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HostAsha

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    02-08-2004
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    Asha
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    Tracy : I know it feels very scary with al this uncertainty & not having any control over it feels disturbing. because of social distancing we have started weekly family zoom video conference call, yesterday was our first attempt at chaos family conference call lol. my sister & I we both were saying nowadays every time you hear the news or hear someone coughing you start feeling pain in your throat & feel like you are coming down with cold or something. sister in India has started cooking more since she can't go out for her retail therapy anymore & her cooks & other helpers r gone, so she has started cooking more & found her outlet, she jokes what her husband couldn't achieve for so many years corona did it in few weeks, all her daughters & her all r busy inside home spending time with their family now. anyway i was telling you all his funny family stories just to divert your mind. I find serenity prayers & good books are best resources for me when i feel out of control of sort. & another thing I have noticed in my mind about my life whenever I am stressed about anything in my life, help always comes through somewhere, so now I don't worry about anything. I just leave my worries in God who has carried me through last 50 years will carry me forward & I will just do my job of enjoying my today now by making good choices in life for today. rest i will let God to worry about it Asha
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    hi Carlton : welcome to wonderful online stroke support group, & it was great meeting you in chat today. now that you found us you will never feel alone or different. I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side & retired me from the job I loved, for me more than stroke retiring from job was big blow to me, I never knew how much of my identity was wrapped in the work I did & money I made, suddenly I felt worthless, luckily having supportive spouse & young kid who was just 7 at the time & my family, friends & this site, I found my joy back, today after 16 years on this post stroke journey, i realize my life is just different not good or bad its just different. I struggled hard to find my new normal after stroke & even after having supportive spouse & family, I still felt very lonely & isolated, finding this support group was god-sent me & it helped me feel not so alone or weird. I found blogging on this site & chatting with other survivors very therapeutic for my soul . we do have scheduled chats every day in the afternoon from 3-4 EST in stroke support room #2 & in the evening from 8-9 PM EST on M,W & F. friday we have chats in the coffeshop in the evening though M,W its in survivor room #2. hope to see you there soon. Asha (now 50 year old survivor)
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    at our home we eat together, watch movies together & play some cards together then kido back to his video games & we both to our reading & computer Asha
  4. As you guys know I love to read books & blogs, they both are the reason which saved me from my dark thoughts & made me go AHA I get it now so many times in my post stroke journey. kido's friends are all in different fields, some have gone in pursuing degree in medical field, some in engineering field & some in journalism. All are doing well in their chosen fields. One of his friend is in journalism & I have been reading her essays for long time, make me amaze how this 20 plus something can write so eloquently which rings so true & make u go AHA I get it that's how I felt when I read her recent essay because I have lived through my loss to know this is so true. In her recent essay writer was writing about saying goodbye to friends & feeling of loss when you are asked to move out of your dorm within few days notice, & how saying goodbye is so hard. She wrote so beautifully how to cope with it & her anecdote rings so true for me, since I lived through to know its truth. writer mentioned & I am paraphrasing here remember to know you are still you & you will meet new friends & find joys in your life again. I know its so true for me I for one thought I would never find joy in living after I had to retire from the work, loose all my work friends. I had thought I had lost my own self identity too along with my friends, but I forgot I will find & attract similar joy from other area of my life, because underneath I am still me. yes it will be in different setting like soccer fields,school gyms,school, online support groups, my own family & extended family, doctors offices ., but I will find that joy again. & I was so amazed that this 20 plus old writer know this at such a young age which took me 50 years to realize lol.
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    Sarah : I am glad you are keeping busy & going with flow, there is no point in resisting our now, we have to take care of what needs to be done now instead of thinking why this shouldn't be this way or that way. no point in wasting time on it, its always better on how to solve present situation now. wishing you lot of strength in resolving all of your issues & I am so glad you have your good waitress friend with who you can spend time with. Asha
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    Kevin : thats so great you did your blog on Wednesday as you promised yourself & your blog readers, I bet its fun for your nephew to help you in tractor chores I bet he is having blast & best spring vacation for him. As a long time survivor I can tell you one thing for sure, more you do easier it will get. Asha
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    Sue : that's so wonderful, I am glad you had fun wonderful experience with your cruise, Its good to do something you enjoy even if it means doing it alone. Even as married couple hubby & I don't share same interests, like watching movies together. I am still learning to find happiness in doing things alone too. he always says you need to find your own inner joy he cant be performing for me to find that joy lol. so i try to find movie he will like & watch with me & if its history or documentary it works for him & I am developing my interest in those movies too. Asha
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    adore my weekends & my AHAs

