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Something New For Bob


SandyCaregiver

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It's been awhile since I've blogged. I had a bad problem with my hip, in the front where it hooks on to your body, on the side excrutiating painful and low disk, sending sciatica down my leg. So, it's been a lot of me dragging my leg like the mummy and screaming here and there when I drug it wrong. I found some meds that helped, and some days I do better, other days revert back to screaming and dragging... BUT, here's the latest good news!

 

I will say that when I bought my snapper rider the year after his stroke, I chose it because it had a wheel, and I wondered if one day he could do it. There is another zero turn kind that has 2 handles, takes 2 hands to turn, but if you only turn one direction... could work - don't know enough about them really.

 

We had talked about whether Bob would be able to drive the ride on mower AT ALL, and finally yesterday, while a friend was here, I left the last few streaks in the middle of the yard and me & Fred worked to get Bob on the mower. We both ran on both sides to spot him. It went really well, most of it. There was that frantic moment when Fred motioned Bob to drive the thing between the cars and into the garage when I thought my head would explode. I guess this shows that I did not plan well enough to explain to Fred before we started, how it would end, so he had no idea how the end would conclude. So, that makes it my fault. He really has no idea how incredible it was that he didn't tear off the side of my suv, since he's blind on that side. So, I've learned something and will pass it on PAY ATTENTION! If you get help with something, make sure they know exactly what the plan is to do, and how it will finish, so they don't improvise, unexpectedly! :)

 

I don't have to tell anyone here how excellerated Bob felt from his short ride on the mower doing man-work! He knows that he will never turn to the right, his blind side, and he knows he will never mow graded areas, but stick to flat. But the prospect of doing this is making him very happy. There will be many practices of how to get on and off with the most care and safety, and practicing with the brake and of course, only in speed 1, but I can see him being able to do some of the mowing :)

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What a great moment, I know how excited Bob would be to do something that seemed NORMAL in his world view.  Good for you and Fred for helping him on, for giving instructions and then trusting your instincts and allowing it to happen.  I did wince at the vision of him driving it between two cars though, that could have been a recipe for disaster for sure.

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Sue, that horror was followed by him approaching the garage, which has a space just big enough for me to drive it in and hop off, climbing over it.   I can't believe Fred thought that was a possibility - never assume others 'get it' always make sure of every move!    I was screaming NO, NO, NO, STOP STOP STOP!!!   and Fred saw the error or it all and motioned him to the side yard.    I still can't believe nothing horrible happened, but I learned a lot about my role in letting others help me, no part not explained and covered how it will play out!

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You go Bob!

 

Sandy, that is also the advantage of having someone else help out and team up. Sometimes I think we caregivers don't give our hubbies enough credit. Sure, it could have not ended well, but it did! And in time, Bob just may get it. Actually you are really lucky that Bob didn't rev it - LOL.

 

But, I certainly understand and it is over and Bob is feeling good!!!

 

Thank you for sharing. Moreso thank you for giving Bob the try! You Rock. Debbie

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Sandy :

 

thats amazing. you don't realize how much being able to do things fo family which means one less work your loving spouse builds so much self esteem  & ofcourse you feel grateful to be alive & not a burden on your loved ones. So allow your survivors to do more for home to make them feel useful again in grand scheme of life.

 

Asha

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Sandy, you are so brave to have Bob try this.  I'm glad it turned out well and made him proud.  Larry has trouble just navigating one of those electric power chairs in the stores. 

 

Best to you and Bob's continued progress.

 

Julie

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His mowing will likely not save you much time but will make his life so much more meaningful to him. Great for him that you wnt to the effort, he will be much better for it.

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