Several years ago..........we're not sure when.........my dad had a stroke. He is 79. He will be 80 in October. My mother is 76. The stroke has affected my dad's left side. He drags his left foot, sort of shuffles along, and his left hand is virtually useless. He has begun to have more and more accidents......In the beginning we were hopeful that he may be a candidate for the shunt operation. We have had to wait a very long time to get in to see the neurologist, and he ordered that a CAT scan be done to check the amount of spinal fluid on his brain. They have seen him a couple of times, but it takes forever to get into see him. My dad has also been waking up at night, turning on all the lights, and at times has walked out the front door. This has been very upsetting for my mother. She has said that she will take care of him as long as she is able. He has tried using a walker, but because his left hand is clenched and swollen, he can only use his right hand. This throws off his balance. He has begun falling more and more and my mother can't help him get up.
Mom found a local support group and has now been able to get some home health people, OT, PT, as well as a nurse that come and work with him a couple of times each week. At first, I was hopeful and I thought we would have seen some progress. I'm afraid to say this to my mom, but I'm beginning to think that this is all too little, too late. She has now put him in Depends at night so she won't be up all night cleaning up after his accidents.
Please help! Any and all suggestions would be welcome. I am very concerned, but I don't know what advice I can offer to her. I do know that she won't be able to care for him much longer. It is really taking a toll on her. I am now concerned for her health.