oh man Sarah :

hope his wife's parents can help them out till you get your caregiver back so that you can eventually help them out . Change is scary thing, but sometime really amazing thing comes out of drastic change in your life, I am so happy for your son, he got better opportunity & hopefully his wife will feel better soon too.

Asha

Asha,  Her mother is in S. Dakota and just had back surgery, so not able to travel.  

Sarah

Sarah, as you and I know we cannot always be there to help our kids. The priority is  different when you are a caregiver. You want to be the one they can rely on but your circumstances make it impossible. I hope you can come to terms with that. You are a good wife and mother and a good friend to many. (((hugs))).

Sarah you would love to be there and offer physical support, but it is not possible so send your love and best wishes and know that they know you would do more.  But right now if you tried to go you would be more burden than help so don't beat yourself up.

A mothers job is never done and worrying shows how much of a good parent you are 🙂

Just a quick update:   Daughter-in-law is back in surgery again this morning - after a week in hospital and trying to recover from surgery to remove part of colon and surrounding lymph nodes, she had rough time. ...  Couldn't pass solids through the intestines - and after x-rays showed twisting and blockage they decided to go in again and try to clear the blockage.   She will be in surgery for several hours and we won't know more for at least 4 hours.   Prayers still welcome!

Thanks,

Sarah

Prayers coming your way.

Daughter in law had rough night after 2nd surgery (to remove blockage), and they moved her to ICU this morning after blood pressure shot up.   She's heavily sedated and on IV with antibiotics and fluids and fighting septic shock.   Son is really worried.   Wish I could get away but not possible right now.   Will update if anything changes!

Sarah

Sarah, it is really hard when you want to do something but can't because you are a caregiver. I have been in those circumstances too. Just keep in touch and support them both as much as you can from a distance.

Prayers

Sending prayers for a miracle and comfort for you. It is hard to be at a distance during illness. Your compassion shines through to son now. Be at ease that your Gary needs you more now and be assured that son has support where he is. While it is not a mothers touch he still knows you support him and DIL right now.

prayers for your son & daughter in law Sarah, I know it is so hard not being with our kids when they need us most but God will provide them support through good network of doctors, nurses & friends & other family members.

we all are paying for your son's family too

Asha

Oh Sarah, what a worrying time for you.

Much love and many prayers for the family.