    This Saturday class was no different in feeding my soul with goodness in life & getting me prepared in providing tools in whatever we may come in my life in future. One of the best teaching of our Geeta class this weekend were two things & if I am able to master these two things then life will be truly bliss 1. lesson is whatever karma(or actions I am doing do it as my offering to God without any attachment to results 2. whatever results I get it from those action take it as God's gift (prasad) without labeling those results as good or bad. I know both steps are hard to do but once we practice these things with awareness we can remain unaffected by joy & sorrow & stay in blissful content state of mind. I am learning this slowly I know I had labeled my stroke as worst event in my life but if I look deep within myself I know it has brought lot of clarity & joy in my living. It allowed me to find happiness within me & being present in the present moment & appreciate daily wonders of my life. So it should be easy for me to practice every bad situation in my life to realize what is this event is trying to teach me. Asha
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    its so good to know he is progressing well Asha
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    my super soul saturday

    As you guys are aware favorite part of my weekend is to spend time on things which feeds my soul. Saturday is the time we spend learning & discussing our ancient literature bhagvad Gita. I find in that particular book all questions we human being face are answered like what's the purpose of this life & what is right thing to do in this particular situation & so on & those other self defeating thoughts too , like why do it in fear of failure & so on. In this particular book prince Arjuna is asking divine his charioteer Krishna (who is God) when he is on the battlefield when and sees his own cousin brothers, his teachers, his granduncle, prince Arjuna faces similar questions and asks his charitor God Krishna for guidance. lord Krishna helps him see and do the right thing, by answering all of his questions. & lot of time in our own life we all go through similar questions, & Geeta gives wonderful answers. I feel so lucky & blessed to have this discussion forum of all this like minded people to discuss this immensely relevant book. I know for me when i was in my own battle field & fighting my own inner demons right after stroke where I thought quitting was so easy just like prince Arjuna . Only reason I persisted cause I thought i don't have right to ruin life of our son who was my responsibility & my duty to look after & I don't have any right to mess up his life. Also I have seen my cousins who were such a smart kids but suffered because one of the parent committed suicide & other remarried & moved on & messing up lives of two young children. seeing that example & having support of my family I persisted & I am so glad I did it cause life is so sweet today. My adversity in life has made me the person I am proud of. What I feel Geeta teaches is how to live in now & here, there is no after life or previous life, do right thing based on your dharma right now in this life , and God is within us which does tell us what is right thing to do which we sometime choose to ignore because our mind which is not aligned properly makes decisions which may not be good for us & our this Saturday evening discussion form is there to reign our mind in good direction, so we make right decisions in the life when we might b thrown again in battlefield & have to make tough & right decisions.
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    hi Robyn : welcome to wonderful online stroke support group, now that you found us you will never feel alone or different. I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side & retired me from the job I loved, for me more than stroke retiring from job was big blow to me, I never knew how much of my identity was wrapped in the work I did & money I made, suddenly I felt worthless, luckily having supportive spouse & young kid who was just 7 at the time & my family, friends & this site, I found my joy back, today after 16 years on this post stroke journey, i realize my life is just different not good or bad its just different. I struggled hard to find my new normal after stroke & even after having supportive spouse & family, I still felr very lonely & isolated, finding this support group was godsent me & it helped me feel not so alone or weird. I found blogging on this site & chatting with other survivors very therapeutic for my soul . we do have scheduled chats every day in the afternoon from 3-4 EST in stroke support room #2 & in the evening from 8-9 PM EST on M,W & F. friday we have chats in the coffeshop in the evening though M,W its in survivor room #2. hope to see you there soon. Asha (now 50 year old survivor)
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    sounds like so much fun, I also enjoy socializing & volunteering though now my volunteering has changed from school, hospital to other things. Asha
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    kevin : I wonder how you are able to plot graph and what is on x axis, exquisite mind wants to know to make sense of plot. enjoy your road-trip, Asha
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    hi broken techie : welcome to wonderful online stroke support group, now that you found us you will never feel alone or different. I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side & retired me from the job I loved, for me more than stroke retiring from job was big blow to me, I never knew how much of my identity was wrapped in the work I did & money I made, suddenly I felt worthless, luckily having supportive spouse & young kid who was just 7 at the time & my family, friends & this site, I found my joy back, today after 16 years on this post stroke journey, i realize my life is just different not good or bad its just different. I found blogging on this site & chatting with other survivors very therapeutic for my soul . we do have scheduled chats every day in the afternoon from 3-4 EST in stroke support room #2 & in the evening from 8-9 PM EST on M,W & F. friday we have chats in the coffeshop in the evening though M,W its in survivor room #2. hope to see you there soon. Asha (now 50 year old survivor)
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    wow that puppy look so adorable, I hear pets provide unconditional love unlike children. I am glad you are able to take care of so many pets. I can't, so even when our son when he was little & wanted pet we said no. I am glad you are enjoying your pets. Asha
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