I have very similar thorns in my side. I understand you anger,frustration and sadness.

Don't get rid of that soapbox just yet...ya never know when it might come in handy!

You hit the nail on the head with a sludge hammer "Stroke Recovery depends greatly on attitude and motivation for continued recovery the rest of our lives"! Should we give up/out or let go then so does our recovery. After all the brain cells died in many areas of that part of the brain when the blood stopped flowing. We can keep ourselves limber and somewhat fit and strong with exercises, stretches and mind over matter in a desire to still live a healthy life with our loved ones!

That's my idea of living with a stroke! I got loved ones I'm not ready to leave just yet! I never spent money I couldn't see it helping me recover except therapy my insurance pays for! I've never even had botox treatments! I think I depend on God more than anything else and it's been 8 years now recovering! I got my cane, my scooter and I drive my car so I'm OK with what I got I can walk into church but need a little help to get up off the pews but I can walk back out on my own get in my vehicle and drive back home! Sometimes I even stop by Sam's club to pick up items for my wife so I use my scooter! For me life is good no complaints I'm alive!

That's my rant too!

I got a portable soapbox at hand most of the time.

leese :

that's what I am afraid of after my stroke that I have my acceptance so strong that I don't want to keep on trying out some unproven therapies which could impact me negatively, I guess that means I m okay with my post stroke life & don't want to jeorpadize my new normal.

Asha

Leese: there is just so much out there right now and all internet available. No research or proven results. I see ads daily on all this stuff.

As frustrating as this is, acceptance is the key. Until we get there, no voice of reason is heeded. You can only pray that no one is hurt. Be a good friend, listen, advise. Best you can do. There will always be someone out there toting their wares for money, without regard for others. One person at a time. And bless you for being there for her, because when she crashes, she will need you. Debbie

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Leese,

It's really more about control. If we look for blame for what happened to us and feel it could have been prevented had we known, we blame ourselves. We then continue to look for ways to undo what has happened with often methods that make as little sense as the event itself, but still allowing for a sense of control over our destiny. ~ This is most often felt by those who feel cheated because they believe they didn't deserve what happened.

Of on the other hand, when we accept that things just happen and we don't control whether or not they do based on if we deserved it, we're free to be happy, even disabled by stroke.

We then have the freedom and positive attitude to work to move forward in recovery and life instead of remaining stuck in a dead end self-pity place going nowhere.

It will take time, but she'll eventually learn that there's nothing she can do to undo it. Maybe start by helping her see strokes just happen and devoting time to undoing it is just giving up more of her life to it.

Thanks for kicking your soapbox in my direction.

(((((hugs))))))

Maria

Maria, I'll have to think about what you've said. Strokes aside, Some folks are always looking for the quick fix. It's why Benny Hinn and psychic surgeons stay in business.Water and shark cartilage cures for cancer. Consistent gullibility and lack of applied critical thinking in some ways. I'll definitely reflect on the control and blame idea. Thank you.No one should feel to blame or deserving of any of this, but society naturally leads us to feel we are. But that's another blog entry. : )

Lisa