Home Care Team
I feel like the Home Care Team has become the Home Invasion Team. They are passing each other in the doorway coming and going. I have been told by most of them to look into bringing in more people. I told them that there have been more people in this house in the past 2 weeks than in the past 20 years.
Yesterday Mom had what I would call a good session with the Speech Therapist, but it became emotional when Mom started talking about her brothers and sisters and she started crying. It took a lot out of her and she didn't feel like doing anything after that. Then the Physical Therapist came in and wanted Mom to start doing exercises which she didn't feel like doing. The PT got frustrated because Mom couldn't just turn off her emotions from the previous session and work with her. She is a sensitive 88 year old woman, not a machine that can be turned on and off. The PT spent the rest of the time acting like a bull in a china shop. I should have told her to leave, but I am too nice.
The Team also doesn't seem to want to understand that Mom had conditions before the stroke. She has had arthritis most of her life, she had a mastectomy in 2011, and a minor stroke in April. Much of the PT she would have had trouble doing pre-stroke because of the arthritis.
They give me praise for being an excellent caregiver, but then tell me that I should hire people to be with Mom so I can go and do whatever it is they think I should be doing instead of caring for Mom. They want to micro-manage my life. My life was crazy for years tending to Mom's needs, but no one cared then. Now that this is my priority, they want to tell me what to do. I think I should be the one who decides what I should do and when I should do it.
John
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