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HostAsha

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  • Stroke Anniversary (first stroke)
    02-08-2004
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    Asha
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    I have never even tried uploading pictures here part, you are techie guy who is fearless in exploring technical features Asha
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    Mark : welcome to therapeutic world f blogging I usually add new entry to my blogs & it stays in one place, my blogs are usually just talking about my life & things that interests me. I find fr me writing my thought helps me not forget ordinary events of my life & then of-course support I get if I am feeling down from others. I for one find blogging reading or writing very therapeutic for my soul. & beautiful sunrise Asha
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    very nice I would like if you tell what you have written on each plaque cant read the first one Asha
  4. Recently in India very talented young 34 year old actor committed suicide. he was such young, lovable good-looking guy & stupid guy just ended his life, he was depressed about loosing some good movie opportunities, breakup & so on which made him take that drastic step. It shook me up since he did that at the same age when I went through my own lean phase of life & had same bright ideas about it, but luckily had young family at home so had no courage to act on that bright stupid idea. Today at age 50 I can look back & feel my stroke experience was best tutor & it made me the person I am very proud of today. I feel so sad for that actor feeling like telling him to hold on, nothing lasts forever good times or bad times, keep your head above water & let this tide pass, find support group, friends, family any one ,and literally take one day at s time & just do what makes you happy, do whatever you can do. I feel so bad for all the family, friends & his fans including me used to like his young boyish looks Asha
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    Kevin : happy Anniversary, first year is the hardest then life gets much easier. you will see more things you try to do easier it gets wit some adaption & as time goes on faster you become. try to help out wherever you can inside or outside home so that you feel contributing member of the society.soon you will realize life post stroke is just different not good or bad its just different still very fulfilling life. Asha
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    Sarah : Its so good you are going to colorado & meet with his brother & sister for that final closure of saying good goodbyes. Its so amazing that one of his caregiver is willing to come with you for that trip makes you realize Gary was special guy & loved by many. given his disabilities I know caring for him wouldn't have been easy for any one & you are right he lasted that long is because of your care.though atleast he s in better place & ow watching over his family by his son by his side. hugs, Asha
  7. hi ebjb : welcome to best online stroke support group, I am sorry you had need to find us but now you found us you will never feel alone again. now that you found us you will never feel alone or different. I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side & retired me from the job I loved, for me more than stroke retiring from job was big blow to me, I never knew how much of my identity was wrapped in the work I did & money I made, suddenly I felt worthless, luckily having supportive spouse & young kid who was just 7 at the time & my family, friends & this site, I found my joy back, today after 16 years on this post stroke journey, i realize my life is just different not good or bad its just different. I struggled hard to find my new normal after stroke & even after having supportive spouse & family, I still felt very lonely & isolated, finding this support group was god-sent to me & it helped me feel not so alone or weird. I found blogging on this site & chatting with other survivors very therapeutic for my soul . we do have scheduled chats every day in the afternoon from 3-4 EST in stroke support room #2 & in the evening from 8-9 PM EST on M,W & F. on friday we have chats in the coffeshop in the evening though M,W its in survivor room #2. hope to see you there soon. Asha
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    fathers day 2020 special

    as all of you aware of we have only one child & he has always been his dad's boy, love & bond between them is truly unconditional. mine is not as much, I love him but I also get mad at him when he does not listen to me & argues back. Anyhow in this pandemic he had come & stayed with us few months when his college ws in lockdown, but summer came along & his paid internship was starting & he was missing his friends so was itching to go back to college & left. while going he had told us he will visit us sometimes in his down times which in my mind was when all his friends are in town. So suddenly when door bell rang on Fathers day weekend. I had no idea & opened the door & suprised to see our 6 feet son standing in the door. It was such sweet feeling & ofcouse bit of jealosy for hubby that kido loves him so much more lol. luckily I had made food for dinner & still had for him. He was suprised we still eat good food & don't do short cuts hen he is not around. I had asked him to make fathers day movie for his dad like he did for me on mothers day which he did it, so it was sweet. Nowdays we have sarted zoom call every weekend with family members & this year it was theme share your fondest memory of your dad. So kido shared sweet memory of his dad which was icing on cake. For days like this life feels so great & I feel fortunate to be still here.
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    why do we view change as bad

