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do i tell my professional association about what happened?


FrederickRico

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Wow, after everything that has happened with the stroke and losing my job because I cant do the "math", now I get an email from someone who has learned that I am not working and wants to hire me. How wonderful (get the sarcasm) this man wants who I used to be. I told my wife about it and she is very worried that the same thing will happen, that i get the job and then will lose it because I cant do the calculations or will mess up the numbers again. What do I do at this point? Do I make it known to my professional colleauges that the extent of the stroke was more than I originallythought?

 

any thoughts?

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Dear Fredrick,

 

I would be open and honest with him as I could be! I would not try to decevie him. You have a condition and you have to be honested and open with him.

You'll be surprissed how people react to you. Homesty is the best thing to be!

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Fred:

 

I think its better to let him to know ahead of time than leaving bad taste in every one's mouth & spoils the relationships.

 

Asha

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this person might very well be aware of your situation and wish to use you for other skills you have ...... but for sure be honest and upfront about it... as you know there is no hiding it. nancyl

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Yes sir, my thoughts are if he contacted you, tell him the facts (stroke) then let him figure out what you can or can not do in his employment. You told him or he already knows from where you worked or from others telling YOUR BUSINESS what the reason you are no longer there!! Should he hire you then do all you can in the job at hand to your best ability. He is the Boss and Judge of what you do and if it doesn't meet the standards he will inform you! At least you will have tried your best under your conditions! That's my thought business is business!

Fred!

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You need to look at the requirements of the job - physical, mental and determine if you can do them, possibly ask for a break in period working 4 hour days to see if you can handle it. If SSDI is involved thats another consideration.

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I went back to work after the stoke -- for someone for whom I had worked 10 years before the stroke. He remembered me as this wonderful talented bookkeeper, and was thrilled to get me back again. Wrong. I knew that I was slower because I cannot move as quickly and dexterously, AND with the memory loss, my thinking skills are no where near as good as they were. BUT, I needed a job, and having applied for several other jobs and not even received the "thank you but" letters, I thought this might just be my chance to get back into the workforce, by doing a job that I had done for 15 years before the stroke.I did not like the job, and had worked hard to escape that particular career before the stroke, but anything is better than just sitting around and moping at home, so I went back to work. I proved that I am no longer a capable and competent employee, and after four weeks he eventually had to fire me, he showing no end of embarrassment when he did so. So, with that, I lost a great reference, and the high regard that he once had for me. Sure the income over the time was a great bonus, but, emotionally, I lost more than I earned, both in friendship, and self esteem.

I found the fatigue was the hardest thing to beat. I suspect that he one day found me asleep at my desk. Trying to do a good job whilst you are using all your conscious mind to push back fatigue makes it very difficult to work effectively

So think long and hard about going back into a job where you once excelled. And yes, do tell those who might offer you employment about your situation, though it would be pretty unlikely that they do not already know, someone's bad luck story gets around very quickly.

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Maree,

 

I appreciate you sharing your experiences with me, it gave me alot of insight. The latest update on all that is that when I had a conversation with the gentlemand and went into honest detail of my deficiencies, it was pretty much "thanks for your honesty, dont call us, we will call you". It was a nice fantasy while it lasted. I am heading full steam into learning what my new life is going to be and appreciate more the blessings I have. I wont lie, this is hard, very hard but its the path I need to take.

 

thanks again

 

rico

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