Will he ever stop taking it out on me, can someone please answer if it is normal for the survivor to blame everything on the caregiver. Next week would have been Steed and I's 3 year anniversary, but he has informed me that he does not want to be reminded that the last three years of his life have been the worst ever. Am I just living in a dream, I would swear there was some good times there.Tonight once again it all boils down to my fault, if he had never met me he would not have suffered a stroke. That really eats at me, I love him so much I would give up all I had for him including my life if it came down to that, I would trade places with him if I could. But lately I have been asking myself if I was in his shoes would he do all this for me, probably not. NO he is not physically abusive in any way but sometimes I wish he was instead of all the emotional hurt, those take so much more to recover from. I so wish I could change the past, than he would never had to meet me and fall in love with me and than maybe he would not have had this happen. Am I tainted, I don't know anymore. I have always been such a strong person, but to see him look at me like he can not stand me just breaks my heart, I never wanted my only friend to hate me and that is what it has come down to. So my question is this does it ever get better, will he ever look at me and love me again or should I just admit defeat. I am so tired of crying myself to sleep when I can actually sleep. Night time is the only time I have to cry because I don't want my boys to see me, I don't want them to think badly of Steed because they love him so much, he was always the good guy the one they could talk to if they needed someone, they would be so upset if they heard the words he says to me. Could someone please tell me if it will stop, I just want him to stop yelling at me and to stop blaming me for everything in his life.