amyeaston2010 Posted June 11, 2013 Share Posted June 11, 2013 I am only 21 and had a stroke while I was at school. Although a lot of my friends were very supportive during my time in the hospital and when I returned to school, I feel like they just don't understand my constant fear and anxiety and depression towards the whole thing. Granted its only been a few months and I know that if I work on it I can get back to the way I was, sometimes I worry that when I go back in the fall, they are just not going to understand my crazy emotions (crying very easily) , my fatigue, guys not understanding, etc. sometimes its harder to be younger and have this happen to you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ksmith Posted June 12, 2013 Share Posted June 12, 2013 you are right. They won't. Unless you have had a stroke you won't get it. And that's OK. It would be like me telling you that my headache felt like giving birth. Have you ever given birth? Probably not so you wouldn't have that comparison. I found that the more I worried about if my friends got it.. it only stressed me out more. Just be thankful that you are OK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nancyl Posted June 12, 2013 Share Posted June 12, 2013 the stroke can be used as a guide of sorts-- those that are truly your friend and give a SH-T .. are very obvious ( sometimes they are not who you expect) the ones who who dont care ( not so much anyhow) are not worth your time and effort... this can be a gift if you use this a a compass.. and really can spare you a lot of wasted time and energy... its like the "friends " are stamped -- TRUE or NOT... my thoughts and welcome to this group... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nancyl Posted June 12, 2013 Share Posted June 12, 2013 I should mention i have kids your age-- and although it was their father who stroked -- it basically tumbled down to them as well... my 16 sometimes acts like a normal 16 yr old but most often she acts 30... every one got to learn who is worth time and effort and who is not... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
becky1 Posted June 12, 2013 Share Posted June 12, 2013 Amy, We have talked here several times about the loss of family and friends after stroke. Most of us know people who just don't get it, even tho we've taken pains to explain it. Stroke is one of those you-gotta-be-there experiences. In other words, less you've had one, or taken care of a stroke survivor, you won't understand. It's a blessing in a way, because right now, you need to focus on you and your recovery- which is alot. Those residuals will just keep rearing their ugly heads if you don't learn how to deal with them. Therapy can help you. Sounds like you may not have had PFO closure. But, if the reason for your stroke is fixed, maybe your anxiety will decrease. And, then, you'lll have to learn how to balance the fatigue with everything else. Yep, you have alot on your plate right now. I know you didn't ask for all of this, and certainly don't want it, but it is what it is...Becky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 12, 2013 Share Posted June 12, 2013 Amy, I have found stroke to be almost like a no-man's-land. The brain is such a complicated thing and every stroke really is different. It's really not surprising that people don't get it. Over time I've learned to stop expecting them to. Truthfully, I doubt I would have gotten it either until it happened to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paulwit Posted June 14, 2013 Share Posted June 14, 2013 Kelli said everything. If people haven't experienced particular illness,health problems etc they wouldn't understand your concerns so there is nothing you can do about it ( that's how we all are) and don't worry about it. Look at yourself... do you feel anything if some one tells you 'I have heart serious palpitations' ( of course if you don't have any heart issues) ? Try to get better and that's all ...and welcome to our site Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sulpicia Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 I found that a lot of people didn't get it or get me, but worthwhile friends got used to changes and were supportive. When I felt out of control, or really emotional, or just wanted to encounter a new situation post stroke at my own pace I found that telling people I needed space and leaving it at that rather than trying to explain myself really helped. People I was close to got the whole story, others just got to accept me however I was that day. Hang in there - it does get better! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcdube Posted July 3, 2013 Share Posted July 3, 2013 Hi Amy, welcome to the site. I can imagine the problems you are facing with your friends, I suppose every age group have their own problems. Here are some links to good information. You might want to print some of it for those friends who really matter to you. All the best to you, mc A survivor's Bill of Rights http://www.strokeboard.net/index.php?showtopic=2094 The Five Stages of Grief http://www.strokeboard.net/index.php?showtopic=857 A Letter From Your Brain http://www.strokeboard.net/index.php?showtopic=83 Classic Postings and Advice http://www.strokeboard.net/index.php?showforum=23 misc. info http://www.ehealthmd.com/library/stroke/stroke_recovery.html Caregivers’ Bill of Rights http://www.strokeboard.net/index.php?showtopic=781 Caregivers’ handbook http://www.strokecar...rg/handbook.htm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bryleigh7 Posted July 16, 2013 Share Posted July 16, 2013 Hey I understand what you mean im 26 and sometimes I feel the sameway even towards my own family sometimes.I start college up next month again to finish my last two classes and im a little nervous about it too I tried to get online but of course they are already full Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
g4gayle Posted July 17, 2013 Share Posted July 17, 2013 Hi Amy, People will never get it I'm afraid, They don't walk in your shoes, I have a 11 year old daughter and we live in a small town, She does get a bit bullied at school because of me and have to tell her to ignore it and if they have questions come and see me! I am forever being asked just when is my leg going to get better, Usually I just grin and say nothing, They are strangers to me and they will really never know whats going on! Strokenet is brilliant and you will find comfort and answers on here and loads of good advice and people who know what you are going through. To me my stroke is private, but you will always feel free to vent or whatever on here and they all understand, We all walk in the same shoes, Hopefully you will find a circle of true friends that understand,. and Welcome to strokenet, Your've found a good place to be! Gayle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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