward to broadcasting our show in the New Year although we can't do live broadcasts anymore it will still be great & Baz is looking forward to it He has been out & about with the 4 guys who are running it They have been great with baz involving him in all the details getting it up & running & he has been out without me for the 1st time since his stroke 3 years ago !! I am going to blog more That will be my New Year resolution Happy New Year everyone & thanks for yet another year of support. Anne.

Sue ,Glad you & Ray had a good Christmas as we did Unfortunately we weren't able to see the Grandkids but spent a quiet day by ourselves which wasn't too bad, at least we got to watch some Christmas shows we usually miss out on since Christmas is usually so hectic! Baz was so excited about Christmas we had to get up at 6 am to open our presents! Hope you have a Lovely QUIET New Year tonight & your computer is up & running again soon. Love Anne & Baz.

Jean, Glad that Don is ok & you can relax now . Baz always likes to hear how Don is doing as they both have had a similar stroke & Aphasia. Hope you BOTH had a great Christmas & A Happy New Year!! (as well as Cooper) Love Anne & Baz