Jump to content



 
  •  

SassyBetsy

They say But you talk fine

Recommended Posts

we sure do!!!

 

Before stroke I was right side up in this bottle. But now it has breen tossed into the sea.

 

The social worker here has a standard reply

.....sorry that is NOT in my department.

 

THEN she comes in quarterly to ask how are things going......

suddenly i tell her something....

and yes she spits out the reply.

 

oh and activity woman was there....said books came in....

hooray...but will it be the one i requested or another one? am i rude for resenting the gift?I am disappointed in false promises.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yes it is a healthy bit of assertiveness. I have never been hugely assertive but I always wanted to embrace that because you are listened to a little bit different. I've seen it move mountains. I want to move mountains. Sometimes now I feel like I do. I think that it is good for me...others look at me kinda unsure of what to think. I own it more and more every day. Kicker is I am still truly nice...assertive doesn't = mean.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Pam I know it may feel rude. I don't feel that it is rude "to think". We as survivors usually know when people are genuine and have empathy and understanding...care. Resentment is something we all have felt. My best answer is don't let resentment bring out all the negative. Try to focus on positive. Realize how you feel, accept it (which is the really hard part), and then file it away and feel your inner validation. I'm a believer in changing a circumstance that elicits my negative side...that sometimes may make others feel uncomfortable but you have to advocate for you. So I sing "Let it go! Let it go!!!". Nothing is important enough to compromise your inner happiness.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You are so right!!!!

 

I needed that pep talk to remember that thinking is ok.accept all of me.

 

It was not my stuff I picked. I accepted it with gratitude and graciousness.

I assured her that giving us residents supplies of our own is life changing. We have an activity now.independent but yet we share looking at eachothers work or sitting together coloring. this is adult art. I color someone elses drawing....like an illustrator team thing lol.      I am a color specialist lol.

yes my hobby is all i can do to be productive.

 

maybe their budget does not allow for what she said picknit out......I saw she genuinely wants me happy. I azsured her she brings good to us. she does make a difference. In fact she has not told us to share and in fact gave me another set. and more books. it is amazing we got all this .That I received some.

I suppose the child in me is selfish stubborn.

Anyway I get something so I am blessed.

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Pam I love how you think things out. Oh the inner child...call her to come play often. Sometimes she is stubborn but she only knows to bring with her the good feels. I like my inner child 👑 she brings bravery with the simple gift of freedom to feel joy. It's pure, it comes from the heart. So I say bring out the colors and make beautiful art until your heart is replenished!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

My daughter is very artistic. Amongst other things, I would like her to get her diploma as an art therapist. It would do her good, as well as others.

 

Kelli, you mentioned detailed questions requiring detailed answers...definitely a big problem.  It’s worse when these questions come from doctors etc.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think I have Mel Tillis syndrome. I don't stutter, just talk slower than I used to and search for words more. But when I sing a song that I know the words to I don't miss a beat and sing as I always did. Someone said I should sing my sentences. Not the same thing, because it comes back to having to think about what you're saying. I guess I can still talk fast but my mind lags behind. Lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The sing talk thing is backed up by research. You connect into the speech center of the brain via a different path when singing than you do when talking. With training it can be used as a way to work around aphasia. I guess you have to think about what you want to say rather than how to say it.

 

It might be worth a try.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Wow!  I'm glad I read this thread.  For one thing I got angry with my ex last week, and all of a sudden I could speak clearly!  I was as surprised by it as maybe he was, but then he told me I was faking it the rest of the time and a liar, didn't do enough google research to fake it well enough...blah blah blah....Hes a A**, most of the time....hence EX!   But it did get me wondering.  And then today, I had one of those days when the challenges and difficulties of everyday life....I just couldn't meet head on with a positive attitude...and I got frustrated with myself.  My friend called so I was ranting at her about thinking a basket in my yard was a chicken--for 6 minutes (my vision said it was moving.. and I know it was 6 minutes because i was microwaving water for my coffee.), and being stopped dead in my tracks while trying to take my sons clothes out the drier because a sock that was my daughters was in there too...and it was purple...and it doesn't belong with my sons clothes...but where does it go?, and what do I do with it?. response (BLANK STARE).   And the fact that I had a two page document that I needed to make two copies of and I totally screwed up making the copies, running several just totally blank sheets of paper, then trying to put them all back together (just 2 pages mind you!) and I couldn't figure out why I had 3 pages of each thing....duh...original?!? and then were each of those documents were supposed to go...This was an hour long ordeal (for someone whose job depends on being able to organize hundreds of pages of information and get it to differing areas, getting supporting documents for each part...blah blah.. feeling like a looser).  Anyway, when my friend called I was telling her all of this, at first I was halting, stuttering and monotone as usual (sometimes I breathe in when I say a word?!, or hiccup?)..then as I got more frustrated and mad....my speech became clearer and clearer...eventually she said "hey...keep getting mad..you talk better that way".  LOL which made both of us laugh.

Anyway, I thought it was just me.... good to know it happens to other people too.... thank you so much for sharing your life- all of you-it makes it more bearable for us newbies, and less confusing.

 

Oh yes.  and I can sing too...but not talk (very well).  Well...I mean...sing as well as a "shower singer" ever has sung before 🙂  Now I do it more and more because it just feels good to be fluid in SOMETHING!  Walking and talking like a broken robot and having the logical and sequential capacities of a chipmunk on crack the rest of the time....Singing makes me feel alive again.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I havn't had an opportunity to try that one out but I don't think it would work with me. There are times when I've been upset and tried to make myself understood and nothing comes out at all. At the moment I am trying to whistle more to improve my voice. Trouble is remembering to do it! It is a good trick to do because there is nothing wrong with a person walking around whistling, but a person walking around talking to themselves rather suspect!

Deigh

 

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm a redhead....so....when I get mad it might be on a whole other scale then all "you" non-alien people.  LOL  But luckily it doesn't happen often.  I described the two instances in the last 6 weeks and that is more than normal, because I am frustrated to a MUCH LARGER degree daily, post stroke.

But yeah, watch out for fiery red-headed girls when they get mad.... Pele the Volcano goddess couldn't compare!  I especially hate it when people think its cute when I get mad, because I'm little and ornery, as though that makes my point any less valid!!!! 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Tarina...a rangga!

It's interesting what you say about improving when you are cross.

I'm like Deigh,  all downhill if I'm angry or upset. 

Stay Calm are two of my favourite F words!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

×