    Its weekend so time to think deep thoughts. I was thinking about how we are all averse of changes in our life specially unplanned or unexpected changes which shows up in our life like illness,accidents or job-loss. how all these changes rattles our boat & we get so unsettled, upset about it, without knowing future, we just hate all unwelcome change. I know I did it when I faced my stroke in my life. I thought my life was ruined & I will never find joy in living again. I understand with planned changes in life you find yourself in control but with unplanned changes in life you feel completely out of control & don't have faith that something good is going to come out of this seemingly bad tragedy in your life. what I have learned after going through drastic change in my own life,by trusting the unknown & doing just one right thing at a time, you do come out of it & realize beauty that change brought in your own life. our elders were right when they say let the time pass & you will realize its not as worst thing as you have imagined in your life. wouldn't life will be interesting if instead of hating changes we embrace them thinking what is this event is trying to teach me in my life about myself. Asha
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    congratulations Alan great move, I bet you both are going to love it in there. Asha
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    kevin : its so good to see your farming pictures & good to see your how your recovery coming along. BTW what flowers r these. Asha
  12. I am so excited today is my soulmate's 60th birthday. We have been together for almost 30 years. we have spent 14 years o our pre-stroke life together & 16 years of post-stroke life together & still going strong. My hubby is very practical person man of his words, if he said he will be there for our son's game or practice then I don't have to worry, I know he will be there. If he has to take me to my long list of doctors appts or fill in confusing paperwork, he will finish the job, & also he is always by my side encouraging me to do more & enable me to make most out of my situation by trusting in me & supporting me when I felt like quitting because things were hard, he is always like take few more steps while holding me & then trusting me that I am safe enough to let go has allowed me to flourish too. I know this for sure without him our family would have disintegrated so fast & I could have ruined life of our son, instead together we raised wonderful son who has become very responsible young adult. We all have been through enough ups & down of life & have become strong team together. I view him as my sarathi which is CHARIOTEER in our life's journey. he held all of us intact when we were going through rough patches of our life. he was the one like God made sure I don't give up on playing game of my life when things got so hard & I wanted to just dump everything & run away from my reality post stroke. I was not willing to put any fight to get my life, all I wanted to do at that time was just sleep away, runaway or kill myself so that I don't have to face another day of being disabled person, but his strength & trust in my abilities kept me grounded & I found strength to fight on. he got me my drivers license, & his gentle encouragement of learning new skills in nearby college all propelled me to see myself differently & realized post stroke I have become differently able person still person with value, & still loved by my family to whom I matter & it gave me confidence in myself to fight for my life. & I feel so fortunate & lucky to be married to sch a great guy by accident who is so different than me
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    Sue : early happy birthday to you another gemini no wonder I like you so much, today is my husband's birthday too. I liked the idea of hacing cat-mat which provides cat some comfort when there are so many changes in their life. wishing you lot of happiness & warmth in coming months, hope you have great birthday & realized you are loved by many in real & virtual life. Asha
  14. Thea : welcome to best online stroke support group. stroke affects the whole family & puts every one out of their comfort zone. I know this since we have lived it & have come out of it alive & stronger than before. I stroked at age 34 which left me retired me from the job I love & paralyzed on my left side. After 4 weeks in ICU & 3 weeks in rehab , I was so eager to go home but when came home realized now what, I was in deep depression I depended heavily on hubby's strength till I found my own inner strength. my hubby held our fort took care of our home, young son & ton of paperwork. Right now your hubby needs you & you got to be stronger for both of you. remember things are not going to be this way forever, its going to improve it just takes time. I feel fortunate that it as me who suffereed stroke & not him cause I don't think I had that inner strength like he had to take care of me, our family. Today after 16 years on this journey I can view stroke as an speed bump on my life to enjoy scenery along the way & remember my son who was in 2nd grade at the time of my stroke is now becoming doctor, & my marriage is much stronger than before next year we will celebrate 30 years together being married. though I found blogging & chatting with other survivors very therapeutic for my soul. we do have scheduled chats every day in the afternoon from 3-4 EST in stroke support room #2 & in the evening from 8-9 PM EST on M,W & F. on friday we have chats in the coffeshop in the evening though M,W its in survivor room #2. hope to see you there soon. I do host chat on Wednesday & Friday evening Asha
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    Hi Magma : welcome to best online stroke support group, I am sorry you had need to find us but now you found us you will never feel alone again. now that you found us you will never feel alone or different. I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side & retired me from the job I loved, for me more than stroke retiring from job was big blow to me, I never knew how much of my identity was wrapped in the work I did & money I made, suddenly I felt worthless, luckily having supportive spouse & young kid who was just 7 at the time & my family, friends & this site, I found my joy back, today after 16 years on this post stroke journey, i realize my life is just different not good or bad its just different. I struggled hard to find my new normal after stroke & even after having supportive spouse & family, I still felt very lonely & isolated, finding this support group was god-sent to me & it helped me feel not so alone or weird. I found blogging on this site & chatting with other survivors very therapeutic for my soul . we do have scheduled chats every day in the afternoon from 3-4 EST in stroke support room #2 & in the evening from 8-9 PM EST on M,W & F. on friday we have chats in the coffeshop in the evening though M,W its in survivor room #2. hope to see you there soon. & your determination you will be able to build your great new normal, you might achieve things differently than some other people, but important thing is job gets done. Asha (now 50 year old survivor)
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