Dazed and Confused

Thanks to all of you who offered advice and suggestions...will begin documenting today to be ready to talk to his doctor. Didn't even know there were geriatric psychiatrists...thank you again for spending time with me, and I will keep trying to make this all work somehow... Leslie

Thank you, Kristina...not as alone as I used to think... Leslie

The returning soldier is my daughter who is suffering greatly from PTSD (gunner in convoys) and MST (military sexual assault, raped by three of our own soldiers) She has so much on her plate right now, that I don't want to add to it...but she is very worried about me and so wonderfully supportive, that I may ask her to go with me anyway...did put in a call to my husband's doctor to request an appointment to discuss the situation...hope he does call back...grateful for the suggestion because at least I feel like I'm doing something instead of waiting in limbo...Thanks folks... Leslie

oh...didn't even think of that, always used to do things together...I guess I need to think about things differently now. Thanks, Leslie

I know that this is not about "fault" its about the medical condition...but he has no friends, has lived a rather "hermit" like life, and either really doesn't recognize the changes, or is in denial about them...He's 60 years old, and definitely will not accept suggestions about going to the doctor again, or seeking outside help...I am at a loss about what to do next, but I feel the situation is spiralling out of control. Thanks for responding to my posting Leslie

any suggestions on how I can get him to go to the doctor?

new to this website...still learning how to do things, but I'll try again... My husband and I have been married for eight years, second marriage for us both, all children grown and on their own (one adult child has returned from Iraq and is staying here finishing up collge) My husband still suffers slightly from apahasia, gets frustrated trying to find words and still has some difficulty writing and speaking...still working but the drastic changes in personality are causing problems at work as well as at home. My sweet, kind, loving mate is becoming someone I don't know, someone who scares me, and someone who needs help. He does not seem to be aware of the dramatic differences in his behavior. He does not want to talk about anything, does not seem to realize that his behavior it not always rational or logical, and seems to be almost paranoid about how folks are reacting to him. I do have an intense reaction to anger and verbal abuse (my own childhood scars from abuse have not faded completely, and my reaction is to draw back, get quiet and try not to cry) We are in trouble...he is adverse to talking to anyone, seeking any medical advice, or researching the issue. If physical manifestation were evident, maybe he would be more likely to look for assistance. But, the physhological and emotional problems are not visually apparent, and he does not seem aware of them. How do I help him? How do I start a discussion with him without making him angry or causing him to withdraw? What can I do to let him know that I am "with" him in this and that we need to work together to understand what is happening? I am more "dazed and confused" than ever and looking for words of wisdom from anyone who has experience... Thank you, Leslie