I have been waiting for this all winter but looking back, where did the time go? I was to have lunch with my Dan on good friday, but for the second time he cancelled on me. This time he had to babysit for a friend. I dont dont know but when I make a commitment nothing short of death or the very least, a hospital stay would stop me from fulfiling that commitment. It seems he makes plans to have lunch with me and if something more interesting comes up or a friend needs him, his plans with me g
Xmas is coming fast. I used to enjoy xmas. I loved shopping for gifts and preparing for visitors. I do miss everything xmas that I complained about at some point. My life with Andre is wonderful and I wouldnt change a thing but I do miss the hussle and bussle of the xmas season. Now xmas is just the way Andre likes it, like any other day. If this is the only thing I have to complain about, I am very lucky. I will get used to it.
A couple of months ago I had my first meeting in 4 years with my youngest son Dan. It went very well and I was so happy to see him again. It broke the ice but all isnt as it was before the family feud. So its baby steps for now. I phoned him a few times to see how things were going with him. We talked bout doing lunch again in the near future. Friday October 16th we were to meet for lunch again. I had an eye appointment near where he lives and I called him and suggested lunch. He agreed
Many of you will remember the family feud I was involved in. My family judged and condemned my fiance before they knew him. Well this has lasted way too long. It will be 4 years in a few months. The day before yesterday my younger son(he will be 28 in a few weeks)called me and invited me to lunch. The date was set for today. I missed him so much and it felt so good to see him again. The meeting went well but it is going to be a while before all the hurtful words that were said during the
I would like to thank all my friends here at StrokeNet for the warm wishes. I so enjoyed sharing my news with you. I called my mom and dad to tell them and I didn't get any more reaction if I told them we were having a sunny day. After 3 and1/2 years you would think they could be happy for us. What are we to do? You can't change these cold people that are my parents, so I am happy to have a new life with my lover.
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People were asking me last week what I was doing for Valentine's day and I told everybody truthfully that I had no plans for valentine's day,it was going to be like any other day for us because if I have learned anything about my lover is that he hates tradition and he doesn't need a special day to do anything. I love holidays, so if I want to have a special day, I have to plan and execute it myself. I made a regular meal with extras. I had candlelight, a table cloth and I had dressed up for
I can't do this like the hairdresser does but here goes. First I comb or brush my hair the way I want it but its still wet at this stage. then I blow dry it, drying only the outer layer, then I put my head down almost between my legs and I brush it from the back to the front and blow dry in front under my hair. Then I straiten up and blow dry every which way under,on top, this gives it volume, when my hair is dry, I brush it the way I want to wear it. This works for me, My hair is not that
place your ear ring in the hole and bend your head in such a way that the ear ring won't fall out. now take the butterfly and without moving your head place it on the ear ring post. I start with my right ear. Do the same with the other ear. to put butterfly on you have to go around your head without moving your head. I hold the butterfly with thumb nd index finger and with the rest of the fingers I hold the earring and the ear so that I don't push the ear ring out.I sit down to do this as f
Start with one shoe and one lace. Set the shoe in front of you on the table with the heel closer to you. make a knot at one end of the lace. pull lace through the eyelets. Notice your lace won't come through the first eyelet because the knot stops it.Pull your lace through all the eyelets going criss cross as you normally did prestroke. You end up with about half the lace after you have pulled your lace through all the eyelets. Now to tie your lace with only a single strand.bend in two wha
Thank you all for your replies. They are much appreciated. I am truly happy about my Dan's engagement. That he is happy is truly the important thing here. Especially that he is on the right road. I was very worried when he was a teeager that he would not amount to much, I am so happy I was wrong. He turned himself around into a responsible adult and I am very proud of him. I sent him a card yesterday, congratulating him on his engagement and for purchasing his first house. I can't wait
My mom regularly gives me news of my children since I don't see them. My youngest Dan, went on a cruise with his dad and thats where he got engaged. It hurts so much to get news like that from a 3rd party. I am so happy for him and my daughter in law to be is such a nice girl. I know she makes my son happy. I wish them happiness always. I hope this family feud is over before they get married. I want to be there when my baby gets married.
Yes, they finally came. Mom called me december 28/08 and told me they wanted to visit that week and asked if they could come the following wednesday not realizing it was New Year's Eve. When I said New Year's Eve, sure we have no plans but right away she said no not new year's Eve then it will have to be after New Year's day. She called back yesterday and asked if they could come the next day, saturday Jan.3.
