mcdube

Stroke Survivor - female
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  1. Happy Anniversary mcdube!

  2. Happy Anniversary mcdube!

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    Update

    I went today and Dad was in a good mood. He loves talking to everyone. Mom... the jury is still out. She seemed in an ok mood but its hard to tell with her. She does not show her feelings. She does not talk to anyone. Just hope someone there will find a way to draw her out. Thank you for your comments everyone. mc
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    Update

    Fred and Debbie, thank you both for your comments. Apparently my Dad went over to the residence early this morning, had breakfast and lunch there and met some people. By the time my Mom and sister arrived he was in a good mood. I am going tomorrow so will update again. mc
  5. Good for you Lenny. Looks like you have a good memory, I am not sure I would have remembered all the questions in the test to be able to retell it here. Good luck on the other part of the test. Hugs mc
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    Update

    Finally, spring is in the air though we still have cold days with a lot of wind but it is getting nicer. No more boots and winter coat is semi retired. On april 4th, I had a car accident that retired my lovely Hyundai Accent so now on top of shopping for a new place to live (for June 1st) we are looking for a new car. On the bright side , my condo is almost ready to put up for sale. Renovations should be done by the end of the month. Yikes. I was not hurt in the accident but the car was a write off. Thank God for that. My parents are starting a new page in their life. They moved into a retirement resident today. A bittersweet experience for them but I know, at least my dad will be better there. Mom would too if she decided to join the world again. Its as if she decided to get off the boat and is just existing instead of living. Its too bad, she will be 80 in july, such a waste... Thats it for my update for today. Happy spring everyone. mc
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    I've lost my sweet Bernadette

    Mike, I am very sorry for your loss. We met in chat, though it has been a while since I have been there. I remember you talking about your beloved in such a loving way. I wish you all the best. Stay well my friend. mc
  8. I love your attitude Fred. Not an easy life for sure but you keep going. Congratulations and good luck. I wish you a long happy life now that you have found happiness. (Hugs) mc
  9. mcdube

    update

    Thank you All for your comments. This too, shall pass mc
  10. mcdube

    update

    Thank you everyone for your comments. Its nice to hear from you. mc
  11. mcdube

    update

    Hello everyone. Sorry I have been MIA. Turned out there was no surgery. All they did was take a biopsy and insert an IUD with medication. Everything went well and I am feeling better. Lately I have been having hot flashes again and headaches I see the doc tomorrow to check my thyroid meds. My oldest son decided he did not have a mother anymore. Thank God my youngest is still my loving son. So, life goes on. We are moving again. This place was not what we needed though the garage was wonderful this winter. So we are looking again. The condo renovations are almost done and we should be ready to put it up for sale soon. Now, if we can find a place that is good for us, everything will be great. OMG. can`t believe we are moving again when I am still not recovered from the last one. Life is an adventure right? mc
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    looking back

    Congratulations Asha. Hope you had a great day. I miss our yahoo conversations. I am locked out as I forgot my password and they dont retrieve passwords. Opening a new account did not work as I have to use the same e-mail address. Hope we can chat soon. mc
  13. Jamie, so true but just yesterday I was telling Andre how us humans are able to adapt to almost anything and we are resilient too. Maybe that all comrs once you have lived through many changes like we survivors are forced to do. mc
  14. Glad everything is just routine for you. It sure is not here and I cant wait to get my boring life back. Happy Birthday Asha. Have a great day or 2. mc
  15. Lenny, so true but remember you are one of the people who has given such inspiration to others. We are a team and everyone contributes to helping someone else no matter their story. We get a lot and hopefully pay forward to help others. Thank you everyone mc
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    A Stroke Is No Joke!

    Fred, I know what you mean. After my stroke 30 years ago at age 30 I was so much stronger. For a long time I used my cane only in winter which I can not do now. I need it all year long. The older I get the more problems I have with my balance. Get well soon and please see your doc again. We are here waiting for you. Please update us as you can. All the best, mc
  17. mcdube

    Moving

    Thank you for all your comments. Asha its not a highrise its another condo, The only difference is that we are renting so if something breaks we call the landlord. Yeah!! The only appliance that came with the condo is the dishwasher so we have a brand new washer and dryer in the condo plus we have a garage that is the best with winter coming.
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    Remember me??

