SassyBetsy

Calling for Prayers for My Grandson Please

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My first and only grandson was born in September with only 1 kidney that was failing and without a proper anal opening.  He had both a bag for both urine and *beep*. He had to be flown to Cleveland for a specialist that can operate to fix his colon. Plus find a way to assist his kidney to work properly. My young daughter suffered from postpartum depression and she was overwhelmed with the amount of care and the medical services she navigated. I am proud of her for seeking help and for taking good care of Baby Liam.

 

I have not seen or heard from her since January when I visited her home when her boyfriend was away working for his dad. She woke me up and took me back early from my first visit overnight and 4th time seeing the baby. This time he was awake. He smiled so much. A nice visit turned strange when her friend came over and she said she was going to take the baby to see the friend's grandma that night suddenly. Plus boyfriend was coming home in the morning. She said she has a baby and cannot deal with me.

My son will not take her calls. He said she is on her own now.

I wonder where our relationship went but figure the fact I am not a real grandma  figure and no use to her. Like I am added burden. I got a ride and surprised her in hospital and got to visit her and see the baby in NICU. Then she picked me up twice before to have lunch when baby was home. This time I really met my Liam. He won my heart even more. He has pain and takes shots at home but he is ready to play and smile. 

Every time I see them I see their love for each other. He smiles adorably to his mama. She fusses over keeping the blanket on. We had fun sorting his clothes but she said not to buy him anymore that his dad wanted to pick things out. I thought it strange.

Like I was unwanted. She did not want me there when the baby was in the hospital when he was sick. 

So I know I am sick now and not the granma I planned to be.

But I only hope that Liam will be ok and that I can please handle this heartbreak my daughter has put me through. If my staying away helps her then I am ok with it. She needs no comfort from me and fails to remember I was always there. I would forget but my son told me I was.

I cry and pray all the time over this. My life is filled with sorrow but then I have my son. But my heart waits for the prodigal.

 

 

 

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Dear SassyBetsy,

I am praying for you and your family.  I hope that God will bring your family together.  I hope that your Grandson can overcome his disability.  I hope that your daughter will come around after resolving her postpartum depression. My Grandparents were an important part of my life growing up.  I learned a lot from them and continue to follow their advice to this day.  Your Grandson needs her Grandma. 

In My Prayers,

Charles

 

 

 

 

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I just read your post, and my heart goes out to you.  I'm reading between the lines, though, and wonder if your daughter is just overwhelmed with everything.  Possibly she just needs a little space temporarily, not just between you and her, but from everyone.  

This may make it seem less hectic for her to give excellent care to her baby, and enjoy time with her boyfriend.  In the past, people were accustomed to spending a great deal of time with extended family and everyone pitched in to help; but it's quite different now.  

I think your daughter really loves you, and perhaps doesn't even realize that you feel left out.  I'll pray for you that this is a very short term situation, and you'll spend more time with your grandchild.  Big Hug Please Smiley Face, Emoticon

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Hello Sassy, your whole family is in my Prayers.  I know that Prayers, do work. I feel your daughter is just overwhelmed, and she is confused and scare. We are humans and we make strange decisions.  I also praying for your Grandson health, and that everything gets sorted out so you can get to have a relationship with your grandson, which is the greatest feeling in the World. 

Prays, and hugs, God Bless

 

Yvonne

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Sassy,

Know that you remain in my prayers and that your family also. Hopefully things will sort themselves out. The universe has a way of evening out many bumps.

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Thank you everyone for being prayer warriors. I pray my rosary or just sit glaring in the the presence of Hope. 

I believe that I am always with angels, that my vision is useless and I just wake up and go on and on.

I know that I disappoint now. I recall how sad and scary to watch my parents be old and ill. I am not forgiven of this yet.

Yes. left out. that is it. I am not used to any of it yet this being left out of life even left out of myself.

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Pam, we all get left out from time to time, I do too, I am not disabled but I am a widow.  One of my sons avoids me in case I need "help".  But I know I can be self-sufficient (at some cost) and you are in a different situation.  You are in my prayers my friend.

Sue.

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Sending up prayers Pam for you and your family and sending hugs to you. My hope is that the pain and turmoil as well as health issues will one day bring a closeness and comfort. 

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Pam, I know that this is incredibly painful to you, it would to me, too. But try to see the whole picture: This is a young, first-time Mom (I'm guessing about the "young" part) whose new baby has additional to newborn needs, and who now has to have major surgery. Oh, and don't forget to add that she also has postpartum depression. That's a lot for anyone to handle. I think that she's just feeling overwhelmed, and needs time to regroup. I think she'll be more open to you in time. Send her flowers, and let her know you love her, and you're always there for her, and try to let her decide when, and in what way, to let you into her life.  JMO. Prayers for all, Becky 

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