I'm so sorry for Dan's gastro issues and glad he is on the mend.  Comparing strokes amongst others who had better outcomes is only human and we all do it but towards the end you said, "I really shouldn't complain - we have had many great things happen in the decade since Dans stroke. Many advantages others don't have , and I am grateful" and that is it. 💓

Nancy, in the last nine years since Ray died I have gone over and over what I could have done differently, what we could have done to prevent his stroke etc. But every time I come back to what I would have lost I had never met the people who have been so important in my life since then yourself included.Then I come to the conclusion that life is how it is meant to be

Truth - to both of you who responded. Dan is feeling better, sadly we missed our newest granddaughters first birthday - but via face time I got to be included and watch the party for a bit.  So all was not lost this past weekend - and we didn't have to drive 4 hours ( one way) to be part of it. I've learned through the years don't push Dan it never ends well. And I have learned -- if you have no bad in your life- then you really have no good either........

Very true Nancy, you have to keep smiling the alternative is too hard to live with. Enjoy what you have and try not to dwell on the might have beens. Glad Dan is feeling better, tummy bugs are no fun when you can't run easily (they aren't much fun when you can either 🙂 )