wine and cigarettes

[nancyl]

I do not smoke nor have i ever ( well tried it as a teenager -cool- you know) but i know how addicting they can be my daughters has struggled with her addiciton for a long time..she can give it up as she did when she was pregnant and for months after but soon the craving came..and she was hooked again---- she never smokes in the house or car or around the baby who is now a toddler... her fiance would have a fit if she even tried not that she would......i fell bad she smokes and wish she would quit but emotionally she just cant give them up...

[ausimatador]

Although I never smoked, I asked my doctor if I could have 2 glasses of red wine a night. He told me that since I was not on any blood thinning medications, it was ok. That was 7 years ago. I asked him that because so much had been taken from me, I wanted something to look forward to. I wanted to be able to light my fireplace, read and sip on a glass of wine if I felt like it. I know being able to just look forward to that was very theraputic in my recovery. I think you've been very good in helping your wife to quit smoking and allowing some white wine. By the way, white wine has resveratrol in it too, just not as much as the red. Remember that she's grieving for her old self right now and would like to have some control somewhere in her life. Recovery in itself is sooooo difficult and trying to stop bad habits are hard even without having health problems. So, don't be so hard on yourself and maybe think about these things when you're having a rough time. Hope this helps.

of course it Helps Glaidice..Its help me Moraly...we dont have anyone around..is just the two of us..Thanks for your words

[Ethyl17]

Do you all know what is funny about this thread - or not? Bruce, of course, asked for cigarettes just after the stroke, while he was still in the hospital and in Rehab. He would often hit on my sister. Mary Beth adores Bruce, but she also knew she would suffer my wrath - that was more scary - LOL. Bruce knew he wasn't getting one from me.

 

Bruce ran a temp the whole two weeks in the hospital post-stroke plus his urine turned brownish. The temp kept him from being transferred to a SNF and required at total body CT to rule out infection. I know now the temp and the urine were the results of nicotine withdrawal. He never used the patch as he was in a coma for three days and at that point his Neuro felt he was over the worst of the withdrawal.

 

3 1/2 years post, he knows I still smoke. Never in front of him, not in the main house. But I am missing and I must smell, as do the ashtrays. He never asks. As to alcohol, he has a very occasional beer, usually when a friend is here or we are out with family. He has had two bourbons since home. But he says it does not taste the same anymore, he really doesn't miss it. Walter brought an imported Italian beer when he came to visit. It was so precious to see both of them on the deck, with their reading glasses on, reading and enjoying a beer. At dinner later, Walt ordered a nice wine, but that one beer was enough for Bruce. Now I just have to work on me. Debbie

[1967stingray]

Wow, Ray was out for a few days after his operation but they kept him on nicotine patches for the whole three months he was away. He used to try to pull them off which annoyed the nurses to no end, don't know if he understood what they were. When he was discharged, they told me he was still on the highest dose, and I could step him down to level 2. But I couldn't find it right away and he told me don't bother. He still gets cravings when he sees someone else smoking, or hears a Zippo click. Then again he was up to three packs a day so maybe he needed that extra time! I am so glad they had those patches available.

[aafharris]

After my Stroke I stopped cold turkey for 3 months until I become overly stressed due to a comment made by my doctors nurse telling me that my doctor has spent to much time on me already and I need to stop calling when I was trying to find out test results and about the specialist. and at this point I had allowed a heavy smoker to move into my house Who thought if she allowed me to start up again he would not have to go outside anymore. how wrong was she. I regret lighting bac up and hate how i feel but I will kick it again just need to figure out how to do it again. since it really does help with pain control.

[Sudz]

I. too was a smoker since my teen years my neuro said the greatest number of his patients are women smokers. I quit in the hospital 6 mos - no $ to buy smokes no smoking allowed on hospital grounds - to be honest -don't think I gave smoking a thought until after the 6 mos & I was home - my husband always hated the smoking = his mom died from smoking-related emphysema . it is a scientific fact that it is a serious health risk - glad my situation forced me to quit.

 

as with most heavysmokers - I was a partier & drinker . - to be honest waay too much lots of times

I can physically no longer drink anythig I'm wobbley enough & it goes right to my head because of meds etc & gives me an ukky feeling.

ALSO alcholol is a n irritant for bladder problems & I am sick of them - so I 100% avoid any booze.

 

the differences is these are MY choices.

I really found nicotine gum to be a big help when trying to quit yrs before anneurysm & stroke

 

as far as a small glass of wine once in a while my gut feeling would be much better than a cigarette

although smoking goes so well with wine- might make for a serious crave

 

I don't miss being controlled by cigarettes - the smell & wasted $ at this point I don't miss it one little bit

 

 

seing as she doesn't really want to quit definitely look into cessation aides gum/patches etc

 

Susan from Alberta