    Hello everyone. It has been ages since I did this. I have not been on StrokeNet for a while, well chat really, I do log in every day and try to keep up with the news. We are in the middle of moving. I am doing something I have only done once before. We are getting rid of all my old furniture (newest piece I have is 12 years old) and we are buying everything new. We are starting new. We were supposed to move into the new place Oct. 1/13. Oops! we missed it, as today is the 7th but there is no hurry . We have the keys and moving in slowly as we buy new things they will be delivered to the new place. It will be so nice once we finally move. Then, no rest for the weary, we start on renovating the condo and putting it up for sale. Through all of this going on, I have not been well all summer. Oct. 30/13 I am having a procedure/surgery done. They will burn the lining of my uterus. Imagine this ladies. After being menopaused for 10 years, I bled for 2 months straight. I was looking for a bridge to jump off of. So this procedure will take care of that though the bleeding has stopped. Thank God. (Sorry guys, TMI) So this is my life right now in a nutshell. I am so stressed but its almost over. Come on November then xmas shopping starts. Lotto tickets all around. lol If that was not enough another family feud has erupted. Would you believe my oldest son has not accepted I am with Andre yet? It has been 8 years and we are engaged. My son did not approve of me selling the condo and renting instead. So I was told since I did not do what he thought I should do he was cutting all ties to me, he would not even be asking for news of me. I think my family thinks I had a labotomy instead of a stroke. I am almost 60 years old and do not need to ask permission every time I want to do something. Why do you think they think I should. Well thats all the whinning I have, til next time...
  19. Congrats Katrina. Keep up the good work. mc
  20. Veta, I am sorry this happened to you, both the stroke and the divorce. Talk about beating a horse when hes down. I went through a divorce 2 years before the stroke. The divorce definately was the worse of the 2. It took me 20 years to get over it. My new love, Andre has helped me get over it. Though I still think of it occasionaly, it is rare now. Today I thought of it because tomorrow would have been our 38th aniversary. On a good note Sept. 1st was my 8th aniversary with Andre. I know what you are going through but there is life after divorce and after stroke. I wish you all the best. Maybe some day you can put all that behind you and once again look to a brighter future. mc
  21. So nice to hear from you Lydia. Congratulations on everything you have accomplished. You seem to be doing great. Keep us posted on the grandparents thing. Hows that for looking ahead? lol mc
  22. mcdube

    Moving

    We are moving. Not where we originally thought we would move to but a better place nonetheless. After my stroke, I moved 10 times in 10 years. I was running away...from me I think. Who knows. Now I have been here for 12 years, I liked it here but it no longer gives me pleasure. I need a place where there is an underground garage. Too many falls on the ice in the parking lot here. This will be such a nice move. Most of my furniture is dated. So we dont bring anything with us. We are getting all new stuff except for some personal stuff and the computers of course. We are looking for a condo apt. in a high rise available for June/1/13. I cant wait .Everything should be better except the laundry facilities. Here we have the machines right here in the condo. Most places we look at do not have laundry hook- up in the apartments. So we will have to compromise on that but the rest will be great. Right now my furniture is a bit hodge podge and I have had it forever. We are going for a modern style. I have been searching the internet for weeks now and what I enjoy most about it is the interior designs as most of the apartments have been staged for the videos. The place we are looking at now, has an indoor swimming pool, community hall with activities (probably bingo) an exercise room etc. I can`t wait. Since we are not taking much, the move should be a lot easier than my other moves. Once we are settled at the new place, We will have a crew come in to clean this place (we are smokers) and repair a few things, replace counter tops maybe even cabinet doors, upgrade the washroom. All this will help sell this place and we won`t be living in the mess all that will bring.
  23. Sue, I truly believe you did everything you could do for Ray and Mom so you have nothing to feel bad about. You are the most caring person I know. I really wish for you that you can move on from this. You deserve it more than you know. Take care my friend. mc
  24. Hi Katrina. I am so sorry you feel so depressed. Jamie gave you good suggestions on how to find help for that. One thing caught my eye in your post. You said the hsppiest time for you were your college years. Think about that time and figure out what it was that made you happy then, try to do that again. Maybe you were so busy then, you didn`t have time to feel sad. As for the 2 relationships you had. Its their loss. You are better off. There is a saying in french, roughly translated means you are better off alone than being with someone totally unsuited for you. And something else I learned during those 20 years after my divorce. You don`t need anyone to make you happy. Happiness starts with you. and its contageous. Do something nice for yourself even if its just a long soak in bubblebath with candles. You are so young. You have your whole life in front of you. Please get help and do come often here to vent. We are here for you. Feel better my friend. mc
  25. I agree with you that the worse thing you can be told by the health pros is this is as good as its going to get. I was told that when they ended my out patient therapy. That could not be further than the truth as I found out 20 years later when I decided to try PT again. Even after all that time and a good weight loss, I was able to retire my AFO. That was motivation in itself. So 29 years after the stroke I know that recovery never ends as long as we work at it and it is so worthwile when you can retire your walking aids and buy normal dressy ladylike shoes again. If you can find worthwile goals to reach for, you will get motivation. All the best to you. mc