You are an inspiration Fred! Sorry I don't write more often. Ray is turning 70 next spring and now everything that is wrong with him, they say it's his age not the stroke. He's about where you are now though.
Luckily, a Medicare therapist we had in January, right after Ray got out of rehab for pneumonia with his stomach feeding tube, turned us on to the VA. Ray always belonged but never really used the benefits. Now,they are our saviors; they are so helpful and generous and I will never be able to thank them enough. We went for a new wheelchair yesterday, I was happy just to get a regular one but they were wanting to know why we didn't want a motorized one. It's a strange new world, but the VA definitely takes care of their own.
Hang in there, tough guy ;-) At this point, it's almost six years for us....but who's counting really?