Dear Sue,
What can I say that has not already been said, I am feeling your pain and sending all my positive thoughts your way for Ray, you and your family.
I am so sad reading your post, you know in your own mind that you have done your upmost to keep Ray with you in your home...but there comes a time that we all know when is the time to have a loved one cared for in a nursing home.
Sue, You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. xx Doreen