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HostAsha

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    Asha
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  1. HostAsha

    looks very chirstmassy, enjoy the season & beauty around you Asha
  2. when we went on our vacation to India got great news of one of the family member which filled our heart with so much joy that I still smile thinking about that great news, & while coming home from India we got worst news on our whatsapp message which rattled both hubby & me no end & it tears me up every time i think about it I still can't believe death of our spiritual teacher with whom our paths crossed right when I felt like I was drowning in grief of my stroke & disability & changes that brought in our life. he was our guiding light to get us through that dark tunnel journey. you know meeting him & bumping into right books at the right time has made me believer of statement teachers will always appears when student is ready. I know for me he was my teacher who helped me navigate those dangerous water of my life's journey. we have known him for last 15 years, so his death news was totally unexpected, he is renowned teacher of our spiritual books with whom you can discuss things you are trying to understand in life & he will explain in layman's terms without any arrogance of his knowledge or anything. right after my stroke when I was struggling with my self worth issues & my constant struggles with kido in trying to make him try new things & his fights & not getting any thanks in return for trying my best but rather how I was such a pain mom was making me one very frustrated mom & I had asked our teacher how do you find joy in thankless job of parenting or being wife whose husband will only comment or talk if things have not gone wrong in my dish. his response to my self centered query was brilliant, he just said do your duties as offering to God & you will never expect thank yous in return. It was one of the light bulb going in my head at that time. I should do my duty as wife & mom with full integrity & good intention without any returns, & I will get my returns when I see my son & family happy & successful in his life. today I know that's the case, so I feel hugely indebted to our spiritual teacher & feeling loss of his life immensely, I still can't believe I will never see him again :(, but I know he has left legacy of 100s of people whose life he has touched in past. he was instrumental in staring summer camp in temple near our home & starting all these hinduisim classes where adults can meet & discuss all our old scriptures. I know 100s of kids & adults have taken advantage of these great things in our temple in last decade. I was there volunteering till my kido was there in the system, & thanks to that we have been associated with very like minded people in our neighborhood. Even today hubby & I both go & attend one of the classes offered by temple in our neighborhood. something I look forward to every weekend. I had to write this to get off my chest & mind this news. Asha
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    Geroge : you continue to amaze me with your all can do attitude towards life & refuse to sit by sidelines & not enjoy the life to fullest. I find you so inspiring. keep on rocking with leslie Asha
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    hey Babu : welcome to best online stroke support group/ I have noticed in the stroke recovery if things are moving then start using it & it will improve in its strength. I stroked in 2004 at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side,it was massive stroke & affected my middle cerebral artery which control major portion of hand function, though fortunately my left leg was behaving well from day 1 & left shoulder & elbow were also able to move but my left hand & wrist are worst affected, luckily I am right handed person, so I am able to live well in 2 handed world. I can walk, talk & take care of my family single handely for last 15 years, & I am one grateful survivor, my life is richer today then before I enjoy & live life with full meaning & gratefulness. though I went through severe depression in the beginning till I found this site. I found blogging & chatting with other survivors therapeutic for my sol. we do have chats every day afternoon 3-4 EST & on evening from 8-9 EST in survivor room2& on friday in coffeeshop, join us & you will never feel alone again Asha (now proud 50 year old survivor)
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    wow Doreen : our paths might have crossed in singapore & since we haven't seen each other in person must have missed each other. I liked Singapore though did not like hot & humid weather there Asha
  6. Patti : I am sorry my story is different than your son, but I know prayer does wonder, & James has his young age by his side, & with help of friends & family he will pull it through. I know I suffered stroke at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side, but I am still here & enjoying my family, & appreciating my second shot at life with total gratitude. our son who was 7 at the time of my stroke is now decided to become doctor & pursuing degree in medical field. Asha
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    We are back

