bstockman

Stroke Survivor - female
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  1. Sue, just be gentle with yourself.. You are a "giver" but the time for YOU is now. If you don't want to be in a position to have to try to be Jolly.... the word NO not this time. Give yourslef time to grieve for Ray and your Mom.. You are nuber ONE right now.

    So if you feel like curling up in a blanket and just sitting ( oh I forgot ) its Summer there.. a walk on the beach, sitting on the veranda.. IT is time to do for SUE right now.

    Much Love and Many hugs Bonnie

  2. (((((((((((((((((((Sue)))))))))))))))))))))) sending huge hugs... In 1979 I lost my dad and husband 5 months apart... It is a rough road for sure. I am thankful you have such Family support.

    I know you will feel quite lost for awhile. Your days routine of taking care of Ray and visiting Mum filled up your life.

    I know through your faith you will make it through. Good days and bad days.

    Hoping the many Happy Memories you have will out shadow the bad days.

    I LOVE that you kept your Mum's special dress.

    Sending prayers for You and your family

    love and hugs

  3. (((((((((((((((Kimmie)))))))))))))) I am so sorry. You should not be embarrassed. It does sound like you and Matt should get your own place.

    Sometimes "tough" love is the best, if he has to be on his own and find his own place. You need to do what is best and safest for you. I know Matt cares for you with Love.

    I'm sure you and Matt have tried to talk with Marc about counseling, he may still have some un resolved issues or anger at losing his dad.

    All I can say is I'm so sorry you are going through this, and I hope things turn around for you all Soon.

    love n hugs, Bonnie

  4. HI Sue, I'm glad you had a good weekend. I know how much life is so different now. Being a "widow" is a Lonely place and although you may want to talk to someone, ust reaching for the phone ... is sometimes overwhelming.

    I am also glad you joined the widow/widower site. Unless you have lost your spouse it is sometimes very difficlt to undertsand.

    Your routine is Gone, and now you are busy with all the paper work and things on this "new" journey" Going from WE to ME is quite difficult and lonely.

    If any of you are a widow or widower widowedvillag.org is a Wonderful site. It is so full of caring and understanding people ..just like here. There is so much support and understanding. Care Giving and being a stroke survivor is one challenge, but losing your Spouse is such another challenge...

    love and hugs my dear sweet lady, Bonnie

  5. There is no one to blame . you may have forgetten to pack his drink, but the teacher could have found something ... I am sure with all the excieted children and the Fair.. it was just not thought they he didn't . I am glad he is doing better now. Chldren are so resilient.. Hoping he will quickly regain the strength and some extra work outs.

    Sending HUGS to you and prayers for Cayden.

     

    I'm sure the teachers will make check lists and know more for the next outing.

    (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

  6. Sue, I just found out of Ray's passing. My sincere condolonces to you and Your Family. It will be a crazy, busy time for awhile. and time for the "reality" to sink in.

    I did find a widow site. widowedvillage.org Like here people from all over and even a few from Austrailia. It has reall been a savior to me to find people who understand ..loosing your spouse. it has great groups and Blogs also.

    I admire you so very much for your love and support.. You have devoted yourself to Ray and others. Please be gentle with yourself, take time to rest and take time to Grieve. A great Book : Widow To Widow can be ordered from Amazon. I am also going to a grief support group. Wrapping my arms around you in a long hug... I am here for you... usually e mail.. but you can let me know if you want to chat.....

    Ray fought long and hard and had your love all the way. May you find peace.

    Love you girl, Bonnie

  7. Thank you all my "DEAR" friends.. Yes Asha, I did rean Jeans blog.. and she gave me the link to the widow site. It has been extremely helpful and making friends their also. I won't leave you all. but meeting some widow and widowers who are going through this think called Grief.. I am understanding and I think it is helping in acceptance.

     

    love to all Bonnie

  8. Hi Everyone, It is so great to hear from you all and I am delighted to meet some of the members who have joined, since I have been gone. I do not like to hear of someone having stroke, but as we all have learned, strokes have no boundries on age, etc.

    Leah I am so sorry to hear of your husbands passing, and all you have been through.

    I am so happy that MC put the bee in my "bonnet" to come back. It is not that I had not thought about everyone here, but more like with the business. and then I kind of "crawled" into a "hole" for awhile.. maybe I needed that time, I know there is light at the end of the tunnel.. Thank you all for your Love and Support

  9. Hi Kimmie, thanks for the update... my blog is somewhere in the back with cobwebs.. Glad Mya is doing better with the potty training.. I am so happy for warm days, and i can leave the door open and I m not the doorman for my "brood"

     

    If you have a job in Arizona now is the time to buy a house there.. The house property values really took a HUGE hit. I am sorry the issue for you still hasn't been resolved. :(

     

    I know you will be excited to be closer to family and espically the "boys"

     

    Thank You for ALL you do here :)

     

    Bonnie

  10. Hi Kevin, I am not moving, but I am trying to go through the house room by room and "de-clutter" It is just to much time and effort to dust some of the knick knacks. I also read if you have fond memories of something, but not the space to keep it to take a photo of it.

     

    Good luck on the packing.. you will have a head start on it.. and not have to worry at the last minute.

     

    Bonnie

     

     

  11. For sure life is not always "fair" Good people get sick or die, bad people get away with crimes. Life is a challenge, and sometimes we just need to be the best we can be, appreicate the little things, the smell of coffe in the morning, the hummingbird, a babies giggle. People we love and people we meet are in our life for a reason, maybe someone to love and to share with.To cherish those people. some times people are only breezing through our life, maybe they are there to teach us something.

     

    Sending warm thoughts and prayers for your friend Kathy, and warm wishes for strength for you also.

     

    Bonnie

  12. Best Wishes for Everything.. I am happy to hear the chemo has ended. You are a Strong Survivor and a true Inspiration to all. Ilook forward to hearing about your hair.:) A friend of ours has finished chemo and her hair is coming in.. a little short yet to tell if it will be curly.

     

    love n hugs to one awesome lady, Bonnie

  13. Hi Bill, Sorry it is not working out well.. You know the old saying.. You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find the "princess"... Well you are available and I know the best and right person is out there for you and Bud.

     

    Take Care buddy, Bonnie

  14. Hi Sue, I am glad you have had this week to re=energize. Also it will take Ray a few days to get back into routine. You are so "sensible" about everything, and the insight in seeing that you will be able to be okay alone, when that time does come. You find the joy in the small wonders of nature. I know many of your days are anything but serene.

     

    Sending hugs and lemon meringue pies your way.

     

    Bonnie