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Thanks for the replies everyone,Stu yes I constantly nag but have stopped doing so last few months. I am in constant worry over his health,but I can't get through to him. He has no interest in this site,even though I have told him a lot about it [good things]. He stroked due to very high BP the meds he is on have kept it nice and low,thank god. But as you know you still have to take care of your body. We have an apt. with a Nero psychologist and it will be 3 hours of tests 2 days worth. I am praying this will give me tools to work better on his thinking process. He is very willing for all the counseling and help he can get. On a happy note he is starting to see that he blows up and has other emotional problems,and is trying very hard to work at it.He is even trying to deal more with Patience with our 17 year old son. As an interesting side note,he explained to me that his mind constantly races. And jumps from one thing to the next,never stopping. I asked him why he has never told me,and he said he is just now putting things together in his own mind! Thank you for letting a very tired caregiver get a lot off her mind,this group is the best!

Thank you everyone for your response.There is some good points to ponder.Because I did not have a stroke,it is hard to understand how difficult it must be for him.Although I try to walk in his shoes,and I do see his strugles.Thank you for the advice. Pal

Hi, I have been reading every post I have time for,and Iam so thankful for this fourm My husband had a right side stroke 1 year ago at 42 years old. I don't need to tell you all what a long haul its been! But he has done extremely well and continues to improve slowly. I love him to pieces. I know I shouldn't have any problems right? Our problems our his emotions----they must have been wiped out. I cant seem to reason on anything with him,he just gets mad at me all the time. To make matters worse we own a small business and he pushed himself to go back 3 months after his stroke. Well he has always been a workaholic but now its crazy. Trying to make up for the loss we had and not go under. Of course its turned me into a nag.We work together to make matters worse.I am so sad and depressed all the time,because all we do is fight. I have tried to get him to slow down eat right stop smoking ect.ect. We have been going to counseling, but how to reach someone after a stroke seems impossible to me. When he doesn't want to talk about something [mainly his problems] all he says is OK over and over again and again. I am so beside myself I just want to cry for the loss of the love of my life. No one understands because he looks fine. He argues about everything all the time. I am beginning to think he might be in denial about his stroke. I have ask are counselor to see about a neropsychitrist to help with dealing better with his cognitive problems. The thing that confuses me is he yells at me,realizes it later but never apologizes. No Patience with me or our 17 year old. I guess I must have needed to get this out as it is to long. But maybe someone can shed some light. I have been by his side and will continue on no matter what. But I need help to cope with these huge changes. He is on prozac. But I still think there is something we can do to have a better life. I have begged him to slow down and have some energy left but he wont. He is so exhausted all the time. Thanks for listening.Anyone else have similar problems? Pal