    We just returned home from our month long vacation to India, Singapore & Malaysia. It was fun filled trip. We had planned to do sight seeing with hubby's side of family in small AC Mini bus, trip was planned by hubby's older brother & we had lot of fun together. I get along well with every one so traveling together is always fun, though because of my unsteadiness on getting up & down tall steps & places if there is no railing, hubby was always by my side & my sister in laws, so I always felt safe though I did tumble at one place but no major damage. This trip we had planned to visit hubby's childhood friend in Singpore, he has been inviting us for ages, finally we made it happen & had great time with them, attended wedding in India with family & reached home just in time for kiddo's thanksgiving vacation. Kido is enjoying his college & getting mature day by day & don't seem to hate me any more & do love me. today we decided to go for frozen 2 movie luckily he sat next to me instead of dad & was ok with me holding his hand, one of the highlight for me. my heart filled with joy & gratitude. one of the song in movie which hit the chord with me, when you are in darkness just take one step at a time & do the next right thing, don't think about future, just take one step at a time & do the next right thing, & soon you will be out of tunnel. That song is so true, I am here living proof , & lived to tell it while siting at the movie theater with love of my life & holding his hand and feeling grateful & happy to be alive & surrounded by so much love & happiness. kido & I both loved the movie, hubby was dozing on & off while both of us were having fun in our own way lol. Asha
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    Pam : prayers & condolences for your loss, & I am so delighted you are united with your daughter, hopefully soon your children will too. even in low phase in life there is always something to be grateful about. Asha
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    hi isabel : welcome to wonderful active stroke support group community. I am glad you found us, even after having great supportive family you still feel alone. I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side & retired me from the job I loved, even though I had supporting family & friends I still felt quite alone in my journey, till i found this site. I found blogging & chatting with other survivors hugely therapeutic for my soul. We do have scheduled chats every day afternoon from 3-4 EST & in the evening on M,W & F 8-9 EST. Friday night chats we host in coffee-shop rest of the chats are all in survivor room #2. I also host chatrs on Wed evening & Friday evening Asha
  10. Like I have mentioned before, weekend I usually spend in my spiritual learning, Saturday evening usually reserved for learning of our hindu scripture Bhagwad Geeta, whose teachings I find it very relevant for all human beings, & my Sunday mornings I love to spend in Oprah's super soul Sunday series where she brings in guest who can depart great teachings through their book by sharing their experiences in life. It was surprising these both days teaching were about same thing like Sun is always out there shining which is eternal truth, just because right now it is hiding behind cloud does not mean Sunlight or sun never existed before, its that cloud aka our faulty understanding which got blocked by cloud needs to disappear to see that eternal truth, that was my own AHA moment, so we need to work towards our understanding to realize what is eternal truth & what is cloud which alters your reality about situation like our ego,anger,jealousy, all those bad vices we all human have, which clouds our reality. So knowing to identify these clouds & understand the eternal truth is goal of our human experience. I was like wow I get it now, but I am sure I will forget as soon as something won't go according to how I want it to go, that's why I keep on gravitating towards this timeless teaching to clear cloud which sometimes block my vision about my own life experiences & experience pain, suffering & other useless emotions. Asha
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    Sarah : hope things cool down at home too fast & you get good respite care facility for Gary, taking care of someone is most difficult task if person is uncooperative & unable to understand plight of others. Asha
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    I am becoming old person now

    I am realizing I am becoming like my mom & old person, while watching all these new Indian movies I can't understand lyrics of songs & getting scandalized by amount of less clothes actors are wearing while dancing to these weird music whose sound is catchy, all pretty people but can't understand a thing they r singing & it is supposed to be Indian language I should understand. I need someone to tell me what did he sing lol. now I can see my parents reaction when they used to see movies in my college years which was in 90s. & complain about what the heck they are singing & where is story here. I feel same way now when I watch movies of 2019. So table has turned now I have become that old person lol. I couldn't resist writing it down here, oh and other front I tripped & fell recently landed on my good leg knee was worried since I was still recovering from my bad foot sprained ankle & now this, luckily icing & ointment I m not hurting & able to walk still thank goodness. life is full of adventure, kido is doing great too at his college, he loves the college & friends he is making there, so I am one happy mom, he has been learning about anatomy of human body & was all excited about neck & anatomy of human brain, I told him I don't mind donating my brain for kids to learn from, but only condition, they have to be very respectful of my brain & not make any fun of it, while learning about it, hubby goes oh you got o go wow this is amazing brain, this person must be so intelligent just like Albert Einstein lol.
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    Hi Ana : welcome to best active online stroke support group, stroke affects the whole family & changes life in an instant. caregiver plays very important role in survivors life till they get bearing on their footing. I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side & retired me from the job I loved though.It was one of the most difficult journey of our life. I was mess for first year then slowly started rebuilding my life by picking up pieces of my life & started building new mosaic. today after 15 years on this post stroke journey I view my stroke as just speed bump in my life,, which allowed me to slow down, enjoy & appreciate scenery along the way. I found blogging & chatting with other survivors & caregivers very therapeutic for my soul, being married to guy who will not share his feelings so I learnt great deal from other caregivers here on this site & learnt a lot. we do have scheduled chats every day in the afternoon from 3-4 EST in survivor room & in the evening 8-9 EST M,W in survivor room & on fridays in coffeeshop, all are welcome, you should encourage your husband to join us & you should too. sometimes even after having very supportive spouse talking with other survivors helps big time, you feel less alone & weird in this life's journey, hope to see you guys around. Asha
  14. I do have happy blissful life, though God don't want me to be cocky so have to throw in some discomforts in my life just to test out whether I have mastered my own spiritual mambo jumbo or not lol. Anyway I have not, I am still in work in progress, & I have to whine my sorrows & joys all here, on Weekend hubby & I gone out for walking in woods near our home, unfortunately there was big party in park & hubby had to park car in field & somehow I missed hole in the ground & twisted my ankle there, though I as able to catch myself & walk home without any pain, so did not think of much of it, now today its hurting while even walking to bathroom. So I guess few days of icing & I should be back to normal. or whatever normal is, today I decided to use cane but have you ever walked with cane when you have access to only one good hand, life becomes so complicated with no hand Anyways like I have learned in my all spiritual books I read & ponder about, I should try to see what lessons I am suppose to learn from this incident in my life. my bhagwad geeta classes are going on good, though lot of time teacher spends in rhyming in difficult indian langauge(sanskrit)which I am not familiar with so goes above my head, but I love the discussion part which comes in when he is trying to explain meaning of each verse, thats where I get my AHAs, though it does go through lot of boring BLAHS before AHA comes along, but hubby says when you are digging for diamonds in mine you got to go through lot of coal before you find your diamond, that is part of life, this is where I will develop my patience & not giving up muscle. So I am going to follow advice of my spiritual guru my hubby & stick it out. Asha
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    when you are done with therapy invest in treadmill & walk on treadmill every day for 30 mins with slow pace. develop routine & stick to it, there is no way but getting better only with routine & exercises. Asha
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