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  1. arogers

    Thank you for your blog. As with Sue, my late husband suffered multiple strokes - six between 2004 and 2011. I agree that there does come some sort of peace with the situation but the vigilance just never changes. Each of Bill's strokes seemed to be crises. He would be near death and within hours rallied. Toward the end the nurses remembered me, although they didn't remember Bill. Ironic, it was...the patient "forgettable", the caregiver not so much. I don't regret my persistence or questioning because I was responsible for him. He couldn't speak for himself, who else was there to speak? And t
  2. Happy Birthday arogers!

  3. Happy Anniversary arogers!

  4. arogers

    Please don't ever feel as though you are a distraction. You go at your own pace!!! The other part is that it will help you in your recovery and maybe those slow times will become less frequent as you continue on!!! You are an asset to our family here!!!
  5. arogers

    Hi Nancy, After Bill passed away I saw a gentleman briefly who would not take me out in our town - and there are some 300,000 people here. It turned out he had not told his daughters he wanted to date. When he told the oldest daughter - who he thought would be accepting - he found out she wasn't. I was referred to as "that woman", and you can imagine how I felt when he read me the letter. His demeanor changed completely and to make a short story even shorter that was the end of our dating. I didn't feel it was fair to me that he had not shared HIS desires with his daughters so I was made o
  6. Hello Jorge, I still don't know whether she is diabetic. If she is, then her carbohydrates should be watched closely. I don't know whether she is even checking her sugar levels or not. I don't know of any nutrients that are lacking that cause strokes. Diabetes can be a contributing factor. And so, as far as dietary guidelines for helping a person recover from strokes, I've not heard of any such thing. I was an eight year caregiver and the only dietary considerations we made were for diabetis/bp (low sodium) and for coumadin (limiting foods with vitamin K). Really, if you and the kids k
  7. arogers

    Meeting at Hunters Hall

    In May, 2005 I joined The Stroke Network as Caregiver to my husband who had suffered two major strokes. The same month, the same year a Caregiver from Australia joined. And the journey began. Sue Wilkinson and I traveled closely through our husband's illnesses. It seemed as though if Bill had a crisis, Ray (Sue's husband) would ... or if Ray got ill, sure enough Bill would. We often called ourselves "twins". We vowed through it all we would someday meet face to face! Fast forward to 2015. My son Marc had met a lovely lady from the UK while living in Phoenix, AZ. Hayley was the General
  8. arogers

    I just love to read about your creativity and Bob's determination!!! Yes, although recovery slows, his is certainly continuing along!!! Ann
  9. arogers

    Nancy, One of the complicating factors for Bill was that he was bipolar. Stroke does not remove that illness. I used to be able to tell when he was not feeling well - he would sit and rock back and forth. He would answer that he wasn't feeling well, but he couldn't identify exactly what the problem was. It was complicated to deal with bipolar disease with a stroke survivor whose issues were as severe as his. As you so aptly said, "it is what it is". I went through lots of guilt when Bill went into the VA nursing facility. After all, I had promised him I would keep him home - but I had
  10. arogers

    Pam, I must agree with David. Your writing is some of the most honest, raw emotional and open writing I have ever read. You know, our plans change abruptly sometimes and maybe your plan should be in the area of writing. Your physical body may be betraying you, but your intellectual self is so acute and brilliant. Something to consider? Your thoughts and experiences might help others who grapple with where they fit into a place they don't necessarily belong. An author is born!! Ann
  11. arogers

    Ann's Excellent Adventure 7 2015

    Ann spent a good deal of time in England, celebrating her son's marriage July 18, 2015. One of the best parts was meeting and spending a couple of days with Sue Wilkinson!
  12. Happy Birthday arogers!

  13. Jorg - I know there are lots of questions. And I certainly would never suggest they are abusing her purposely. It does get tedious when one hears 24/7 complaints...everybody is human. And abuse takes so many forms - not always doing to, but sometimes not doing! We don't know, we aren't there, as you indicated! I would suggest you just have a quiet conversation, not really confronting them, but more asking questions - are they ok with this or that? And one important item is to let them know you are on their side!!! It is really delicate, isn't it? Best of luck!!
  14. is the handbook that has been compiled by caregivers from this site. You may find some very helpful information here. Next, since you do not have a healthcare power of attorney for your sister, your involvement can only be directed by her children who have that power of attorney I expect. This is a bitter pill to swallow when you see your sister in a situation that may be harmful to her. Frankly, your options could result in a really difficult family situation. If you feel she is being neglected you can always go to the courts and report that sh
  15. arogers

    Jay - and who better to help stroke survivors than one who's life work has been helping the less fortunate of this world! Thanks for your dedication - by the way, I love that good coffee too! I call my favorite Starbucks my "Cheers" since everybody knows me when I walk in!! *wink*