Okay that was today, they finally came. Yesterday I was a bit nervous about
I called my mother again today and guess what now its next week again. I just don't care anymore. In a way I hope they don't come because when they finally do come, I am afraid I won't be a very gracious host. My son hasn't called yet either. What would you give me for a family like that? I have had it with them. I am no longer calling either, if they come they come if not, their loss.
Last week, my mother had said they (my dad and her) were planning to visit this week. Yesterday, saturday I had not heard from her and she had said she would give me 2 days before her visit. I wanted to know what was going on, if they had changed their minds or what so I called her. She is very tired with all the running around they have to do for the holidays and she told me they would not come until the week between xmas and new year's. I know she gets tired but who doesn't. I was disappoi
My mom called today to tell me they were coming for a visit. Its been almost 3 years since I've seen them and they only live about an hour away.I am happy they are coming but a bit scared about how Andre will take this. When I told him he seemed happy for me but I know he is unsure how its going to be as I am. He is very protective of me and Iam sure he is leery of people who have hurt me. My mom also told me my son, Dan, the younger of my 2 sons, told her he wants this feud over with and he
Yesterday I had my 4th theme chat. I'm getting more people which is encouraging. I think it is going well. So far the themes are interesting ones. The chats are not really what I thought they would be. I thought one person at a time would give an opinion , an anecdote or a question but it seems everyone types at the same time and you can usually detect at least 3 conversations going at the same time which can get pretty confusing. I would love to hear comments from other hosts who have hos
Today was my first chat as host. The last few weeks I practiced by being more active in the chatroom. I was greeting everyone, participating more in the conversations then saying so long after chats. I must have done something right because today's chat was a breeze. Ok so we were only three, but still, it went well. I would like to thank Kimmie and Kathy for coming to my first chat. So,today I broke the ice, I am going to like this hosting business. Come one, come all, I wil be hosting e
Over the years I have found a few household tricks to help me . At home I have a lot of gadgets but when I am visiting I don't usually bring my gadgets with me unless I know I will be cooking.
1. Peeling potatoes: Cut your potato in half and set the flat side down on table or counter. Start peeling the side facing you and turn potato as needed until all sides are peeled
2. buttering a slice of bread or toast: Take a clean dish towel and sprinkle with water. Place the wet side
1. heavy winds
2. thunder
3. car crash
4. yelling and arguing
5. angry voices
6. dentist drill
7. talking when I am trying to listen to a movie at the cinema
8. somebody scratching a black board
9. someone crying
10. sirens
1. laughter
2. a baby cooing
3. music
4. singing, humming
5. I Love you
6. waves when they hit the beach
7. the coffeemaker in the morning
8. my cats purring
9. a waterfall
10. birds singing
Dysthymia: is a mood disorder that falls within the depression spectrum. It is considered a chronic depression, but with less severity than a major depression.
I was diagnosed with this disorder in 2006, 22 years after my stroke. Apparantly I had been suffering from dysthymia ever since my stroke in 1984. At the time of my stroke I saw a psychologist at the rehab hospital. Shouldn't she have seen I was suffering from depression. I think she was more worried about my family. Poor them,
I used to have a strong character, I didn't lt anyone step on my toes. Since my stroke though I was easily intimidated. I felt so alone, anybody who had kind words for me I would immediately become that person's slave (sort of) They could ask anthing of me and I would go out of my way to do what they asked. To be their friend, they didn't even have to ask, I was there trying to be helpful, to be the friend that I would have loved to have, the friend I needed.Because of that I let a lot of p
I had been in the rehab hospital 3 1/2 months and I wanted to go home big time. In order to have permission to go home there were conditions I had to adhere to. One, we had to have a meeting which included my parents, my brother and sister AND my ex. I was ok with my family being there but my ex? we had been seperated for 2 years and had a legal seperation so why did they want him there? I apparently did not have a say in the matter. 2nd condition I had to go live with my parents, give up m
My stroke was in March/84. I was in the hospital until june/84. The following winter, I was back at work and still living with my parents. Some people at work were planning an evening ski trip and since I had been a skier pre stroke I wanted to try again. I told my parents this over dinner and they did not take it well. My parents are pessimists and could not fathom me going skiing with one side of me paralyzed. That evening, I went to the basement and took out my ski boots. I trid to pu
My parents felt they had to take me out of the hospital every weekend because most of the patients were much older than I and my mother thought it would be aweful for me to stay there when I didn't have any therapy. My parents went to the cottage every weekend and felt guilty about going because they wouldn't be there to visit me so the next best thing was to take me with them and that gave everybody a break. I was very sad at not seing my kids very often. My parents picked them up once in a w
